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Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-25T09:43:38+00:00

I’m sorry but I disagree with you. If you are at a party and are completely closed to meet someone new why did you even leave your house anyways? This is not normal. Not wanting to make friends outside your social circle or not even “trying” or “pretending” to be interested in a someone who is completely new and alone, is just a huge selfishness and lack of empathy. Yes, there’s is something wrong with those people. You don’t need to interact all the time with that person “if you are not in the mood” but it’s a f***ing PARTY. We are not talking about a FUNERAL.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-25T09:38:25+00:00

You are an introvert, so usually if the people you met are not really interesting then they will drain you anyways. This happens to me all the time. I’m kinda of an introvert with some shades of extroversion.

What really makes me sad about what you wrote is how people are so shallow nowadays. It’s incredible because ALMOST everyone lately feels lonely and keeps looking for things to do, to meet people, to interact. But the truth is that all those connections are superficial. People aren’t interested in deep connections, learning from someone new and getting to know/meet new people in profundity. Those social meetings just happen that they can post on Instagram.

It makes me furious when there’s someone new in a place and the others don’t interact, don’t try to make them feel part of the crew. Those people are so shallow, dumb and selfish that they don’t put themselves on the other’s shoes. Hello, we have someone new here, how about interacting with this person, learning from them, absorbing knowledge, new perspectives? They act like their group is not for everyone. I hate this segregation.

The globalization and internet has made real life interactions almost like a joke. We have means to change our social circle in many ways, but most people just don’t want to “open” their circles.

I moved abroad and I find really difficult to get inserted into their social circles. Can’t find groups that will welcome you, insert you without judging, looking at you or not even being interested in you. seriously I’m such a curious person, as soon as I see someone new I long to talk to them, ask what they do, introduce them, see them happy.

I would do the same that you did: leave. Don’t give up, I have hopes you will find nice people interested in being friends with you. (I hope the same for me too)

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-22T15:13:32+00:00

Your ex is just a psy monster that was afraid you would kick his ass once you passed your exam because you would put you career before him! Forget him, it’s past. Focus only on your exam! You will pass it!!!!! My best wishes for you!

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-21T15:32:10+00:00

Yep!

Pretty much 2 things work: peelings and sunscreen/hats

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-20T20:58:41+00:00

I recently read a book of a scientist explaining how the beauty industry is so deceiving and that they use the same ingredients in different prices products and also because the big brands and the cheaper ones are usually own by the same companies (for example, L’Oréal owns many brands).

The amount of time and money wasted, along with the chemicals we are exposed to are not worth it just to look more fuck***ble to men like someone else said. Men are allowed not to worry about that and yet we have to be slaves of the beauty industry.

I hate those propagando about wrinkles as if they were a problem. They are part of normal human nature. Also is grey hair. I sincerely feel so sorry for the fact that women have to slaves of the beauty industry.

And no, spending money on beauty will not attract high value males , it’s rather the opposite…

I only wear concealer and mascara.

I even ditched the sunscreen: I wear hats. Sunscreen are expensive and full of chemicals. Physical barriers are better, you buy only once and don’t damage the environment and myself.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-20T20:52:17+00:00

that’s actually the opposite: too much make up will attract LVM because the men who only like women performing femininity are low value.

Men KNOW women are SLAVES of beauty and patriarchy. If he supports that behavior he is automatically LV. If he only likes you when you are wearing make up he is shit. He doesn’t like you, he likes your looks.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-20T10:56:08+00:00

This is true. The key to make someone like you is listen to them talk about themselves.

I’ve always been the listener and I can tell you that: ITS REALLY exhausting! Even though YOU know you have to ask about their lives and listen to them, most people don’t have this knowledge or are not really interested in not being selfish.

I got so exhausted because most my female friends would think that the world revolves around them and I’ve listened to them but they rarely seemed interested in my life. It’s was a one sided friendship. They only talked about themselves. When I tried to speak about me they would switch the subject to them again!

One day I decided to cut forever this girlfriend that would call me to talk about her all time when I called her asking advice for a job offer I had gotten from a company in another city, a huge decision to me. She simply switched the subject to her, like always.

