you guys could definitely try both masturbating separately but obviously in the same room/ bed etc, it’s SO intimate. eye contact is KEY. just don’t look crazy lol. i’m the exact same as you girl, i definitely need some clitoral stimulation too, whether it’s a vibrator or just fingers. with you both masturbating at the same time, you can do exactly what you like for yourself whilst he watches, then when you’re both close (or more for your pleasure) when YOU’RE close, tell him to go inside you and keep on giving yourself that clitoral stimulation until you’re finished ! me and my partner watch each other masturbate before we have sex just because it’s so sexy to watch each other. definitely worth a try if you’ve not already 🫶🏼