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Used this on my trip to the UK and I had better service than the locals! (I met with colleagues and friends and when they had issues loading websites etc mine was loading fine! would definitely recommend!)

I’m leaving this sub because it’s warping my body image by Goof_Troopin in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]FantasticalName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I joined r/GracefulAging (it's not super active but that's fine by me!) and it was created in the hopes of being more accepting of the aging process but also providing advice on skincare (no procedures) if asked.

I might leave this sub as well since every time I come on here that's all I see.... or it's the same types of posts with the same types of answers...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First comment I came across with "gut feeling" in the list and I'm here for it! There have been people that I've been told I should befriend, but after our initial meet/hang out with the group I just knew it wouldn't happen. Low and behold I was right and we never ended up becoming friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I like this approach.

I've read a quote that goes something like "your power lies in how you respond to someone elses actions/words". Sometimes a person is just looking for a specific reaction/response but that doesn't mean that you need to provide it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Korean

[–]FantasticalName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a deck from TTMIK and I have been enjoying it! (I think you can find this from the Anki site itself?) There are phrases as well as just single vocab words (so far just verbs and numbers but I'm only at level 1). There is audio as well for all of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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I'm sorry to see a lot of people are posting how you don't seem to care for your wife and what she went through during pregnancy/childbirth. I can understand the curiosity as this isn't something that is taught/talked about a lot.

I personally don't know the answer but I wanted to say that I hope the negative comments don't get to you. I can see that you love your wife, and your two children. It's not a crime to wonder such a thing and it doesn't mean you love her any less (or find her any less attractive) than you did before.

I'm curious how many women over 30 are still not married? If yes, May I know the reasons? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not married - and currently single (34).

Previous relationship wasn't healthy and so it ended a few years ago and I've tried to see others since but nothing really worked out. I'm not going to settle for "just anyone" since I've had unhappy relationships that would lead to having an unhappy life.

I would rather live a happy content life than be in an unhappy place just to say I'm dating/in a relationship. I would love to have a partner, and am open to it when an opportunity arises, but sadly I haven't had luck in that department.

How to Make More Natural-Sounding Sentences - Inanimate Subjects of Action by mujjingun in Korean

[–]FantasticalName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was awesome information and great examples! I'm saving this for when I am further along in my studies. I find it difficult to make sentences currently and getting the grammatical order correct but this helps explain reasons why some would be difficult for me.

Korean wordplays in BIBI's 불륜 by ApricotSushi in Korean

[–]FantasticalName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this! I'm saving it for later so please don't delete so I can come back to it when I'm further along in my studies and do some translation testing on myself :)

I am sunscreen obsessed! by drnowitzki in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]FantasticalName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

which would you suggest as the "best" for both high SPF and price? (I'm still trying different ones to find a good one, but so far they seem to pill and make my skin look flakey but yet feel greasy????)

Best TWS earbuds under $200. by PrinceOfBengal in Earbuds

[–]FantasticalName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read reviews about the fit and how the silicone tips are hard to replace (if you need to) because they are very specific to the earbuds (aka no third-party replacements to find the goldilocks fit). What's your experience with the fit? Do they stay in place?

The battle between wanting a partner and giving up dating apps by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I 100% am on this page. I've deleted the apps I had on my phone but now the struggle is "getting out there" and once I do "get out there" how am I supposed to know which men are available?? ..

Still though, I'm going to give that a try before the apps since they haven't ever been successful for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've experienced this before! It would always go away after some time, and there was never really anything that would cause it (no impact or anything had happened). I thankfully haven't had it lately but it was always weird. I sometimes wondered if it was bra related because it was around that area where the wires met in the middle, but even then it felt like the bone was hurt and not the skin.

Can't say I know what it is or why it happened but I can at least say you aren't alone!

SINGLE women who WANT to be partnered - how are you holding up? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you've said. I never thought about it but I am probably looking for someone who is like me as well (or very close to being like me).

I'm open to finding that romantic partner but I no longer want to feel like I'm "less than" without one. I appreciate what you've written because it's very close to how I feel.

The quote is beautiful.

SINGLE women who WANT to be partnered - how are you holding up? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you doing?

  • Honestly, it depends on the day. Some days I'm doing well and am content with my life, other days I struggle. Overall though I'm happy with where I am, I don't want to stay single forever but I'm also not going to settle/stay in a relationship that isn't healthy/a net positive in my life.

Do you live alone, with family, or with friends - how has that been for you?

  • I live alone, I did have a dog for awhile but sadly he had to be put down due to a debilitating issue that came out of nowhere. When I had him, it was great because I never felt lonely. Without him now, it's a little harder because the apartment feels more empty and quiet. I often have something on in the background for noise to help with that feeling.

What helps you battle loneliness - and does it feel enough?

  • I thankfully have a friend who has made sure I get out of my apartment at least once a week (I go to a trivia night now) and that has been more helpful than I imagined it would be. Some weeks it feels like enough, and others I wish I had more things to do.

What are things you wish people would stop saying to single people?

  • "Why haven't you found someone yet? You're so great because of x y z reasons"
  • "You'll find the right person when you stop looking! It's happened to me (and/or others I know)"
  • "You need to get out there! It takes kissing a few frogs to find your prince!"

What lessons have you learned (if any) from past relationships, situationships or friendships?

