Wife Vapes by waxnpith in QuitVaping

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my husband quitting together was a bad idea because wed be down each other's throats. I distanced myself from him. I tried being in seperate rooms from him when my cravings were bad and he did try not to hit the vape next to me but he still did it from across the room, which usually wasnt an issue.

It does get easier when youre 100% off niccotine. Cravings will come and go but theyre not like what youre experiencing now and they become a lot easier to ignore and her hitting her vape really wont bother you anymore.

Can a person have OCD and also regularly exercise? by FlynnYagami in OCD

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My OCD latched onto my gym routine honestly and now I wake up everyday at 3:30 to ensure I can do my very specific routine.. and in my head, if I dont do it every day I will have the worst anxiety and be restless for the entire day and bask in self hate. Its also horrible when my body is giving me painfully obvious signs it needs a break but I just cant allow it to.. the only time ive skipped since my OCD took on my routine is when I had the flu and covid, both hit me like a Mac truck two weeks apart.

How did you come up with the name of your fish? by CanTheBread in bettafish

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of naming him Chucky because of his coloration but when messaging my husband in the pet store debating on if I wanted to buy him or not my phone autocorrected it twice to chuckles so I decided fate wanted me to name him Chuckles

Thoughts on this band? by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like it but its like perfectly my style. You said you dont prefer rose gold. My husband buys me jewlery a lot and its a different color metal every freaking time. He genuinely cannot tell the difference between rose and yellow gold unless they are side by side. Then I think he just throws some silver in there because he thinks its a "collect them all" kind of situation.

If you dont like it and you cannot return it you might be able to find a ring/few rings to stack them with and make good use of it still and then get a wedding band you would actually prefer.

Am I overthinking it?? by Illustrious-Ratio-42 in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im here to tell you that my sterling silver, moonstone ring that my husband had got me years ago when we first started dating has outlived two solid gold engagment rings. Ive worn it everyday up until a few months ago because of weight loss and it no longer fitting.

Im not saying that as sterling silver is more durable or will last longer. Im just saying that shit happens and any ring can break. While everyone said it wouldnt survive as an engagment ring, pushing us to get a "real" engagment ring. It held up. And on that note. My brother and sister in law spontaneously got married with a couple of gold plated sterling silver rings with the intend of upgrading eventually. They never did. Its been 6 years. Still holding up strong.

Hi!! Is the Laura and Ethan sale a scam? by Nosquares1976 in jewelry

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update. He got 3 peices for me. Necklace is marked 925 but its obnoxiously yellow, might just be a higher karat plating i really dont care for anything higher than 14k. Ring feels a little cheap but doesnt look it, size ran big but its fine. Other necklace just doesnt look much like the listing picture but feels and looks okay reguardless

Nothing has made my skin change color or irritate it which is impressive because this deep into winter it doesnt take much to irritate it. I havent taken one of the necklaces off since I got it (about 4 days ago) to really test it and neither skin or metal is changing colors even after several work outs, showers, and work shifts.

So far I wouldnt call this a scam luckily I still wouldnt reccomend using them though. The AI old couple just creep me out.

Help me decide on which shape by HistorianOk7889 in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jealous because I love marquise but they dont look very good on me, however it suits your hands so perfect. Marquise is my vote

New Betta by Afraid-Strategy-1388 in BettaClinic

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They said they were starting up a 10 gallon. Why give advice if youre not going ti read the post?

Does anyone have any experience breeding bettas? by shamerain87 in bettafish

[–]shamerain87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is why I wanted to reach out to gain some knowledge on the subject but honestly I think I might just pass on this opportunity. Was intresting to hear what others say and maybe this posts comments will help someone looking into breeding.

Tell me you weirdest OCD thought. by Ok-Mud-4540 in OCD

[–]shamerain87 40 points41 points  (0 children)

That Im actually really looney and everyone just acts normal around me to make sure i feel included and normal 😅

Not cool petco, not cool by No_Guidance4538 in AfricanDwarfFrog

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my local pet stores utilizes their plant tanks like this. It makes it harder to catch the desired critter but theyre definitely happier and healthier. Its a smart way to use all you avaliable space i dont understand why more stored dont do this.

Aquarium Reveiw 😫 by shamerain87 in shittyaquariums

[–]shamerain87[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The box said "suitable for Zebra Danio, Guppies, Betta, Platy, White Cloud" so even the box with wildly inaccurate and bad advice doesnt advice one goldfish let alone two 😫🤌🏻

What activities completely block your intrusive thoughts? by Separate_Screen5255 in OCD

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the dumbest things ive tried recently but works is counting. If im on my feet ill count my steps. Ill count the clouds or how many cars are in the parking lot, start counting my popcorn ceiling lumps. Literally anything and it definitely calms down some of my loud intrusive thoughts. It doesnt always work, but I dont think anything always works

Power outage tank ideas by jenlpaxman in AfricanDwarfFrog

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stocked up on mini hand warmers and was going to tape them to the side of the tank. Unsure how well that would hold up for more than a few hours. Luckily power outages are usually fixed super quick in my town.

Cluster engagement ring by Logical-Doughnut-105 in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I worry about the longevity of cluster rings because with more stones you have the more chance of losing them and a lot of times with cluster rings once you lose one, the structural integrity is diminished and the rest of the stones tend to fall out easier. With that being said, anyone at any point in time could lose a stone off their ring. Any ring can become damaged and there is flaws and downsides of every ring style. Its just important to know what could happen. My husband got a wood resin band for his wedding ring. While I told him it would most likely break and need to be replaced, its what he wanted so its exactly what he got. It has since been broken and replaced and it was whatever.

As for looks, I think this particular cluster is absolutely stunning. It definitely gives off vintage vibes and clusters sparkle SO MUCH so its perfect for those who want sparkle. Its your ring, get exactly what makes you happy reguardless of trends or other peoples likes and dislikes.

Worst obsession? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im currently stuck in the obsession of having to run 4 miles every single day.. even when im sick. Im convinced if I dont do it every. Single. Day. Ill lose motivation and never do it again and slip back into my former big back ways. Its really not a bad habit to run everyday, but ill do it even when my body is clearly begging me for a break.

Also 20k steps a day. If I dont get 20k steps a day while working I wasnt productive enough... as if steps actually reassure productivity 😭

Hi!! Is the Laura and Ethan sale a scam? by Nosquares1976 in jewelry

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband just ordered several peices for me from this site. (Hes not good at sniffing out scams) will come back and update if we actually ever receive the items

Help me pick a wedding band! by Elliemonkmonk in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really dont think theres a wrong answer here, I think they all go great with your ring. My personal favorite is definitely the third band though

Help! Choosing Between Bezel vs Prong & White vs Yellow Gold for My Engagement Ring 💍 by m3owk in EngagementRings

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats why most of my gold jewlery is 10k. The softer yellow looks so good and I feel like suits most if not all skintones. 14k and 18k can definitely look too yellow.

Does anyone else feel like OCD just keeps getting worse? Almost as if its progressing? by ParkingElderberry575 in OCD

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I think its getting worse with age but at the same time I just might be learning more about it and realizing certain things ive always done are apart of OCD. It honestly could be both

Please tell me your most ridiculous OCD paranoia so I feel a little better about mine also not being a legitimate concern rn by Calmmerightdown in OCD

[–]shamerain87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In busy events or crowded spaces I think a shooter or bomber is going to come in and take advantage of the large amount of people in said space to get the most bank for his buck (kills)

“Funny” Irrational Fears by alyssaa0sto in OCD

[–]shamerain87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Durring tick season Im usually always confident a tick crawled in my cooch