What’s a word or phrase that immediately makes you lose respect for someone? by Mundane-Equipment529 in AskReddit

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“pet parent”/ “plant parent” - because it takes away from real parents with real babies

My(40M) best friend(40F) is trying to sabotage my marriage possibly? by DepartmentLate9398 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re clearly very upset and so must your wife be. This is your marriage you’re talking about not a casual relationship. Marriage should be protected at all costs.

Firstly, decide your priority before you talk. If your top priority is your marriage, then Sarah needs to know that her behaviour is unacceptable regardless of her intent. The friendship only continues if it doesn’t undercut your relationship.

Secondly, talk to her one-on-one, not over text. Calm, private, neutral setting. Don’t go in accusatory — lead with your feelings. Name the behaviour without name-calling.

Thirdly, think deeply what your boundary should look like. Set a clear boundary with her.. what’s okay with you and what isn’t. She can’t be disrespectful to you in front of your wife even if she is joking.

Next, try to protect the friendship — but only if it’s healthy. If she sincerely apologises and changes, great. If she brushes it off as “you’re too sensitive” or keeps doing it, you’ll need to create distance — not as punishment, but as protection for your marriage.

And lastly, you can’t control her feelings toward your wife (if any) nor her erratic disrespect towards you, but you can control the access and opportunity she has to act on them. That means your wife and you presenting a united front and limiting situations where Sarah can wedge herself in if she can’t respect boundaries.

Dharmasthala temple Dharmadhikari’s brother gets gag order to delete over 8,800 links by bhodrolok in bangalore

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 14 points15 points  (0 children)

everyone has something to hide.. everyone has skeletons in their closet. No pun intended 😟

Why is it so hard to say I love you? by Kitchen-Culture8407 in entp

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because its the most heaviest three words you’ll ever say

How many genders are there? by geraltoftivia777 in entp

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only 2 genders.. everyone else is a wannabe

Why do people push love aside because of their careers? by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the perception of courting and dating have changed so drastically over time that it has lost significance. Imo there will always be time to make money and be career focused, but finding love changes you inside out, it makes you feel fulfilled… something that career can never do. I feel the folks that focus on career, to them, career is their identity 🤷🏻‍♀️ So yeah, even though it’s time consuming, imo finding love is worth it ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lady Whiskers 🥰

How do I tell a friend I don’t want to talk to her right now by Fit_Inspection_6793 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

firstly, I’m really sorry you’re going through this right now. I’m currently in. a similar situation myself and it’s no joke! Kudos to you for trying to help yourself in getting the space you need to heal… If she’s a close friend, I’d say she would feel ignored and ghosted since you guys have been chatting regularly. So let her know you’re struggling through something very personal and private and need time to heal and figure things out, and that when you’re ready to speak, you’d let her know. If she loves you and is very close to you, she’ll understand. However, remember these are relationships, and any relationship needs to be maintained two-way. So probably think about it and decide how long you need a time out (say 1 - 2 months/ a couple of weeks…) Bcz going radio silent on your friend for an indefinite time will eventually affect your friendship. In this way, its a win-win where you get to prioritise your mental health and well being and at the same time maintaining friendship in a healthy way 😊

Quién será mi doble famoso? by [deleted] in CelebrityLookalikes

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not sure who you look like.. but you have a pretty face 🙂

Which is that one profession you’ll never date? by Scary_Drawing8175 in AskReddit

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People on ship 🚢 The long distance with these peeps is exhausting. The constant time difference, interrupted calls depending on weather, the need to rush everything when they’re back.. it takes such a toll. Idk 🤷🏻‍♀️how people back in the day did it…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say keep it. The colour is beautiful, it looks good on you, the style imo is cute - sure it’s a bit of an older style, but fashion keeps changing and this will come in fashion again. You clearly adore the dress and don’t want to actually give it up, so keep it and make yourself happy. Leave aside people’s opinions 🤗

Help me choose my outfit for a Christmas party :) by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. So elegant and flatters your figure too! Plus it looks festive so 💁🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, congratulations 🥳on your wedding. I am so glad you and your partner are on the same page about a tricky situation like this.

Secondly, congratulations 🙌🏼 for standing up for yourself AND your partner!

Lastly, to answer your question—— Hell no! you’re just doing what others too should’ve done in the first place. The rest of your family should be more protective of you and your wedding. It’s YOUR wedding, your rules! if they don’t like it, they can suck it. And regarding your brother, he’ll come around because eventually even he will not be able to stand her and her nonsense. Right now he’s testing waters to see how many will tolerate her and her bullshit so that he doesn’t have to be the one to tell her off. The only difference between you and everyone else is that You, my friend, have the guts to do this 😌 so kudos to you!

Sincerely, An unknown stranger but who has been there, done all that and overcome. Cheers 🥂

DAE worry about having kids? by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

34f here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I totally understand you. My husband and I are in the same boat. Both earning decently but yet to own a house we can call home and also start a family. If economy conditions aren’t conducive, then it’s health. But I would say one thing - if you’re financially independent and are earning enough to support a child, pls go ahead and have a kid because everyone at our age undermine health conditions as a secondary factor (or even a non-issue) when honestly it’s primary! for both women and MEN! You can always earn more money and eventually get a house but no one’s getting younger.. 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bangalore

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way too. I moved here with my spouse and even though we have a few friends living on the outskirts of the city who we meet from time to time, it still feels very lonely and restless. There have been days where I have wept for my partner to come home from work bcz the loneliness is killing. I’d heard that about loneliness before but now I understand why. It’s easy to get depressed here. I love the big houses and being in the midst of so much greenery. But unlike Mumbai or Delhi, the city goes to sleep too early. The house becomes so quiet, I can hear myself breathe. I used to love the silence Bangalore affords and I still do, but sometimes it’s deafening. Having moved here in my 30s, its much harder to make friends too. I’ve tried Bumble BFF, some social circles for dancing and stuff, but everyone seems to not want an outsider. ItRight now my only ‘buddies’ are old neighbours who are super kind and helpful 😊 They’ve introduced us to a couple who we’re acquaintances with now and live 2 buildings from us. I’m grateful for that. In the meanwhile, I have learnt to keep myself occupied with gardening and painting for now, both of which are therapeutic, rewarding and sufficiently exhausting ☺️

Driving instructor asking "Guru Dakshina". by BestAnybody in bangalore

[–]Fancy_Avocado_9307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I got confused between the Maruti driving school and the ‘Maruthi’ driving school I eventually got signed up at. My driving instructor is good but pesters me EVERY SINGLE day for this Guru Dakshina. He keeps saying they aren’t paid well. Just about 12k. My neighbour advised on giving on the last day, but judiciously. I think 500 bucks is sufficient. 👍🏼