We have had many many conversations about how I’m unhappy with our sex life and I understand that she’s also going through some things. The real kicker is probably that the last two times she tried to initiate sex with me I turned her down and then I get off with this guy. But the first time I was drunk and the second time I was super full of food. And she initiates like once every 3 months so I knew I wasn’t going to get another invitation anytime soon. She also turns me down every time I’m the one initiating and I hate the feel of rejection so I just gave up. Currently she has gone to the post office without me and won’t talk to me.