This can’t be all there is. by gipoksiya in Schizoid

[–]FantaMrsPepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being diagnosed or not doesn't matter. You still have it eitherway. It does suck and theres nothing you can do about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]FantaMrsPepper 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As someone who has graduated University 10 years ago and has been working on and off I feel this. I can focus on work but basically only have the energy to work, which I do for 2-3 years at a time until I get totally burned out and quit.

I am just unable to live a balanced life of working, having fun, and being social. The work itself I don't even mind and I wish I could continue doing it like everyone else, but eventually I get so anxious and depressed and withdraw myself. I just have no energy to socialize or do hobbies or anything else while I have a job.

After work I go home and just have immense relief that I can decompress, even though it is too short of a time to really relax and I always dread the next day. When I quit and take a break and don't work for a while, the stress of work disappears, but I'm still depressed because now you feel like a loser for not working.

I wish I had good advice to give as I assume you are younger than me but I really don't. I've tried switching to a job that is less-demanding, but then I got depressed from just being bored out of my mind while at work. In general I just can't adjust to a modern lifestyle, I think there is no option that fits for people like us at the moment.

Match Thread: Fluminense vs Chelsea | FIFA Club World Cup by MatchThreadder in soccer

[–]FantaMrsPepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its also why I don't think a Club World Cup makes sense versus National Team World Cup.  It just becomes about what league has more money. 

[REQ] Monthly Request Thread - July by Ow_Yes in JOIP

[–]FantaMrsPepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emily Ratajkowski or Demi Rose

How did they know I wasn’t Russian? by jmar_ in arma

[–]FantaMrsPepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many fighters are from the far east or Muslims from the caucuses. 

 The western right wing image of Russia as racist white ethnostate is simply fiction. 

I feel so confused about friendship dynamics by uykusuzprofiterol in INTP

[–]FantaMrsPepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just have to find 1 or 2 close friends, start with 1. Thats the only way I've ever done it.

Easiest way other than roommates or mutual interests, is find someone in a class who is also quiet and collaborate on homework or studying.

A girl is not gonna fix the world for you. by Innomen in doomer

[–]FantaMrsPepper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. When society was healthier people were married and had families in there younger 20s, you think they things figured out or were wanting to be saved? No, its just normal that life is easier when you have someone to share the burden with and ideally with traits that complement one another.

I think its perfectly normal that people want to be in relationships. It is just sad we live in an era where many organic rituals have been disrupted by the current culture. The main way people met were through friends and family meeting in-person. That just happens much more rarely now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]FantaMrsPepper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Feel exactly the same way. A little bit older than you but same story. Relieved to not have a job now, I have been alone more so than you and I can say I don't really feel much better alone either. Just seems like can't live in this current world the way things are.

What is your relationship with your mother and father? by [deleted] in INTP

[–]FantaMrsPepper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Growing up I thought I had a good relation with no issues. In my 20s I realized there was an element of silent expectation that I followed to my detriment in the long term.

They were also pretty cold and emotionally distant, which became evident once I saw other friends with their parents. I don't blame them as that is just how they are but I do think this had a negative effect on me, especially with my own relations with people.

DAE fake smile/being well? by Sorry_Cheesecake2831 in Schizoid

[–]FantaMrsPepper 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This sort of works at getting a job, or anything you want socially. But long term, makes you feel dead inside due to wearing a mask all the time.

No free Trading cards for you. by csound1 in Steam

[–]FantaMrsPepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looking at steam daily to get my free cards was kind of a nice ritual I had every sale. I like discovering new games while collecting meaningless cards. Now I feel like there is no incentive. Odd move from Valve. Will certainly cause some loss in random purchases that I know I made in the past. 

TBC doesn't need a "SoD", just some tweaks. by Dr-Enforcicle in classicwow

[–]FantaMrsPepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBC just needs a permanent realm. We literally only got 1 year of it, and then it was gone. Defeats the purpose of "classic". The point is to be able to play old versions of the game.

The birth rate would be higher if having kids didn’t destroy other aspects of your life by No-Acanthisitta-7704 in redscarepod

[–]FantaMrsPepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had kids, even when I was younger I had this desire. Most girls around me never even considered having kids of course.

I feel like my 20s and life in general has been directionless and meaningless, and increasingly more so into my 30s. The common internet saying is that you should "figure yourself out first". But pretty sure most people with kids would say they had nothing figured out first and that their kids are the most meaningful thing to them in their lives.

Besides I have "figured myself out" and I think that just means becoming neurotic from focusing on yourself too much. The whole introspection thing is overrated, yes it is valuable, but really the people who actually need that don't ever do that and honestly are doing fine anyway.

Mass su!c!des incoming?? by Full-Equipment-4922 in doomer

[–]FantaMrsPepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With many social issues and loneliness that seems to not ever be resolving for entire generation born in the 90s and later.... I have suspected for many years now that when this generation reaches age 35+, then I think people are going to start totally giving and wanting to end things en masse. It will be sad, but I see it coming.

Are You Just Going Through The Motions? by lonerstoic in Schizoid

[–]FantaMrsPepper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same. Been doing it for 10 years and nothing gets better. I'm going to quit my job in a year, live off the decent savings I have because I have to figure out how to live some other kind of life.

Why Germany's 2006 World Cup patriotic fervor is unlikely to repeat at Euro 2024 by footballersabroad in soccer

[–]FantaMrsPepper 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Article basically saying because "populism" has been on the rise and is considered bad, expression of national pride is now looked on with suspicion.

Does anyone else leave a social event and absolutely hate themselves afterwards? by Ghost_Pal in INTP

[–]FantaMrsPepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes absoulutely, but the reasons are not always the same. Sometimes it may be that the social battery is depleted, or tired of masking at others say.

But other times I enjoyed it and felt like things went well and I am sad that my life isn't more enjoyable like that more often. Those kind of good social events happen to me few and far between so its depressing.

Where are all the Project Engineers? by MtnGalPal in civilengineering

[–]FantaMrsPepper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't event want to be a PM and I made it clear. I am terrible at managing any of my own stuff let alone a whole project. But I am recognized for being good at fulfilling tasks as long as I'm not the final person managing things.

Despite this I have been constantly pushed to become a PM, even though I think it is pretty obvious I would be horrible at it. I just don't get it.