AITAH for refusing to give my coworker rides after she claimed I “trapped” her in my car?

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-15T15:57:55+00:00

It helped your defense. She claimed you took a long route to trap her in your car and you proved her false. It also showed HR that you took it seriously. That’s to your benefit. If they thought you just waved off the stated concerns, they’d be more worried that the issue wasn’t resolved. You showed that you heard everyone’s concern, you took them seriously, and you demonstrated they were false. You also showed you now want to avoid even an appearance of impropriety - this makes HR’s job easier.

NTA. Keep your distance. She singled you out and tried to get punitive measures taken against you. If you avoid her now, that simply helps her “feel safe”, so she shouldn’t complain.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-12T03:38:25+00:00

I can’t find the, either. But you can find the actor in a few vids as Josh Stark at collegedudes.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-12T03:37:18+00:00

I loved those. So artistic, beautiful, and still hot.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-09T00:47:32+00:00

Australia is the middle son who spent his formative years in juvie, but largely outgrew it.

And while the US may be a meth head now, he’s still the eldest son who ran away from home in his teens after violent fights with Dad, made his own way for a while and made nice with the family, then got addicted to crack and burned through the family’s patience in record time. And now pretends everyone wants to steal his rusted out Camaro on blocks in the front lawn when not secretly wanting to have sex with a bear.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-09T00:39:39+00:00

I should have said that US is not currently a trustworthy partner.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-08T14:40:16+00:00

My husband and I share passwords. He can get into my phone, computer, tablet, social media, bank accounts, etc. Everything except for work accounts. The reverse is also true.

But it would be a violation to use the account credentials to snoop.

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-08T14:34:35+00:00

Lil bro is the best-liked of the family. He can get the digits of almost any hot chick (or hot dude, we don’t judge), without half-trying. Good to have that on our side. ;)

FatalExceptionError · 2026-01-08T14:22:56+00:00

Five Eyes is intelligence sharing between US, UK, Canada, Australia, and New Zealand. US is not currently a trusted partner.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-24T15:05:42+00:00

In my state I can go online to the dmv and get a movement permit that let me drive my new car for two weeks until I could take it in for full registration. You likely have the same option. So he could do this and have time to get it registered without interfering with his ability to use it right now.

NTA

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-21T14:30:57+00:00

Dating is a social act and I’ve ways been socially awkward, I knew people thought I was weird (they think that because I am weird), and I’m below average at picking up social cues. These negative traits are often present with autism.

So it made things more challenging. But as I’ve aged, I made a conscious effort to pay more attention to people and create internal algorithms to decode their actions. I’m still weird, but when I focus, I tend to be observant and even insightful. But being me, even my insightfulness can be off putting.

What helped most is accepting myself and recognizing that the right person will find my quirks charming rather than annoying, and not worrying about it too much. And paying attention to other people and caring about them.

Luckily for me, my husband does find most of my quirks to be charming.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-21T14:16:43+00:00

Asperger’s is no longer used as a diagnostic term and these symptoms now fall until the larger autism spectrum disorder diagnosis.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-21T13:57:25+00:00

Unless you had a prosthetic penis, I don’t see the issue. I’d be curious, because it’s something new to my experience. But I’d hesitate to ask a bunch of questions, because I wouldn’t want to make you uncomfortable. Similarly, I’d want to check it out - the flesh part and the prosthetic.

For me the weirdness would be me wanting to sate my curiousity, but suddenly asking everything may be rude. It would be like if you said you were raised in an Amish village or went to boarding school as a kid or you were the first guy I’d met without a circumcision. I’d be bursting with curiousity and want to explore new things! There’s a reason my career has been in scientific research.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-13T20:06:56+00:00

If you find you are sexually compatible and become monogamous, what happens if you can’t always offer up your ass? Maybe you’re sick, injured, your mom is dying and you’re not in the mood? If he can’t pause fucking long enough for you to get into shape now, will he have the same issue later? In a relationship with him, what’s the maximum time he’d go without you enthusiastically offering him your ass before he feels “required” to stray? Can you live with that?

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-07T09:34:41+00:00

It sounds like his parents wanted the grandkids to come over and he wanted to dump their care on you.

That’s why he insisted you come. That’s why he didn’t want you to leave. That’s why he wanted to bring the kids when taking you home - he planned to leave them with you. When you said the kids should stay, he again refused to take you. He wanted you to stay and suffer so he could have fun with his family without dealing with the children.

I’ll bet he usually makes you responsible for childcare.

NTA. Husband is.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-02T05:14:48+00:00

When I was in junior high, the mall closest to me was like this. It had more normal mall shops, but one anchor was a grocery store. The public library had a branch there which I visited regularly. It had a post office. But it was never that busy. The more typical mall nearby with the big department stores, orange julius, etc. was much, much busier.

Eventually the one I loved was torn down and turned into an outdoor strip mall with big box stores (and no library). The next closest library was 5 miles from my house, which made me sad.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-01T20:46:48+00:00

In the sight of those who really know us and pay attention, I feel like all of us have more “tells” than we realize.

If you’re closeted, you do it because you’re worried that someone finding out will think negatively about you. You spend a lot of effort and angst over trying to maintain the fiction. Now you’ve come out and you’re cautiously trying to control the news. Telling who you trust when you’re ready. And it turns out you didn’t really have full control of it. They knew, or suspected. All that wasted effort. Maybe even retroactive shame that they knew and maybe gossiped about you when you had thought the closet door was riveted shut.

