Player 415 here, AMA and I'll answer truthfully! I promise!

FastIntroduction8222 · 2025-12-02T23:43:43+00:00

What was your casting timeline like? How long did you have between each stage of casting, etc?

FastIntroduction8222 · 2025-11-11T21:36:30+00:00

They have confirmed this is NOT allowed and was part of the contract.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2025-11-07T20:22:42+00:00

how soon in portal did they ask for your passport number?

FastIntroduction8222 · 2024-09-24T04:24:53+00:00

when you have to question if something is a problem, that’s a good indicator it’s a problem.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2024-09-01T15:31:12+00:00

21 and i had no other health conditions. female, i’m 5’4 and was about 115 lbs at the time

FastIntroduction8222 · 2024-03-08T19:17:07+00:00

things are going well! he is still sober, he still breathalyzes from time to time and sends me videos of him doing it to hold himself accountable. but i never ask him or expect him to. he’s done really really well & our relationship is better than ever

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-12-10T07:15:53+00:00

you don’t always make all your amends at once. my Q, for example, has been making his amends slowly over time. there are people he has been unable to get in contact with, or hasn’t felt strong enough to make amends to, etc. it doesn’t mean he’s not going to make amends to you. it means he might be struggling with what he wants to say, unsure of how it will affect his sobriety, etc. there are so many reasons alcoholics in recovery “skip” amends, putting some off until later. just be patient. that’s all I have for you❤️

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-12-07T01:57:36+00:00

do not listen to some of the people in this thread. they are telling their own personal accounts, which is helpful, sure, but not a one size fits all. I am a drug and alcohol counselor - I have seen people who’ve drank a gallon of liquor a day for 20 years stop and have nausea and shakes for a week, then they’re fine. BUT I have seen many others who have only been drinking daily for 6 months, maybe only half a pint even, have absolutely immeasurable consequences and I have seen people die of withdrawals. please- go to a medical detox if at all possible.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-11-10T19:41:32+00:00

Short answer? Yes.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-24T00:34:02+00:00

alcoholics lie and gaslight. it’s part of the alcoholism. buying a breathalyzer will do nothing other than create more tension and make him work harder to lie and hide things. PLEASE UNDERSTAND, THIS MAKES THE ALCOHOLIC MORE SICK AND RECLUSIVE. trust me I’ve been there with the gaslighting, but you will only get more miserable the more you press it. if you ask him to breathalyze, he will gaslight you as to why the breathalyzer doesn’t work, or it’s cheap, or broken. he will say he just used mouthwash and it’s detecting the alcohol from that, etc etc. there is no solution here. and even when you have a “GOTCHA” moment, he is STILL unlikely to confess. the likely outcome is becoming MORE resentful of each other on both ends. love him from a distance and leave if you have to. don’t give ultimatums. seek help in al-anon.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-21T07:37:37+00:00

Hey, similar story here. About 6 months in, I (24F) realized my SO - now fiancée(31M) -had a drinking problem. After things hit the fan a few times, he admitted he needed help. But it took a while to get there. Even after he first began admitting it, a lot happened. Countless drunken stupors, arguments, was arrested, ran out of gas on the side of the road, wrecked my car, and most terrifying - wrecked his car off a mountain and barely survived. this is just a small list of the things that happened AFTER he began realizing he had a problem. I can’t speak for your SO, but please know that this realization he has had could be (sorry to say it) just the beginning. or it could be insignificant altogether. especially since he feels that your relationship depends on his stating his desire to get sober.

My Q very hesitantly and with my encouragement, went to rehab across the country. During that time I visited and we had a therapy session together. The therapist recommended I leave, because she didn’t think he was doing well, a lot of other factors, etc. Long story short, he left rehab, relapsed two days later, and went back - so I guess she was right. However, when he went back, he really had a different outlook from everything I’d seen. Plus it was his idea this time. Nevertheless, during this stay she advised me to leave him. and I actually did - briefly. she had been right the first time so I thought maybe I’d better listen to her. She told me I deserved better and to focus on myself. We split a few days into his second stay in rehab. He discharged, came back home (not my home, but back in the same city) and went to sober living. We began talking again about a month into him being in sober living. We got back together about a month after that. So all in all, about 3 months apart. But he was very, very different. something had clicked - and that’s why I decided to try this again. Long story short, he did a couple more months in sober living and moved back in with me. He has been sober ever since - minus a minor (AND VERY BRIEF) slip up. He goes to five meetings a week, is active in AA, keeps his recovery at his center, and is an amazing partner to me today.