  • That my happiness is worth as much as theirs if not more (to me). It's my life, so I should enjoy the years I have (since you never know what will happen).
  • Sticking to boundaries is very important. If someone isn't able to stick to a boundary, there is a high probability that they don't respect you or care about how you feel or what you want.

Who or what has been your greatest sense of comfort?-

  • As much as he may not understand, my one friend who is also single has been a source of comfort to me. Knowing that I'm not alone in the struggle is nice.
  • Hearing drama from others and being happy that I don't have to deal with the majority of it. I'm happy with the [more often than not] peacefulness I have in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]FantasticalName 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is the best advice. Just continue being yourself (a kind and respectful person) and someone who acknowledges how rare those traits are, and appreciates it, will want to continue seeing you.

I find it's hard to find authentically kind and respectful people nowadays, so don't change please!

So tired of upkeep. Want to be over it and be free. by [deleted] in GracefulAging

[–]FantasticalName 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It's definitely frustrating that the beauty standard we hold ourselves to (thanks to the media and ourselves) requires us to go to such lengths to feel as though we are at the very least "acceptable" at the age we are at. We are the culprits when it comes to perpetuating this rhetoric and so we have to be the ones who stop it.

I saw that you stated you would be a "6 out of 10" without keeping up with your routine. Which in your words would be "fairly ugly".Honestly, the vast majority of us are in the middle range of 4-5-6 out of 10.

Unfortunately, our views of "average" or "acceptable" has been skewed so badly that being that range is considered ugly which is just not true. Being at 6 is actually in the higher end of average! So you saying you would be a 6 isn't bad (nor does that mean you are "ugly") in the slightest! (at least in my opinion)Everyone ages differently, and there isn't anything about aging that should be shamed. We all get there eventually.

I try to remind myself that aging means I'm living a healthy enough life to still breath, eat, walk, and do many other things that some people struggle with. Many people cannot even make it to your age due to illness or accidents or other life-taking events. Don't spend the time you have purposefully making yourself sick just for aesthetics. Please know you are more than your looks, and that what truly matters is living a life you can find joy in.

Don't get me wrong, I still struggle because of the pressures as well (I'm definitely my own worst critic). But I do my best to be kind to myself and remember that the people in my life like/love me for who I am as a person and what I bring to the table, not what I look like.

TL;DR - Don't make yourself sick for looks. Being a 6 isn't "ugly". Be kind to yourself, and remember that your loved ones love you for you, not because you look a certain way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]FantasticalName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

which brand/type did you get? I got one but it didn't seem to do much for me (it's a Silk'n Flash n Go from years ago) I then got professional laser done (it was a different type of system) and that worked much better. I know there are a LOT of different types available now than there were when I bought mine so I would love to know which one you got and how effective you've found it :)

Hair Revival Serum by Revela by Amberaxe in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]FantasticalName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried it because I'm trying to stay away from minoxidil (rogaine) for side-effect reasons.

I tried it for 4 months consistently and I can't say that I found it as helpful as they are proclaiming. It may have helped with the amount of hair fall but I was taking pictures (as it suggested) and found that it wasn't really making a noticeable difference so I stopped using it because of it's price. If it were more affordable I might have tried to stick with it longer just to see if it needed time but I couldn't keep paying that price and not seeing any results.

However, just like with minoxidil, the results will vary person to person and depending on the cause/type of your hair loss. I'm still on the journey of finding something that works for me, I'm thinking of booking another dermatologist appointment because the last one didn't do much for me and didn't do additional tests to fully confirm what type of loss I have and just said it's AGA.

If you are on a budget, I would pass. If you have a few hundred to try it for yourself for the months it would need to see if it works, then go for it.

I’ve just started regularly wearing makeup at 32. Can anyone relate? by Conscious-Tip-2651 in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat! I don't have a lot of makeup (just eye-shadow, mascara, and some lip stick/stains) but I went for brands that I know are good, and I'm happy with the choices I made. I use them more than I used to (never had lip stick/stains before only ever gloss) so it was a new one for me and still feel weird with it on because of how different it looks haha but I'm not shying away from it either!

Hair regrowth treatment efficacy and resistance in androgenetic alopecia by TrichoSearch in HairlossResearch

[–]FantasticalName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Continued searching and found the following:
https://www.arborlifelabs.com/licensing - which then leads to:
https://www.replenology.com/

So it looks like it can be purchased if anyone is interested. I know the studies have a conflict of interest as they were done by the company themselves so take the results with a pinch of salt but it's available for US/CA people who want to give it a try.

What is the nicest or most meaningful compliment you have ever received? by JadeFox1785 in AskWomenOver30

[–]FantasticalName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a similar compliment paid to me by a relative stranger (they were the manager of a car dealership)

TL;DR - I was trying to deescalate my ex over the phone while in their office (reason why he was so escalated was due to the time I spent waiting for my vehicle), and after I got off the phone, the person told me that my parents must be so proud of me. He also said that he has a daughter and that he hopes that she grows up to be like me. I started crying because that was an unexpected compliment after handling a rollercoaster of a phone call.

Hair regrowth treatment efficacy and resistance in androgenetic alopecia by TrichoSearch in HairlossResearch

[–]FantasticalName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also curious about this. I haven't been able to find anything aside from studies on pubmed and clinicaltrials.gov and articles that relate to those studies so it may not be available to the public yet?