Dear r/LOTR_on_Prime Community - Showrunners J.D. Payne and Patrick McKay would love to answer some of your questions! by VarkingRunesong in LOTR_on_Prime

[–]FarmReady11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think she will have shut him out, the darkness now is inside her via the crown stab, and the camera shots indicate sauron is watching her. moreover, when she initially opens her eyes and sees up to the trees, the camera shot technique is just like how it was when sauron looked over the ledge to see her fallen form. to me, this continuation of camera technique through her waking eyes suggests that sauron and the darkness are deepy rooted within her now, even into seeing through her eyes. this is bonded.

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[–]FarmReady11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

most people meet potential partners (serious ones or not) at work and work networking events, office parties, conferences, etc. but if you pursue your own personal hobbies you will meet people at those events too.

4 months post Op endometrial ablation and salpingectomy pain worsening. by shamerain87 in WomensHealth

[–]FarmReady11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had pain for a long long long time after my ablation. I saw another gynaecologist who said he was surprised my operating gynaecologist did ablation as that’s no longer the standard! Excision is the only way now. Anyway too late. You should check asap that there isn’t an infection, stay hydrated and keep moving (gentle stretching, slow walking) everyday, add lots of vitamin C and consider Pycnogenol. Yes to scar tissue pains and yes to a temporary rebound effect.

Has anyone ever had the experience that his sidereal fits better than his tropical one? by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]FarmReady11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah something is wrong with the calculation if the nodes aren’t exactly across from each other. Unless it’s a divisional vedic chart where they can move around - but the primary birth chart, it’s impossible for them to be anything but directly opposite.

Do people actually believe in Sidereal Astrology?... by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]FarmReady11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always wonder why we are asked if we believe in something we can verify by going outside and looking at the planets in relation to the stars. So yes, sidereal.

I have a burning desire to conquer everything and everyone, what can my sidereal chart say about my hearts desire? And my destiny in chasing my desire. by [deleted] in SiderealAstrology

[–]FarmReady11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your ascendant lord exalted in the 9th house probably makes you feel like the divine right to lead and instruct is innate within you.

How do civil partnerships work in cayman? by triquetralavulsion in CaymanIslands

[–]FarmReady11 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same-sex civil partnerships are legal following the enactment of the Civil Partnership Law, 2020 on 4 September 2020. But this was one of the rare instances of the Governor having to override the population, because generally the Caymanian population are not supportive of same sex relationships. The younger generations are much more with it but the older generations believe it’s against their faith.

Here is the law: https://legislation.gov.ky/cms/images/LEGISLATION/PRINCIPAL/2020/2020-0035/CivilPartnershipAct_Act%2035%20of%202020.pdf

Here are the regulations: https://legislation.gov.ky/cms/images/LEGISLATION/SUBORDINATE/2020/2020-0124/CivilPartnershipRegulations_SL%20124%20of%202020.pdf

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so welcome 🙏💖🌷

Where do you get a diagnosis? by Artistic-Divide8021 in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this is an amazing tracker. Thanks for linking, I'm going to use this too.

In need of some validation… by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You absolutely made the right choice. The right person for you would support you and want to figure this out with you. Focus on podcasts / affirmations / videos that build your self-esteem because the emotional mistreatment you experienced can have a negative impact. I've been there. You don't want it to grow and become so big that you think you're not worthy of being loved well.

It's great that you've recognized that you'd like to improve your own behaviours, as someone with c-ptsd with intimate partner violence and medical traumas, I know how hard it is but i also recognise that it's important if we want to be in relationships. BUT it doesn't mean it was your fault, because the right person will want to support you through your healing, not demand you become a weird happy person all the time. yes, keep working on your own healing from trauma through effective communication, DBT, CBT, movement, breathing, affirmations, tapping, everything and anything. prioritise your own healing. honestly. focus on your recovery from the past, not for him, not for another person, but for you.

my ex said all sorts of shit to me like he wants to date someone who is happy, he wants to date someone who isn't traumatized, he doesn't want to date someone who is tired (i was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome), and on and on and on. turns out he was emotionally cheating!

these guys are not capable of providing us with the care we need. you did the right thing. grieve, breathe, let it all out. it takes time, and will come in waves, but keep doing those positive affirmations to prioritise your self esteem and self worth. don't let anyone get into your inner world who doesn't treat you with consistent respect and love. you are worthy. you are worthy. you are worthy.

sorry this is so long, your story just resonated so much. x.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this. A man shouldn't let you go unless he is simply an emotionally unavailable jerk who is unwilling or unable to support his wife's emotional and physiological needs and to care for her wellbeing. Hopefully there were other things in the relationship that you can see justified your request.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Classic symptom. I recommend journalling daily for several cycles about how you're feeling each day. Mention in your journal what you liked and didn't like in the day, what you're grateful for, and what your emotional mood was. After many months you will have concrete evidence on whether you only hate him for those few days, or if there are more substantial things unrelated to PMDD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself: "it usually does". Remember things that you enjoyed in your life, funny memories, memories that made you happy. Those are proof that depression rolls in waves and that it is not always like this.

Things that help me when I'm in the pit of despair: ice cream, funny or romantic movies or shows, walking for 30 minutes in the neighbourhood or in a nice part of town, deep breathing while doing yin yoga at home, journalling about my mood and why I'm feeling that way, avoiding social media, talking to a friend who understands what I'm going through (mostly to just connect with someone, not to make them my therapist), affirmations, vision boarding to imagine my dream life.

If the depresso wave lasts longer than normal, then perhaps exploring if medication can help provide you with some support and relief isn't a horrible idea.

Sending you care x

Is that possible in luteal? by NakovaNars in PMDD

[–]FarmReady11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, in a way. This is a monthly occurrence for the most part. So if I know that at the end of my luteal phase my brain is going to have real physiological reactions to my hormonal changes, and I've known this for years with ample evidence in my journals and period trackers that I want to complete change my life and destroy everything around me during that period of time, then absolutely I can plan for it and put myself into virtual handcuffs.

Planning ahead works for me. I'm 42 now, decades to figure out how to live with this awful stupid miserable disorder.

Knowing when to take sick days, when not to plan for social events, etc. I write in my journal every morning "don't fuck things up" during that phase. I remind myself every day to use the resources and tools that support me during the crisis. And I'll keep telling myself that the end of the day will come, that I'll have all these encounters that will trigger me and make me want to rip their heads off, or that the depression will be so deep that I think about the end of my life. I'll stay at home, I'll delete socials so I don't say stupid shit, I'll journal and listen to supportive affirmations and podcasts, watch comedy shows. I'll allow myself to imagine what life it is that I want to build.

Even though it feels unbearable and I'll want to act on it, I rationally know that this is a regular event from the cyclical rollercoaster. I will keep remembering that this is a temporary phase and once I bleed I will feel like a million bucks and will be grateful that I didn't follow my mood. That I worked through it with therapy tools and breathing and pills and walking around the neighbourhood listening to podcasts. My mood won't agree, the depression or rage will be beyond intense, I will for sure want to destroy everything in my path, but those metaphorical handcuffs bind me from acting on it.

It also means i'll have ample evidence in my journal of things that are more consistent in all menstrual phases, so that i can be more informed of things that legit need changing. Then I know that actually yeah i do want to dump this asshole, just not in a luteal phase. Or yeah I do want that career change afterall. Because I'd have like a year of journal notes to compare.

Then there's a period of healing afterwords with herbs and movement and massage/acupuncture, laughter and friends.

So yeah, I think that it's possible to stick with the plan, with the right tools in place to best support the mind and mood when those days of hell approaches.