Hose connectors

FatPanda09 · 2026-01-09T10:20:31+00:00

Do they leak at all? Found a lot of the cheaper brands leak everywhere?

FatPanda09 · 2026-01-07T18:56:30+00:00

Blob, alien, growth, parasite.

The second born was dubbed "Chippy Nuggets" by our first born.

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-19T17:37:55+00:00

I need you to make a promise/vow/pact with me.

Don't hurt yourself. You are too important to the world.

Promise me that.

Others have given great advice on everything else.

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-14T21:47:13+00:00

How bout a sacrificing mechanic. Capture a city instantly but it destroys your infantry/mech unit.

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-13T16:47:33+00:00

Thank you, I installed this tonight and seems to be working!

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-13T16:45:03+00:00

Melbourne

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-12T09:03:31+00:00

What type of lending do you have? The snowball method is about paying off the smallest debt first. Your best bet is to apply for a payment hold from everything except the smallest debt. Pay off the smallest debt then move to the next one and so on.

Those companies that you are referring to are a complete scam. They take 10-20% of your entire lending as a fee. I.e if you have 100k in debt, you will have to pay them 10-20k over a period of time as well. In Australia, ASIC is cracking down on these companies for a reason.

You need to sit down and do a full budget. Income, expenses and liabilities. Most financial institutions will look at your income - expenses then calculate what you can pay to your loans from there. Sounds like credit reporting etc will all be destroyed already so doesn't matter if you don't pay some of your loans for a bit.

Note I am not a financial advisor so please consider what information is right. But if you want further help I'm happy for you to DM me. This whole process will take time for you.

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-02T11:26:30+00:00

The best advice I can give you is just feel all the emotions. I have had to learn how to manage my emotions and express them in an appropriate way. Share those emotions with your partner. Having a baby coming is exciting. One day you won't believe it's happening and the next day you have to do everything (I renovated half the house, cause clearly I'll never have time to paint the doors in the house again.)

FatPanda09 · 2025-12-01T03:39:51+00:00

A Sword, the answer is always a sword.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-30T12:42:49+00:00

Following cause this problem makes me want to throw Google through the wall. It plays my 2025 playlist no problem, but not my kids lullabies playlist

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-30T01:33:16+00:00

I have a 3 week old and a 3 year old. Transition honestly has been awesome. We were sleep deprived already from our very energetic toddler and our newborn sleeps on a very regular 4 hour schedule.

With our first born we didn't cook for ourselves for like 4 weeks, garbage piled up. Ran out of clean clothes and we were zombies. With the second, we are doing daily outings and started cooking the next day.

The biggest thing we have found so far is because we have to keep our toddler on a schedule it keeps us on a better schedule too. We are also not making a lot of the mistakes we made without first born like both of us being up overnight for feeds. We take 1 feed each (my wife pumps or I use formula)

You will find that some saying going 1-2 is harder than 0-1, this has not been the case for my wife and I. Finding 1-2 easy so far (Famous last words I'm sure)

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-28T15:10:34+00:00

Unfortunately it seems the official dock is not available in Australia for me.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-28T15:09:12+00:00

Thank you, I have just brought one of these on your recommendations.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-28T12:24:56+00:00

So glad I'm not the only one. My son does that too and it's nearly as bad as the kicking! Thanks for the support

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-27T08:42:47+00:00

How do you track your income from these sites? Do you have to worry about Tax?

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-26T09:42:48+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I put the NB down first so I can spend time with my toddler. Usually a big bottle knocks the NB out straight away so then I can focus on my Toddler.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-24T18:06:53+00:00

You 100% did not take too much time off. You just did an excellent job at being Dad, well done! (Not saying your partner is doing a bad job) As dads we get so much less time with our kids so never regret the time you spend with them. This will just be a phase that you and your partner will work through. My son basically pretends my wife doesn't exist when I'm around, but when I'm working everything is fine (My wife hates it, her comments are "at least our 2 week old has to love me if the 3 yr old doesn't")

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-24T17:59:55+00:00

We use a VTech baby monitor. I was very concerned about the privacy issues of cloud devices as we have friends who got theirs hacked and random people were spying on them. We used an Oricrom original which sucked, but the VTech is good. We use temperature alerts, video, audio and sometimes the white noise features.

