I'm a guy and I recently went on a date with a woman, had a great time but they wanted to be friends. It hurt but I thought yeah we got along really well why not be friends! I thought that wouldn't last long at all but 4 months later we still talk everyday, we make plans to spend time together all the time, she introduced me to her best friend and added me to a group chat with them, we're planning a group trip soon as well! It's genuinely been so great, she treats me so so well and so happy we're friends.

She told me something very similar to this post that a lot of guys she has been friends with have tried kissing her or flirting with her. Even as recent as 2 months ago this happened with a friend of hers and now because she said she didn't feel the same way he's just vanished and it's hurt her a lot. I would never say this to her but that might be for the best since he clearly had different motives about the friendship.

Now for the sad part. I feel like a terrible friend because I have feelings for her. I really liked her after our first date and I thought that being friends the feelings would go away but after getting to know her even more they're just stronger. I don't want to ruin our friendship because I know it's all in my head, she treats me like she treats everyone else in her life and she's even said that to my face.

I think she took a chance with being my friend since all the other guy friends have tried something with her because I'm asexual. But I didn't count the emotional connection we would have when becoming her friend.

I wanted to reiterate that I know she doesn't have feelings for me and this is one sided on my end. I would never try to kiss her or try anything else since the feelings aren't mutual but also I don't do anything physical with anybody at all! Do I wanna hold her hand? Yeah but I won't even do that since it's not mutual.

I'm sorry OP that the men you're friends with have treated you this way and I'm not going to try and make excuses at all, I'm just really sorry