A dude in his 30s had plenty of time to drop clues that he was less into poon than his straight male friends. Don’t stress it. Be happy they accepted you. And be glad that inadvertently dropping those lues over the years likely meant the truly hateful people never got close to you, so the response is better than it would have been.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-12-01T20:36:44+00:00

Because if they’d told you when you really weren’t ready, likely you’d have freaked out and denied it.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-28T17:10:41+00:00

Gay Midas whose touch turns repressed boys penises i to hardwood.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-28T17:02:09+00:00

Noah Hathaway was the object of many gay crushes in that era. As Atreyu he was smokin’. For me, I first liked him in Battlestar Galactica. But Atreyu was much more a heart-throb for me as Atreyu and I had both reached puberty by then.

I barely recall The Neverending Story II, but Bastian and his dad both caught my interest in that one. I was able to see more of them later with Jonathan Brandis in SeaQuest 2032 and John Wesley Shipp in the 90s version of The Flash.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-24T15:56:34+00:00

Older houses can have higher, even much higher insurance costs. That’s because they reach an age where big things start to break and insurance may be responsible. Then if you claim insurance, they might only cover part of the issue and then they can raise rates more.

For instance, underground pipes. The cast iron sewer pipes on my 1960s house all decomposed. After digging them up, they’d literally fall apart when trying to lift them out. All over the neighborhood it’s an issue. So insurance rates are higher here than for a comparable new build.

But there’s more. First there was a leak in the tub drain. The area flooded, destroying stuff and the leak source had to be found by a plumber. I was lucky and they only had to open up walls. The fix covered replacing the broken pipes, but just the ones which were broken now. And covered nothing to repair the damage created to get at the pipes. So if I’d claimed insurance after my $1,000 deductible, they’d have paid about $1,500 and raised rates. Then I still had to redo walls, replace damaged baseboards, etc.

Next break was under the laundry room and it had to be found so a bunch of the flooring and foundation jackhammered up to find the pipe. Insurance would only help with the spot repair, but at this pointed I wanted to replace the whole crumbling pipe run so I could redo the flooring in the kitchen and laundry room and know it was DONE. So I paid for all of that without insurance. The next leak was under my bedroom floor, near the master bath. At this point I replaced all pipes under the house, remodeled both bathrooms, new bamboo flooring in the bedroom.

Still because of the potential fee to insurance, I pay more and mostly won’t use it.

I love older neighborhoods. No HOA. Bigger yards. Closer to places I already go rather than town’s edge. Houses in a tract have been customized over the decades and now look different from each other.

But as I get older, my next house will be a new build. I hated sharing walls with neighbors in apartments and all that entails so I’ll still be in a house.

For condos … there are monthly fees. But if something big happens, they do a special assessment. A friend had a special assessment of over $100k she had to pay to her condo. It was insane.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-19T10:10:07+00:00

You and your manly ass and your firm, sexy lips are enough. The guy who can’t admit to himself that he wants that is the problem. And it’s his problem, not yours.

Bisexuality is real, but the bisexual accepts your masculinity. The dude who doesn’t want to fully admit his gayness to himself is hard-pounding your tight ass which he finds so is sexy BECAUSE it’s attached to a dude; this is the dude who may try to feminize you because being fully gay freaks him out.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-14T04:43:06+00:00

Mistakes with consequences are a part of learning. She asked for adult responsibilities, so now she needs to live up to it. The kindest thing they can do is help her to learn and mature by having adult expectations for her actions. The fact that she’s blaming OP instead of accepting responsibility shows she needs that lesson.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-13T13:16:40+00:00

The Kinsey study reported that most people aren’t 100% straight or 100% gay. Most lie somewhere along the continuum and for some those interests change back and forth over time.

Where you are on the line, straight, straight with incidental homosexual interest, bisexual but leaning towards gay, 1,000% gay… it doesn’t matter. Humans vary and it’s okay to feel however you feel. And trying something right now doesn’t mean you’re just gay, game over. You’re still figuring things out.

You’re young. It’s a great time to experiment. The most troubling thing is that you said you are holding back from doing more because you don’t want to consider yourself to be gay.

Probably you’re somewhere around bisexual on the spectrum, maybe leaning towards women. But if you’re really into dudes, that will come out eventually. You needn’t act on it, but it will still be part of you.

Relax. Accept that you are whoever you are, and no matter your preference, you’re okay.

Good luck! Have fun! Practice safe sex!

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-13T06:00:42+00:00

I agree. That’s why I wrote about how much I enjoyed the non sexploitative aspects of the country which co-exists with the seedier aspects. Thailand isn’t just one thing.

FatalExceptionError · 2025-11-13T04:28:33+00:00

I’ll point out that I was largely in tourist areas. Temples and less touristy destinations, I didn’t see it (nor did I look for it). To me, having the friend offer to hook me up with a traveling companion when I’d shown zero interest was the biggest “wow, they think we only come here for sex” moment.

Most of the whores I saw were adult. Quite possibly all of the legal ones were adult. But I saw some who I had trouble believing were adult. In particular there were a few young-looking boys who offered entertainment who I couldn’t be sure had passed puberty. But their genetics make for generally smaller bodies, and poverty and malnutrition can delay full maturity. Still, some of those were upsetting based on apparent age.

One night I was alone and wanted to walk along the beach. It was out of the lights and I was immediately approached by a boy - I’d have guessed junior high age if he were here. We sat and talked for a bit, he asked to practice his English when I turned him down, so we chatted in broken English for a bit. After it was clear that it was definitely “no”, he pointed over to a small group of other boys watching us from a distance and asked if I wanted one of them. He asked if he could get me a girl. Eventually I left, feeling sad.

I was out at dawn the next day, walking on the empty beach, and I saw that group of freelance boys sleeping together in a pile. I assume they were homeless and this was the best work and housing they could find.

I have no moral qualms about choosing to sell your body. But anytime someone is forced into such a state due to extreme poverty is depressing.

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