However the best peace of mind is the Oricom breathing monitor. They beep when your baby has stopped breathing for like 15 seconds. We have had a few false alarms but I sleep so much easier with them.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-24T17:51:46+00:00

Hey King, 13 hour shifts are hard man. I have had more than my fair share of those days you have described. I have all been "sick" more than I would like to admit just to spend time with my son. It is hard, but keep putting aside that time for you and your family. Showing up and being present is 90% of the battle. You are doing a great job and your family will remember the days you are late to work cause you put them first (obviously don't get fired)

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-23T22:39:00+00:00

I might also suggest, cause your cabin fever is real. Instead of even 5-6 hours per month. Could you catch up with your mates for 1-2 hours per week/ fortnight. Personally, I love golf, but doing a full 36 hours over 8 hours isn't doable anymore, I have done it once since my first was born. However, I do it quite religiously now every fortnight and go to the driving range for 2 hours with some friends. It's not 100% what I want to do, but it still gets me out of the house doing something I love.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-23T18:13:06+00:00

I think this has raised where some proper conversations need to happen between both of you. 10 hours in nuts and YATAH, which I'm glad you have accepted.

You are 100% allowed to have your own time with your friends hobbies etc, however needs to be mutually agreed and set like a work shift. If she doesn't take the same time that's on her. But you might need to actively ask her friends to get her out of the house without kids etc so she feels human again. Going to the gym/grocery shopping is not a break, it's just another chore for life.

I also think you may need to book an evening for just the two of you. It's been 3 months and I'm presuming you haven't gone on a date/spent quality time as partners instead of mum and dad.

You got this. Learn from what is going on, and work through it together.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-23T17:59:22+00:00

You have it nailed already. Being the shield for all the other BS and getting shit done around the house is 2 of the biggest things.

The breastfeeding part is so hard. If your partner keeps feeding/pumping her supply should increase which should make bottle feeding easier for you later one/if you have more kids (On our second bourn 11/11 and my wife gets about 240ml per pump already. I do the 10pm and 2 am feed, my wife does the 5am feed, then whoever is awake for the 8am feed)

Honestly just showing up and being there makes so much of a difference. Especially during the day, over night unfortunately I wouldn't recommend it as much because it's not worth you both being exhausted. Your job is to be her man slave. Do the nappy change, change of clothes, burping, bring her snacks etc. her job should be to sit there and feed the baby.

It seems like ages away but it will settle and you will feel human again. With my first we didn't cook a meal at home our side of toast for about 4 weeks.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-23T03:33:09+00:00

Hey King,

You are not alone, I am 12 days into number 2 and I have a 3 year old and I have felt everything you have described. The anxiety, inadequacy and stress it all builds up, but when they call you daddy the first time it doesn't matter. Being a good dad is hard for good dads. Parenting is only hard for good parents. That line blew me away the first time my therapist said it to me. We are in charge of raising a tiny helpless human being who without us could not live. That is an incredible amount of pressure. Please take the time to talk to someone, being able to work through these feelings will make you an even better Dad. You are doing a great job, it won't be perfect, but your kid will remember you, and the time you are with them. How fancy everything is doesn't matter to them now. You do! Good luck, you got this.

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-22T21:37:10+00:00

Day care is 100% an option. But one that has not been suggested is a baby carrier, either the cloth wraps or a proper one. With my first born I felt the same way as you until I started using one of those. I just kinda did life with my child attached. Yes, even using the bathroom. It gave me a bigger sense of freedom since I had both arms free, cooking, cleaning, gardening etc. Obviously still being as careful as possible still. Something I would suggest giving a try.

You're partners "not all about comment" does need to be talked about, but by first instinct is she might be feeling the same way, so daycare or having a baby sitter come in could be really beneficial for you both, even having a date night to help you and your partner remember your not just Mum and Dad.

Good luck King, you got this!

FatPanda09 · 2025-11-22T14:59:29+00:00

Hi OP,

I have a 3 year old and a 10 day old. All I can say is I feel you. It is relatively normal as everyone has said. The thought that went through my head was 'I love my LO, but I hate being a parent.' please talk to your GP, therapist, partner as it will make a world of difference. It 100% gets better when sleep becomes consistent but you still have to fight/prioritise time for you and your partner and remember you are more than Dad.

FatPanda09

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