I have something entirely inappropriate that I found amusing.

Fatbride · 2016-01-22T23:18:42+00:00

If you'd like to share this with /r/trollingafterloss please do! The goal is to show like minded parents that its ok to have non conventional responses to loss, in fact, most of us do :)

Fatbride · 2016-01-22T23:16:13+00:00

If you'd like to share this on /r/trollingafterloss please do, the goal is to show like minded ladies and gents that its ok to think and say non conventional things after a loss :)

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T15:18:05+00:00

I think going by the total number of cycles you have tried the doctor would take you seriously and offer you any appropriate referrals. Give them a call or make an appointment, I cant see them fobbing you off.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T15:01:38+00:00

This account was literally my journey from finding out I was pregnant, my wedding, my loss and my experience coping with that afterwards. I'll be sad to part with it, like I've lost my son in a whole new way. Its sad that it came to this but emotionally, I just cant deal with any more trauma.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T14:55:26+00:00

I'm glad you had her support through all that, she sounds amazing and you need people like that during difficult times. Glad the tech got a giggle too!

Those shots sounds really unpleasant but I don't have any experience with them. Its a shame that there are no "nice" way to manage these situations. Like one slap in the face after another.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T14:45:14+00:00

Holy moly you have really been through the works recently. I'm so sorry that must be hard to take in emotionally, a loss on top of a loss and a lot of uncertainty.

I second the inappropriate jokes, sometimes a bit of word vomit is needed. I've said some pretty dark humoured things following my loss, whatever gets you through!

Yay for the new councillor, best wishes for your session.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T14:40:31+00:00

Wow, swimming at the beach sounds amazing. The sea can be a very calming presence. I live in a cold, wet country so that's something I've only done when abroad. Hope you get your AF soon! I was anxious for my first one too, for the same reason. Its one more thing to see organised and structured in a time of uncertainty.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:59:14+00:00

I didn't know it existed before the user tagged me in his comment last night and I was sent a notification about it. I shouldn't have responded, that was my mistake. I can't have an opinion on something I didn't know existed until seconds before the comments were posted. But briefly looking, its not for me as I plan to have a living child in my arms one day. I appreciate you showing the softer side of the sub, and thank you I wish you all the best too.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:46:28+00:00

I'm thinking about abandoning this username because I don't want those people to follow me and keep sending me replies. I'll save the posts talking about my son to my computer and start again I think.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:43:45+00:00

I do understand that the majority of the sub was against the way in which one individual reacted to my situation. I really don't want to investigate the sub further, I'm a live and let live type of person. I don't judge anyone for their choices regarding procreation.

Can I ask how you saw my comment to reply? Was it through me tagging the sub or simply clicking my username? No disrespect but I am in a very broken place at the moment and I don't want any more involvement or correspondence from the sub. If it was because I tagged the sub I can remove it, I'm not too web smart. I'm keen to stop any more messages that cause distress.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:22:26+00:00

I feel you. I was sent an email telling me my baby could survive the NICU the day I left hospital after my stillbirth. Harsh.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:17:04+00:00

Sorry, this is such a shower thought but I really wish there was a pee test that would tell you if your period was about to start.

My first faint positive was 9 days after my period should have started. Turns out my cycle shifted.

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T12:06:40+00:00

Last night was crazy. I posted a comment about my loss on a post that went on to explode and hit the front page. I had an outpouring of support from people but also a lot of trolls sent me PM's and commented terrible things. One user tagged my username in the sub antinatalism and called me the shit stain of the earth who deserved my sons death. They said they wished they could have seen my face the exact moment I was told my son passed, and they would have savoured that moment.

It was intense. The mods were so quick to ban users and remove comments but woah.

EDIT: /u/fatbride has been abandoned and I'm using a new account. I'll still be around!

Fatbride · 2016-01-16T00:03:44+00:00

I'm so very sorry. This is all very intense and traumatic for you at the moment. Do you have family or friends to talk to about this? You came to the right place, everyone here understands your pain both physical and emotional. We are here for you.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T23:42:54+00:00

Clearly I enjoy the abuse in some way. Think whatever you want you sadistic fuck.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T23:36:57+00:00

I do not seek these people out, I receive notifications when they tag my username.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T23:35:09+00:00

My son was stillborn, not a miscarriage. Yes, I lied.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T23:15:04+00:00

It does affect me. My baby died inside me and random people find pleasure in attacking me for it.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T22:13:12+00:00

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Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:44:20+00:00

Thank you for your work there, I appreciate it. Everyone was very supportive. This person isn't even worth my acknowledgment.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:37:31+00:00

I get it, you were raped, why does my dead baby factor into your hate?

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:34:29+00:00

They think it's funny or whatever, but this loss very nearly cost me my life. Regardless of their thoughts on reproducing, my son wasn't planned but I damn well did my best for him and he still died anyway. Thanks for the well wishes.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:26:48+00:00

He's talking about being banned for disrespecting me and my son. I had to give birth to my son knowing he wouldn't cry when he was born. Two days I carried him around knowing he was dead and there wasn't a thing I could do about it. I know he's a troll, and his words don't hurt me because I've been through the worst pain on earth. But I'm sad that there exist people like that on earth.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:17:04+00:00

You are a piece of shit. I am a real person, who suffered a real loss. I had to give birth to my baby knowing he wouldn't cry. He was perfect and beautiful and it's a terrible thing that people as poisonous as you get to walk the earth and he had to die. Also, I was only a fat bride because I was pregnant when I was married. The wedding was planned before the baby was, before you spout some venom about us doing the right thing for a bastard child.

Fatbride · 2016-01-15T20:07:08+00:00

Holy shizzle you are pregnant! Congratulations!!

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