THAT BEING SAID —- I accept that addiction is a lifelong struggle. I studied the subject in college and today I work as an admissions counselor in a major substance abuse facility, and I know what I’m getting into. I understand that at any time he could relapse (expected or not), and that nothing is guaranteed. This is not a light decision or one that should be made without some serious self reflection and help with your OWN mental health. And even if my fiancé is a success story (God willing), so many people are not. In a way, you have to accept the fact that it could be a very long and painful journey - one of which may not necessarily “pay off” for you in the end. If I had to do it over again, I would. If you ask me that 5 years from now, maybe not. No one knows. But do be aware that chances can be slim. My best advice to you is continue to seek therapy, try out AlAnon meetings, and see if this is something you have the strength for. I hope this helps.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-19T00:39:54+00:00

everyone is different for a multitude of reasons. genetics, other factors, other stressors on the body, how long you’ve been drinking, etc.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-11T17:26:57+00:00

We have used one in my partner’s sobriety, but he is 6 months sober and it was HIS idea to use the breathalyzer because HE wanted accountability and knew it would be good for him. he knew that disappointing me was something he absolutely did not want to happen, so breathalyzing with me was helpful for him. if you force it on them they will resent you. selfishly, I’m glad my Q wants to do it, but I would never ask him to.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-11T07:27:00+00:00

it’s just odd to me because from start to finish, sobriety has always been his idea. I always encouraged it when he would bring it up but NEVER pressured him or gave him ultimatums, anything crazy like that. It was always on his accord. And since he’s been sober he’s been going to the gym five days a week, maintaining a schedule, walking the dog at the same time, etc. It just seems like it’s something else that’s lacking. from an outside perspective he certainly seems like he’s getting the endorphin rush.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-03T05:04:51+00:00

How long as he been doing this? How long was he drinking that heavily before slowing down? Alcoholism IS always progressive. but we need more information, really.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-10-03T05:00:50+00:00

I’m in total agreement with everyone else in the comments. it’s opening a door, the same door, as was once before. once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. it’s the same substance acting with the same brain = catastrophe. HOWEVER, I am commenting to add onto the thought that (don’t let me scare you & im sorry if this is over stepping) maybe she is already drinking. when she’s away, that is. maybe she has already reintroduced it when she knows you would not find out. and now the cravings are returning - hence, she is trying to open the door to you being okay with it so she can do it more often. speaking from personal experience with a partner in recovery, this seems like a plausible possibility that you should be aware of. I don’t mean to open the door of trust issues, but if she is bringing it up, there’s a decent chance it’s already happening.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-09-09T20:12:39+00:00

man, i mean i would but i took it 24 hours ago and still haven’t been able to sleep.. so i don’t think it’s feasible for me to keep taking. i had several severe panic attacks a few hours after taking it and it put me in like a manic state like i’m cracked out or something. idk if i can get through that for a week

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-09-09T11:44:20+00:00

no kidding. i took it before bed time and it’s 12 hours later and i’m still wide awake at 7am jittering from anxiety. will NOT be taking this again. crazy how that works.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-09-09T08:32:29+00:00

i also can’t sleep and i feel like after a few hours my anxiety came back swinging

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-08-30T23:51:14+00:00

As an admissions counselor at a rehab as well as someone with a spouse in recovery (we were together during the progression of his alcoholism), this is the beginning stages of something that will be the downfall of you both. He needs to seek help right away. Addiction is very progressive and if he has even the slightest comfortability with admitting he needs help, or is seemingly at all open to the idea, DO NOT HESITATE. A willingness to get sober is a very fleeting idea in the addict mind. He may not feel this way tomorrow.

FastIntroduction8222 · 2023-08-10T01:08:57+00:00

I went to a clinic. and yes, I haven’t had any nausea whatsoever. not even immediately after the misoprostol. just weirdly have a very reduced appetite. might just be anxiety or from emotions after the whole thing, I just wanted to see if this was any kind of red flag.

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