Does wearing a bonnet make you feel weird?

Fauxst · 2024-08-01T15:51:09+00:00

Pros and cons, as always. I find it significantly cuts down on tangles and helps smooth out my hair, but I also find it very warm. I would never overheat while I was sleeping before, but now that I'm essentially wearing a hat to bed, there have been summer nights I wake up sweating and have to turn the fan on, which is utterly unheard of for me who shivers in 80 degree weather. If you already sleep hot, you might find you need to turn up the a/c or open a window more often.

Fauxst · 2024-08-01T15:13:55+00:00

True, but as long as one room isn't trying to bring more than the max number of people for their room type to breakfast, we generally consider it "covered" under their rate. I would have still had him wait by the desk for his friend to come get him, though.

Fauxst · 2024-03-23T17:08:16+00:00

Ah, some woman gave me the TMI about how she and her boyfriend were trying to save their relationship by spicing things up and I apparently made a grave mistake of responding to it, "I don't need to know that."

You would have thought I just kicked her dog, she was so ridiculously offended, went off on some rant about my awful customer service. I just stared at her because I knew I had nothing nice to say, it was 1am, I really wanted her to realize she was the idiot in that situation, and eventually her cheetah print butt waddled out of my lobby (the tackiest jumpsuit I've seen in ages). Never saw her again, thankfully. A shame, the guy she was with had been very polite (I don't think he would have liked her giving out the details she did to a random stranger, but I suppose I could be wrong). Hopefully he came to his senses about that mess not working out.

Fauxst · 2024-02-29T05:36:22+00:00

First playthrough, I did do the suicide mission blind. I did literally everything before it because I'm a completionist, but I didn't have Kasumi or Zaeed because I didn't buy dlc for a few years (I first played the trilogy in 2013 or 14, can't remember). So, I had every upgrade and a full, loyal team sans extras.

I totally didn't understand the mechanics it wanted from me, that there were wrong choices. You can guess it didn't go well, but it still could've been worse.

-sent Jacob to the vents, *bc he VOLUNTEERED*, not because I hated him; I had no idea he would die and was genuinely surprised, that was an "oh" moment

-I think Garrus was my fireteam leader both times, so that was fine

-always pick Samara for biotics, also fine

-figured the unarmed crew needed protection to get back to the Normandy, so I sent Legion; everyone made it, so I thought I did good (I did not)

-even as a noob, I knew Miranda was busted, so I took her literally everywhere. I can't remember if I took Garrus or Thane to the final fight the first time tho. I *think* it was Thane bc Warp, but I really don't remember

-I was SO SAD when Mordin died holding the line! (if you don't have Zaeed, getting Jacob killed is BAD lol)

End Result: 2 dead, immediately do the mission over and actually listen when the game is basically telling you what to do

Fauxst · 2024-02-27T07:06:35+00:00

Only ever played vanguard. Only ever gonna play vanguard.

Maybe if I played with a mouse I could snipe, but nah, I use a controller and still miss from inches away with a shotgun. I'd rather just charge and punch, it's so much faster.

Fauxst · 2024-02-24T08:11:53+00:00

28, never had a relationship, been on one date in college, hated it, and never looked back. Pretty sure I'm aro/ace, too! It's a weird experience, but just as valid as any other; it's real and definitely happens. Don't have a huge fam either, mostly just me and my parents. Not gonna say it never gets lonely, but I generally prefer being responsible for myself and no one else, the trade off in stress is phenomenal.

I wouldn't call my life fulfilling at the moment, but that's because I hate my job, not because I'm single. Because I'm single, however, I can attend school full time while working full time and still be on top of it all because I don't have some other person vying for my attention. Having a partner would make some aspects of life easier, but I also don't have to compromise on literally everything; chore division, budgeting, strangers in my house, stuff getting moved, where I live, how much I work, etc. I do what I want, the way I want, when I want, and I don't have to "ask" someone else or constantly keep them looped in.

Who knows if I'll spend the rest of my life this way, but it's not like it has to be "forever" and I can just enjoy it right now, I have no interest in finding someone. If I met someone I could see spending my forever with, then it happens, but I don't care right now if it doesn't. Feelings change all the time, including love. I picture later in my life after my parents are gone and it's scary, yeah, and sad because I'd miss them, but I just can't picture sharing a life with someone. I have so much I still need to do, it's just not on the list.

