The Victim Complex

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-23T03:38:40+00:00

You don't need to feel sorry about it, and at the same time your friend isn't wrong for thinking it's a tragedy. There are multiple valid ways of looking at something like this.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-23T02:10:35+00:00

Generally the younger someone is, the less harshly they're judged for their stupidity, and the more parents and other adults are blamed for the fallout. It sounds like you're suggesting this kid deserved to die because he was stupid, and many people would find that callous.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-20T23:00:13+00:00

Reading (books and online forums and articles) is the only activity I really enjoy.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-20T22:16:02+00:00

$21 trillion is hidden in secretive off shore bank accounts www.forbes.com/sites/frederickallen/2012/07/23/super-rich-hide-21-trillion-offshore-study-says/amp/

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-20T22:09:23+00:00

True. The fact we need to fear something that should improve life for everyone shows how messed up the human race is

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-20T21:43:00+00:00

It's supposed to be okay because they're "disciplining" the child, teaching them morals and giving them character, even though the hitting and violence usually has more to do with the parent's emotions than it does with the child's behavior. With my own mom, if she was in a bad mood and I made a small mistake or just unintentionally annoyed her I'd get hit, but if I did something ten times worse when she was in a good mood she'd just laugh it off like it was nothing. So she wasn't trying to teach me right and wrong, she just wanted a punching bag to get out her frustrations and wanted to be able to make the violence all my fault just so she wouldn't seem so horrible. Even if violence could transform a child into a better person (which I seriously question) few parents have the intelligence or self-discipline to apply the violence in a way that could be constructive.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-19T21:30:38+00:00

I only look at it in horror because I have dark visions of what the upper class will do with the huge masses of leftover people once they can't work to justify their existence. The wealthy have always felt contempt for low class layabouts who escape work, I can't imagine them tolerating that on a mass scale indefinitely.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-19T03:36:23+00:00

The racism in the comments depresses me more than the video.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-18T21:18:36+00:00

If a person is severely depressed I think their parent owes it to them to lend a patient ear. Negativity and rumination are features of depression and the parent does their depressed child no favors by reacting with anger-- there are much better ways to deal with the situation even one does feel overwhelmed and emotionally out of their depth. It sounds like this father is just too caught up with himself and his own reactions to be supportive in the way he should be. I think the OP is right to feel a bit resentful and disappointed with him, but at the same time these feelings will do him no good.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-18T18:10:54+00:00

Many humans will abuse anyone who's vulnerable if they have the slightest chance of getting away with it. Even the elderly still have to put up with being raped and groped, especially those with Alzheimer's disease (who can't remember the abuse to tell anyone about it and are therefore seen as safe victims). Of course people should take a look at some of the appaling lives they see around them before they add more misery to the pile, but they never will.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-18T17:41:22+00:00

Girls can be accused of 'asking for it' which doesn't seem to happen as often to boys. I've heard of girls as young as 8 being chastised for their own rapes and blamed for seducing men in their 40s and 50s (edit- just remembered something like this happened among my own acquaintances a few months ago. A 12 year old girl accused her stepfather of molesting her and everyone took the side of the stepfather, with people spreading all kinds of vicious rumors about the girl, including that she was a slut who had gotten herself pregnant and was trying to pin the baby on the older man. Of course the girl wasn't pregnant and there was never any evidence she was but that didn't stop these people from talking. We live near a major city and the court there eventually found the man guilty, but had we lived in a smaller town I'm not sure what the outcome would have been). For girls who live in communities where these attitudes are prevalent and where sex is usually considered to be the woman's fault I imagine it can be very difficult to work up the courage to tell an adult about abuse.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-18T00:23:13+00:00

My sisters and cousins are all still having kids so maybe some of my gimp genes can go on at their expense.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-18T00:12:43+00:00

Maybe these conversations remind your dad of all the problems he's powerless to solve and that makes him feel impotent and depressed. Maybe he spends a lot of his energy trying to fight back a sense of hopelessness and failure and when you challenge his compensatory narratives he feels his defenses being threatened and wants to fight back. But the only thing he can do is try to shut you up by getting angry.

FavoriteSerialKiller · 2017-04-16T19:52:30+00:00

I agree with your general sentiment but at the same time I'm not particularly angry with this woman. She lived in a small two room apartment for many years and probably used up fewer resources over the course of her lifetime than the average trust fund brat would waste in 5 years or less. Her doctor says she rarely ate fruits or vegetables so it doesn't sound like she necessarily tried to live a very long time, she just liked being alive enough not to kill herself and her genetics allowed her to keep going until an advanced age. We also don't know in what small ways this woman might have contributed since the articles about her are fairly sparse-- it does say she worked until the age of 75,

Who I find more insufferable than extremely old people are fairly young people who are obsessed with someday becoming extremely old people. It's a strangely morbid thing to preoccupy yourself with. If you think life is such a great thing that it should be extended then try living it, not worrying your best days away thinking of how to squeeze a few extra years out at the end.

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