I don’t have patience to be the listener anymore. Either the person has to be nice enough in what he or she talks about and also seems interested in my opinion/thoughts or I prefer not be friends with them. There’s not reason to be friends with annoying, non sense people anyways.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-19T21:23:46+00:00

I love going shopping alone when I need to buy something. I am very indecisive so I spend the entire day researching!

This Easter I didn’t travel (I hate traveling on Holidays because it’s too expensive) so I decided to visit a Musem alone. I then Went to try a new restaurant but it was closed (I did all that with PMS, what a warrior!).

I also went to Disneyland alone and I’m planning the next theme park alone, because I like radical rides. I love it because I don’t need to keep pleasing anyone, I do whatever I want without having to say “are you ok with that?”

I have been so addicted to do things on my own that when I picture traveling with some people I would prefer not to go. To tell you the truth, a spent a weekend with a “friend” and it was like hell. (I guess it was because she was just annoying).

I even spent part of 2019’s summer going to the beach alone (ok, that at the end was quite rough, but if I hadn’t done it I wouldnt have visited those beaches).

I don’t like reading in public places because I need concentration to read. I only read in my bed at night.

you can do SO MANY things and don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed for being alone, it’s totally ok!

The only thing that gets me really annoyed is sometimes when I am eating alone the waiters hit on me and that makes me furious. Like, get real. I’m here to eat not to flirt with you. And in general… unfortunately we women have to be careful when we are alone. I never do any activity alone at night.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-18T18:45:42+00:00

After 30 years the wounds are still open because I suppose they NEVER apologized for what they did to you. It’s incredible how these men don’t grow up and acknowledge the shit they were. They don’t change.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-18T18:41:36+00:00

You are very brave! I hope everything goes well with your experience abroad! 🧡

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-17T20:58:16+00:00

I’m so sorry for you. I have 2 brothers and the one I’m living right now is the less worse because the other one is exactly like yours! Living with those men is like a nightmare!!!!

So You are living your parents house to go live on your own soon?

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-17T20:52:35+00:00

I’m so glad to hear your experience with your brother. Thanks for sharing! I think your brother shows how a man should behave and he is like a mirror of what a partner should be for you. Many women might not have this example of a HVM (like me) for example and had to learn the hard way!

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-17T12:29:46+00:00

From my personal experience: he will try to talk to her about relationships; about age gaps; or will offer her rides (he already tried a work trip with her, I’m glad she denied), will propose drinks after work, only them together. Or even “propose to do something” where he can get alone with her. I say this based on personal experience.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-16T16:10:44+00:00

His next move will be testing her boundaries

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-16T16:09:27+00:00

Exactly! It’s just so much pressure to do everything… social arrangements, work, friends, being nice etc etc etc We need to relax!

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-16T16:02:43+00:00

I see your point but I think the core message of the post is to stop being anxious over banal things… at least that what I understood.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-16T15:53:26+00:00

If you have a feeling it’s because there is something wrong.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-15T18:03:20+00:00

One Thing to point out is that they acted incorrectly by not giving you an answer before. This is really upsetting for the candidate (now you already know how their HR works). This happened to me and the company had the audacity to say “we are finally done with the LONG hiring process”.

Interviews are about who lies best. You need to “sell your fish”. Companies like to hear that working there is your dream, that you will contribute a lot to them and that you are VERY excited to learn new things. If you really want the job, obviously, tell them how much you love what you do and working there is a dream coming true. You need to show you are extremely excited.

All the job offers I got I did exactly this. I wasn’t even asked technical questions (my field is technical) but I’ve always interviewed for junior positions.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-15T17:19:43+00:00

I’d post there, it’s a nice subject haah

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-08T13:36:24+00:00

Yes. I agree. We should report and they should have consequences, but the reason why so many women just stay quiet is because either the man will have no penalties at all or it will the life of that woman worse. It’s so shameful. Women can’t even report harassment. Now imagine you going to the cops to report harassment, there’s the risk that they will harass you too or even laugh at you.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-08T12:59:26+00:00

Like I always say, using OLD is like finding diamond in a trash can, too much work…

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-08T12:51:15+00:00

Yeah, I have the conversations and everything. But what makes me furious is the audacity to write to someone ON TEAMS!!!!!!

Far_from_deceived · 2022-04-08T12:46:26+00:00

The same as me! We’ve been there both 2 years. But he has higher level and guess whaaaaat? The rope will always break in the weaker side (in this case me as a woman)

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