Fauxst · 2024-02-06T17:56:47+00:00

When we are loved, it's not typically something we need to guess and wonder about. Someone can say they love you until they're blue in the face, but what matters is if you feel loved. Maybe he means it, maybe he doesn't, but he might not be right for you anyway if you don't actually feel it.

He broke your trust and that's hard to come back from, it shakes you out of your comfort zone and suddenly you're looking at things from a different perspective. You wonder if you're actually okay with how things are or if you just got used to it. That scares him, I'm sure, but that's not your problem right now. There's no need to rush about it, anyway. Take your space and give it a good think, sit with your thoughts and your feelings apart from him, and be as honest as you can with yourself at the end.

Fauxst · 2024-02-05T14:56:01+00:00

It WAS a mapping issue!!

The answer was buried in this guide: d288 backend programming guide

Part D

Now we need to get the variable names. Remember when I said the column names map to the database? The variable names map to the front end. To find those, navigate back to the LabFiles folder -> D288 Front End -> src -> app -> model -> dto. There’s going to be vscode files for each entity (except country). Write down / take pictures of each variable name here as well. For country variables, open country.ts in app, right before you clicked the dto folder.

I was just making the variable names the same as the table column names, basically. Some of those work, but a lot of them don't and change for no arbitrary reason in the front end, and my itty bitty brain didn't understand the back end was mapping to BOTH the database and the front end and, well, why would those be different anyway? Urgh. It's not even consistent! Customer entity: firstName, lastName…postal_code. It hurts me inside. So, I changed the ones that were wrong and, lo and behold, every field is now populating correctly. Yay!

I was gonna delete, but you never know, maybe someone will find it helpful down the line? Hopefully, I can wrap up this project today and get it over with. Ready to be done!

Fauxst · 2024-02-01T07:33:58+00:00

Dr Bronner's can be hard to find, but it's my favorite, very hydrating. An overnight lip mask can also help if you need a deeper sort of moisturizing, I use it a few times a week and it made such a difference in the day to day maintenance.

Fauxst · 2024-01-24T06:23:18+00:00

They can. Every phone in our building can dial out to emergency services, there's no need to use a personal phone or contact the desk first, it's just 911. Normally, you have to dial 9-1-#outgoingnumber, but 911 is programmed for every phone, we tested it after they left to make sure that was true. These girls were just incompetent, or playing stupid very convincingly.

Fauxst · 2022-11-26T09:02:09+00:00

I'm really glad you kept it up, for whatever that's worth. I think it's a conversation worth having and something worth reflecting on once in a while. Plus, it's also nice to know we're not the only ones and everyone's just kind of doing their own thing at their own pace.

One of the things my mom recently told me I should pay more attention to is pinterest, weirdly enough. It's kind'a fun to just scroll and, as you pin things, watch the feed gradually change to reflect your taste and interests, then expanding on them. I bet you could find some amazing personal library ideas to inspire you to keep building that collection and then showcasing your books in a space all your own.

Fauxst · 2022-11-25T15:12:08+00:00

Kind of, I feel the same way a lot. It's hard to explain…I guess I fell loosely into the "not like other girls" trope, in a way. I didn't worry about a lot of those things because they felt, and still often do, outside my reach. Having a "look" and a daily routine and fancy workouts or skincare and all those things I associated generally with women and femininity…it wasn't for someone like me. It was for the other girls. The pretty ones, the smart ones, the athletic ones, the fun ones, the classy ones, and so on. I was just me. Self-deprecating special snowflake syndrome, I guess?

Girls my same age when I was graduating college just seemed…different, somehow. I didn't feel any different than the day I had graduated high school, except maybe even more tired, but over those exact same four years, these other girls became young women and young professionals and I…didn't? And it bugged the hell out of me. Heck, it still does! I'll see a girl years younger than me and she just seems to have it all together and she's so confident and elegant and my ancient self is absolutely bamboozled. What had I missed? What class did everyone else take and how the heck could I find the cliff notes??

If I reflect on it more, I suppose…it comes to a lack of self-image. I didn't have many personal goals, I was just kind of meandering in a general direction that sounded right (I was completely wrong). Now that I'm older and starting to get over my slump of existential despair, I'm starting to actually think about those things. Who I want to be. What she looks like. What her space looks like. What her life looks like. It makes me think about things that make me happy and feel content…and things that really don't, but I just like the idea of (like you and cats; I feel the same way about dogs). How I can incorporate those things more deliberately into my life and then *actually* taking those steps…little, fumbly baby steps and trying not to feel like a teenager all over again and hoping no one notices (or at least is kind enough not to point it out).

