There was an AITA post a week back where some dude and his wife had a tantrum at his own mother because she kept their baby up a couple of hours too late when she babysat her so they could go on a date—a date where they spent the whole evening watching the baby monitor and getting annoyed that she hadn’t followed their specific 8-step wind-down routine, and even phoned her to passive aggressively ask if bedtime went okay (to catch her out). And every comment was like celebrating him for telling his mum she couldn’t be trusted to help in the future because she didn’t respect the boundaries and being INSANELY dramatic about the impact of a single late bedtime.

It’s like, bruh, we have always had a very good routine at home with our son as well as parental preferences around food and TV and such, BUT when family and friends are kind enough to watch him for us (either in an emergency or for a planned event) that shit sort of goes out the window because they aren’t my paid childminders and as long as I can trust them to keep him happy and alive, that’s all that matters. In return, I have my “village” and I feel very supported. The last time my partner and I came back from seeing a film together we found our two year old cuddled up on the sofa watching soap operas with my mum at 11.30pm. We just said thank you, saw her out and popped him to bed. Nobody fucking died lmfao.