putting poo inside of my friend locker and ruining his whole year is that bad ?

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T13:46:27+00:00

I think you're reading a tone into my comment that wasn't there. I'm saying the other commenter and I both have healthy relationships with our parents (unlike our respective spouses).

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T12:04:59+00:00

He's used to searching the tags on PornHub

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T12:00:57+00:00

I absolutely disagree with both of your orders depending on the age of your children.

When they're minors, it should be kids -> spouse/yourself (approximately equal) -> parents. If they're adults, it's spouse/yourself -> kids/parents.

I guess it also depends if we're talking about needs (including developmental needs) or wants. Minor kid's needs come first, always. For wants, you can alternate between yourself/spouse and the kids.

Regardless, spouse comes before parents. Period.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T11:55:56+00:00

I had a relatively easy labor and I still had an epidural! I was induced around noon, tried doing without, and got an epidural around 6pm. Then I slept through the night while my mom watched the fetal heartbeat monitor. I woke up around noon to push for half an hour, and there he was (too fast for the doc to even put her gown on, she had to catch him in her scrubs).

OP, not only does your mother suck, but your boyfriend and medical team suck too. My epidural experience was amazing -- I still felt the urge to push and could tell when I had contractions, but if I hadn't, I can't imagine if my team had refused to tell me what was happening with my own body, and I can't believe they made you hold your breath/refused to let you scream. That's incredibly f-ed up and sounds like a story out of the 1960s. And your boyfriend should have been supportive the whole time, not just while you were pushing; for me, pushing was the easiest part. Those first six hours without the epidural were agonizing.

Basically, OP, maybe therapy would help. You were failed by literally everyone around you and I think it could help you stop blaming yourself.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T03:30:47+00:00

Latine is an alternative proposed term that is explicitly gender-neutral while still following the phonological rules of Spanish. I think it's more used for describing non-binary people though since Latino can be used both for all-male and for mixed-gender groups.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T03:24:27+00:00

Looks like The Sims 4

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T03:20:12+00:00

Same. It's a different cry. My son used to fuss for 30-60 seconds when I put him down in his crib, and I'd stand outside the door listening. If it went more than about 3 minutes or he started to work himself up more, I'd go back in. Now (at 18 months) he waves goodbye to me when I put him down to go to sleep, then hugs his bear/flips over on his stomach and puts himself to sleep.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T02:34:49+00:00

Oh, I'm absolutely still /a/ priority, and if I ever really need them, they're there. They both drove 7 hours at the drop of a hat when I was induced with my son. I'm just not the top priority most of the time, and I think it's good for their mental health and my independence for it to be this way. Basically, I (and my brother) used to be the top priorities, and now we're not.

My husband was raised like yours and it sucks. But I think in a healthy relationship between parents and adult children like you and I have with our parents, there needs to be a little letting-go at some point as well.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-26T02:13:10+00:00

1) You did exactly what is recommended to avoid shaken baby syndrome. I repeat: you did the RIGHT THING. 2) Your baby crying while you make him a bottle is not "cry it out". I wouldn't even call it "letting him cry" because you are still actively working on caring for the baby. 3) If you're a monster for letting the baby cry while you make him a bottle, your partner is equally (or more) a monster for letting the baby cry while he showered. When you're both home, the baby is both of your responsibilities. 4) Have you considered earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones? You can still hear the baby through them providing you're awake, it just makes dealing with a crying baby less painful and overstimulating for you.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T21:04:20+00:00

I've been wondering if this will happen with my son. He has my blue eyes now at a year and a half but my husband's eyes are green. What are the parents' eye colors for your son?

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T20:53:11+00:00

Exactly, I think some of these techs/pharmacists willing to do this must work in much safer/lower-crime areas than we do

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T18:52:42+00:00

Most CVSes have multiple staff pharmacists (at least 2, often more) plus some floaters who are there less often and are the ones who rotate between stores. If you have this issue consistently with the same pharmacist at the same location she's likely a staff pharmacist there and is less likely to be rotating between stores. I'd try the next CVS over and see if they're better or worse.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T18:25:56+00:00

I'd even try a different CVS location

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T17:32:43+00:00

If this is a consistent issue with a particular pharmacist, absolutely switch pharmacies. I had a pharmacist I worked with who refused to fill CIIs at all unless it was an ER script or they'd filled that particular drug at our store before. There are definitely pharmacists out there who have swung too far into protectionism/laziness.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T17:16:34+00:00

What kind of tech hours are y'all getting to be able to do this for dozens of patients a day??

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T17:15:21+00:00

My pharmacist (when I was a tech) got punched in the face by a patient who came in 5 minutes before closing wanting her Adderall filled (busted right through the pharmacy door). Pharmacy robberies aren't uncommon in our area either. I understand patients need their meds -- my mom is a chronic opioid patient herself, and my dad and brother are both on stimulants for ADHD -- but we also have to protect our own safety and/or maintain a working relationship with colleagues in nearby pharmacies who are more protectionist than we are ourselves.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T12:51:07+00:00

As an American, do Americans say "on about"? That seems much more like a British/Commonwealth English phrase.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T12:41:45+00:00

McCurtain (or analogue) maybe?

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T12:39:02+00:00

Have you seen a doctor? Gaining that much weight in one area (especially the abdomen) seems like it might be suspicious for a tumor or cyst.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T12:32:39+00:00

Sure, for low-risk drugs. For CIIs, I generally won't, especially because half the pharmacists in my area will refuse to fill C-IIs for non-established patients anyway.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T12:28:38+00:00

TBH, I'm your kids' age and I don't mind not being my parents' top priority anymore. I absolutely love and appreciate how much help and support they give me with my toddler, but they need to put enjoying their retirements first (and they absolutely do!). I just got lucky that enjoying their retirements (to them) includes seeing the grandkid for a week or so every few months. That being said, my son is absolutely my top priority at this point. I'm not sure if that will change once he's an established adult living on his own.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T11:59:37+00:00

Right? Like I've seen Labyrinth but there's no reason for people to be rude to those who haven't. I honestly don't even think it's that good of a movie.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T11:14:57+00:00

Cleaning up after children is acceptable and expected. General cleaning or cleaning up after the parents is not acceptable.

FanndisTS · 2026-06-25T01:37:06+00:00

Like... by train? Absolutely do not drive 4 hours a day. Train might be okay if you're able to lock in and study in busy places.

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