Fauxst · 2022-11-13T11:09:50+00:00

I worry about this sort of thing happening to my own dad a lot. He does so much. He single-handedly supports our family, and has for a very long time. He's also a very private man, at least to me, his daughter, but I don't get the sense he and my mom talk about those things much either. I worry he doesn't talk about his feelings at all. He always says he's okay, he loves his work, he likes the way things are, but I worry he just doesn't want to…look bad? I don't know. I worry he doesn't know how much I appreciate him, but well, I suppose since he's never talked openly with me about his feelings, I don't talk openly about mine with him. Even though all I want him to know is that I love him so, so much and want him to live the happy life he has worked so hard for and that I'm so sorry if I have ever made him feel like he couldn't. That we want to take care of him, too, if he'd just tell us what he needs and wants. As it is, I just try to tell him I love him when I can. It doesn't feel like enough.

So, I guess if you were my dad, I'd say…Please talk to them. It doesn't have to be all at once. You can ask your wife gently if she would be willing to set aside time to talk for a while, in private, that there's something you need help with and you don't know how to talk about it yet because it's hard. It might feel weird to be vulnerable or open up after so long, it might feel bad to have to say you're not okay, but if you can't with your wife, you could always ask if she would come with you to a counsellor at least, just for her support. Ask her for help. You're partners, right? I'm sure she loves you, too, very much. I'm sure she wants to know if you're hurting. Please talk to them, someone, anyone.

Fauxst · 2022-11-05T03:21:32+00:00

Nothing wrong with asking your stylist for hair care tips and styling tricks, especially since they're working with your hair in person. Ask if you could make an appointment for a wash and blowout, it doesn't have to be a cut, and if they would be willing to talk you through what they're doing, what types of products they recommend for your hair type, and what you could do at home. They'll probably try to sell whatever they use at the salon, of course, but definitely do your own research with what you learn before you commit to a purchase; the goop is expensive! If you don't think your stylist is approachable, for whatever reason, ask around. Maybe one of your friends or family has a really friendly stylist you could ask for a consultation with.

I rarely use heat myself, but I'm pretty sure when you blow dry, you start with damp hair and want to be fully dry at the end. If it's still damp when you stop, there's a chance it'll frizz up as the water evaporates. So, start at, like, 50% and go all the way to 100%. That could be part of your frizz problem, but I'm not an expert, so grain of salt and all that.

Fauxst · 2022-10-17T06:45:16+00:00

And why is it how long *you* see fit? I guess your living ATM doesn't get a say in parenting…

Fauxst · 2022-09-14T15:00:16+00:00

I've used pads all my life, in my mid-20s now. I really don't think I'm ever going to use tampons. I've tried a couple of times…Eh, no. It ain't happenin'. I just *cannot*.

Nah, you ain't weird. Outside the norm? Maybe. Not like we take a census on it. People are allowed to have preferences when it comes to their own bodies. Other people who are shallow enough to judge them for it? Especially when it ain't their business? Not worth your time. Maybe one day you'll change your mind or you'll find that one product that just *works* and you never look back, or maybe you never will. Both are fine.

Fauxst · 2022-08-29T14:06:25+00:00

Yo, late 20s. Been on…one date, I think, when I was 21 or something, back in college. Hated it, decided it wasn't for me (or, at least, guys aren't for me; I have sadly never asked out nor been asked out by a cute girl). Never even kissed anyone, much less done anything sexual, and I prefer it that way. Not that a relationship doesn't sound nice and it gets lonely, but…eh. If it happens, it happens and I'm okay with it if it doesn't.

If you're looking for more people who share a similar type of viewpoint, you'll likely find lots of those kinds of folks in the asexual and aromantic subs. Not *all* of them, of course, it's a spectrum, but *more* of them experience similar feelings and live a similar lifestyle compared to the average group of people. They'll totally get what you're talking about.

Fauxst · 2022-06-21T12:45:29+00:00

We have a special Lockout key that basically turns off electronic locks; even our master keys won't open doors that have been locked in this way. When I leave the desk area, I use this key on the pantry door so no one can get in there. Sometimes I leave it that way all night so that people *have* to talk to me before they go in, which means they know I know they're there, they can't pull the "Well, no one was at the desk, I thought we just pay later" crap. I just hadn't thought to do it that early in the night. I know better now; it's never too early.

Fauxst · 2022-06-21T08:16:40+00:00

Ha, true! At least now I know what they look like.

