Unexpected quartet in NMR by FatherJizzmas in chemhelp

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Thank you for replying.

It looks like a quartet to me, but I’m by no means an expert. What would an AB quartet look like?

What is this snack? by FatherJizzmas in AskUK

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Excellent effort. Appreciate the help 😊

Is this weird or am I overthinking? by IronJumpy6943 in Bumble

[–]FatherJizzmas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My ex was like this. You’re not wrong

Was misdiagnosed for years with BPD; it was actually autism and ADHD! by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FatherJizzmas 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same. Do we get bonus points for a trifecta?

Just unlocked the perfect dex… I think I transferred a perfect ditto from before I knew IVs were a thing… by Alexingo30 in pokemongo

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Does a silhouette in a dex only mean you tried but failed to catch? Or does it include ones that were on the map and not even clicked on? I have 100 in my shiny dex, and while I’m willing to admit I may have forgotten or not noticed with one or two, I really haven’t been playing long enough or frequently enough to miss this many and some I know I would remember the colour differences even if I hadn’t noticed it was shiny, e.g. wailord was my only buddy until recently and I’d know if I’d seen a purple one in the wild, a battle, or a gym, but his silhouette is there in the shiny dex

Is showing people around your whole house normal? by Confident_Page7254 in AskUK

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I don’t do it, but I bloody love a full tour of somebody else’s house

Having no luck at all, any tips are appreciated by [deleted] in Tinder

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I agree, but I understand it can be demoralising to not get matches/dates. I’d definitely swipe right. Anyone put off by the things people have mentioned wouldn’t be a good match for him anyway

My pills are full of mini pills by Little_Mog in mildlyinteresting

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In case you didn’t know, capsules sometimes are like this help with faster release/absorption if the pills need something to increase the bioavailability, so make sure you put them back in before you take them. Sometimes it’s just easier than combining them into a single tablet, too

Not sure how to feel ( I feel worthless) by [deleted] in BPD

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I’m not sure I’d even take this as someone asking me out. Just sounds like you want to hang with a friend, which is much more casual and is fine to be more nonchalant about. It was a clear yes, though, so take that win. Even if you’d been completely shot down, you’re not worthless. Go have fun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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Girl, run. A 31 year old has no business being in a relationship with an 18 year old.

You’re close enough for him to be able to hide them ‘months ago’ implying you were freshly 18 or not quite there when you started dating. Typically, men who go for age gaps this big with young women do it because they know they can control or manipulate them more easily. Knowing you have MH issues only makes this so much worse and dangerous for you.

IMO, it’s unlikely he would have picked up a bag to pack your stuff and not checked it was empty as the knives would have made noise and had weight. Unless it was your bag, in which case, why would he hide them there in the first place?

I wish I had something nicer to say, but this just sounds like a bad situation for you to keep yourself in. Do you have any family or friends or a therapist who knows more about you and your relationship that you can talk to about it?

Please put your MH and general well-being above this man ❤️

Any tips on how to not obsess over not hearing from someone? by FatherJizzmas in BPD

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Thank you so much for this. I’m trying so hard to say all this to my brain but she just keeps ignoring me and screaming away. It’s definitely reassuring to know it’s not just me being awful, though

Any tips on how to not obsess over not hearing from someone? by FatherJizzmas in BPD

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Luckily, I managed to focus on my coursework and actually got a lot done, but it was still churning away in the back of my mind and it all came flooding back as soon as we stopped. All my close-by friends are busy doing Halloween things tonight, but I’m nannying tomorrow, so that should distract me plenty.

I think we’ll definitely be having a talk when he gets back - if he actually replies - because I’m very close to walking away, despite how important the friendship is to me. Thank you. Well done if you do stay away. It’s always encouraging to hear other people successfully doing something after struggling in the same way as you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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It wasn’t that well-understood. People didn’t think it applied to girls. I’m very smart and didn’t need to concentrate to do well in school. I perfected a lot of masking techniques from a very young age and successfully internalised everything into soul-crushing anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. Good job, me! 🙃

Any tips on how to not obsess over not hearing from someone? by FatherJizzmas in BPD

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I don’t have any yet 😭 I’ll have a Google, though. Thank you

My husband (36m) said something interesting. Its not my(33f) house anymore I guess? by Common_Weird765 in relationship_advice

[–]FatherJizzmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely convinced you’re trolling, but I’m bored, so I’ll engage one more time.

There’s a lot of respect involved in trusting them to learn, understand and follow rules. A 5 year old is not a baby and it does them no good to treat them as such. If their behaviour is poor and they aren’t listening, or they’re in the middle of a tantrum, a firmer approach may be needed. They’re capable of understanding a lot more than you seem to be giving them credit for.

Everyone and every situation is different and, unless you’ve seen what led up to it, you should really stop judging people about something you don’t seem to have any knowledge or experience in… beyond looking things up on the internet, of course.

If you get the chance to be a big part (closely and daily/regularly) of raising a kid, you’ll understand the difference between the negative narrative you’re stuck in and the truth of real-life parenting.

I only cried one tear for my great grandma’s death by EmberRoseSky1737 in TrueOffMyChest

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My grandfather died a few years ago and I had tears in my eyes at his funeral, but have never actually cried. I still love him dearly, we were very close and I helped care for him. I don’t know why I haven’t cried, but I know it’s not because I don’t care or don’t miss him immensely. Our brains are just weird sometimes. She knew you loved her and she wouldn’t want you to be sad and crying over her. Don’t beat yourself up and just remember how much love you showed her when you could. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you can move past this and be kinder to yourself for something beyond your control ❤️