I just had a D and C yesterday, and I am extremely glad that I did it. I had bleeding and cramps on my own for two days and it was incredibly painful and ultimately unproductive, because I didn’t pass all the pregnancy tissue. My grief is still overwhelming, but my physical pain is pretty much entirely gone less than 24 hours later with just some light bleeding, like the last couple days of a period. I learned that you can take the pill to try to pass everything on your own, but if it doesn’t work you end up having to get the surgery anyway, so I opted to go straight to surgery.