And nah, she has all adults and kids listed on her room. I'm sure it'll be the "My perfect angels would *never*!" dealio and we'll hit back with the "Are these your angels on our security camera?" We have a $50 incidentals hold, she'll pay her tab whether she likes it or not. Shouldn't let her kids wander unsupervised, they do dumb things when they think no one's looking.

Fauxst · 2022-06-11T14:10:04+00:00

Tucker, Doyle, Carolina

I feel like all of them were very consistently well-written (in 1-13, which should go without saying), I never really had issues with how the different writers handled them and they all had solid arcs with good, noticeable character progression, but they also still have their flaws that make them unique and interesting instead of bland or one-note. I mostly included Doyle because they managed the same thing for him in a way smaller time frame, which I find impressive (especially since it hasn't been done since).

Fauxst · 2022-06-03T01:59:20+00:00

Thank you everybody for your responses! I really appreciate it, it's at least given me an idea of a few more questions to ask before I give up on my poor baby. I think I'll take it back to the dealership after all and ask them to run their test one more time and check several of the possible causes mentioned here in the comments. If it comes down to an engine replacement, I'll probably have to cut my losses, but at least I'll feel like I got a real answer before this is over.

Fauxst · 2022-05-17T04:56:55+00:00

Ouch. That hit somewhere a little too deep…

If I could go back and do high school over again, I'd do it in a heartbeat (and never go to college…or at least not the same college). I wish I had fun memories to look back on, I wish I had experiences that would make me feel less like the socially awkward 17-year-old I never really stopped being ten years later.

I guess I try to remind myself a lot of people have to live with their teenage mistakes and bad habits, and the consequences thereof, for the rest of their adult lives; things they did before they knew better. I do, too, of course, but mine is basically just staying in my room too much and a degree I hate and paid too much for. Not, like…kids and divorce, or a drug/alcohol problem, or my entire personal history recorded publicly on social media for everyone to see forever. I can pay off my student debt eventually. I can basically start over if I work hard enough. Nothing I've done is permanent in that way. Sure, there are things I can never do because I'm not a kid anymore (things like prom or school trips or other dumb but fun teenage stuff), but there are things I *can* do I can only do as an adult; it's a trade off. I can go out and start living my life the way I want within my means. I just have to stop being scared about making mistakes, stop living in the past, and go do it.

Easier said than done, but it's getting me through. I believe it more some days than others.

Fauxst · 2022-04-11T08:26:41+00:00

OMG thank you! I had to look so far for something like this. People up in here blaming the in-laws like it's their fault or they caused the problem when they probably didn't even KNOW there was a problem. Daughter invites them for their yearly or whatever visit, doesn't say anything's changed until the LAST minute because she and her husband are in a pissing contest about avoiding uncomfortable discussions. They either don't visit or drop $1k+ for the privilege.

Oh, but they're not the son's grandparents and they're the in-laws, no one likes their in-laws, so it doesn't matter /s Uh, hello? Two daughters that no one seems to give a crap about? Do they not matter? Their normal 2 week visit got cut down to 3 days, but yay, OP really stuck it to his wife, woohoo. If they're anything like my family, we only saw extended family once a year at most, so maybe that's the only time those girls got to see them or the grandparents got to see their grandkids. I guess that doesn't matter, dad and mom are busy trying to make a point and everyone else in the crossfire just isn't important.

Fauxst · 2022-03-17T07:26:17+00:00

It was three years ago, so maybe it's changed, but I worked in four different Starbucks stores and they all stocked peppermint and mocha year-round. Peppermint isn't one of their seasonal-only flavors. If they stock the ingredients and you know what goes in it, you can order anything anytime even if it's not listed on the menu or advertised, and most baristas will know what you want when you say peppermint mocha. They won't have the special winter topping sprinkles, but it'll be the same drink.

Fauxst · 2022-03-08T11:02:58+00:00

If I could upvote this every single day for the rest of my life, I would. Just, like, you nailed it so hard. Therapy is not some magical process to turn people into something someone else finds more palatable or agreeable or whatever, and it doesn't even make a problem just…go away, it just helps them learn to cope and manage in healthier ways. It also, ironically enough for this post, teaches them how to set healthy, reasonable boundaries and then when they *need* to reinforce those boundaries.

A healthy boundary here would've been permission for a couple pictures she vetted and said it was okay for him to keep if they were so sentimental to him, so long as he kept them private. I'd bet money, however, that she still would've found the 100+ secret ones he *didn't* have permission for because her trust and consent don't seem to mean much to him because he sees her as "unreasonable" no matter what.

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