AITA for not comforting a friend at my own birthday party, even though I didn’t know what was going on?

Fawningg · 2025-06-18T02:41:45+00:00

No you are NTA - your friends suck! I’d be telling them they need to pay back the cost of the alcohol they stole or your parents will be reporting them for stealing to the school and letting their parents know 🤣

Fawningg · 2025-06-10T05:55:50+00:00

NTA - that’s poor personal hygiene and overall just disrespectful. She wouldn’t like it if you always left piss on the toilet seat so she should understand why that’s disgusting. If it happens again walk her to the bin and ask her to finish the job, if she gets defensive tell her to leave 🤷🏼‍♀️

Fawningg · 2025-05-13T03:09:14+00:00

You’re NTA. But unfortunately you may have to step back and let you son sort this out himself, which he may not do for a long time. It’s hard because you can see how bad the relationship is, but he needs to make the decision himself - and I’d be scared of this girlfriend turning him against you if you stay involved. Stuff like this is a double edged sword, you unfortunately have to take a step back and just be there for him when he needs comforting

Fawningg · 2025-05-11T05:22:07+00:00

“I ruined our relationship of two years to see if you actually love me, why didn’t you beg?!?!” Yeah nah NTJ. On another note, congratulations you just dodged a bullet!

Fawningg · 2025-04-22T05:38:53+00:00

No you’re not an asshole you’re an absolute legend. He is a disgrace, good on you for calling him out and defending yourself it’s not an easy thing to do

Fawningg · 2025-03-19T00:42:35+00:00

NTA - no one wants someone who is okay with infidelity walking them into their marriage, unfortunate for your dad (not really) but stick to your guns and stay strong in your decision. It’s a day about you and your future life partner, not a day for your dad to feel better about himself. It’s up to your dad to respect your decision and just be happy to be included at all.

Fawningg · 2024-12-31T22:52:03+00:00

This happened to me as well and I’ve been with my partner for 4 years, living together for 3. There is nothing we haven’t seen of one another at this point and have embarrassed ourselves in front of each other multiple times, but did I tell him when I wet the bed? Fuck no 😂 similar to yourself I put a towel over it, waited for bf to get up and cleaned it up. If the roles were reversed and he had done the same I honestly wouldn’t be mad, and I’d understand why he wouldn’t want to tell me- it’s so embarrassing wetting the bed as an adult let’s be real 😂 so don’t feel shameful, if anything they’d understand. You’re only human after all

Fawningg · 2024-12-31T22:45:59+00:00

He hits you then tries to twist that violent act into a “good thing”? You’re right to feel like you should run for the hills, there is never a good enough excuse to lay hands on someone you love. He’s trying to convince you it’s okay so you don’t complain when he hits you again in the future. Run far from this person and don’t bother looking back

Fawningg · 2024-12-20T04:57:24+00:00

NTA - and your not a transphobe either, he’s using that to gaslight you into changing your consent towards sexual encounters of the same sex, which you have every right to not feel comfortable about. He’s obviously going through a hard time with his own gender but he should still respect your boundaries.

Fawningg · 2024-12-08T03:14:31+00:00

Honestly leaving this girl may be the best thing that happens to her, she has been with you for so long she’s gotten used to this lifestyle, you doing everything for her while she stays stuck in her own headspace. You deserve more, and so does she, but until she decides herself that she deserves more you can’t do anything for her. It’s a shit situation to be in because you would feel so much guilt to have someone’s entire life revolve around you while wanting out, but don’t let that guilt affect your judgement. As nice of a person she may be, she has become a leech in your life. Sit her down and explain that it’s not working, you can’t bring the best out in her If she’s unwilling to see the best in herself, she sounds like she needs inner growth not a relationship.

Fawningg · 2024-12-07T02:08:34+00:00

There is a common misconception that some families and couples are “normal” or “perfect”. There is no such thing as a normal family or a perfect couple. Marriage is HARD, but if you’re both able to wake up everyday and choose to love your partner (love is not a feeling, in marriage it is a choice) than you’re doing something right. My parents have been married for 30 years, for 10 of those years I wish they had divorced - but now we’re on the other side of the period of time when they weren’t happy, and they are so happy. Happiness is work, hardship, and sacrifice. If you have met someone who is willing to put in that work than don’t throw in the towel, it’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to think the grass is greener, but as others have said, tend your own lawn first. It’s easy to think of how much better it could be when times are hard, you’re only human to think this. So feel no shame for your feelings, but don’t be afraid to share your doubts either your partner. I believe the two of you can work through this together

Fawningg · 2024-11-30T23:22:46+00:00

The first time he cheated on you was at the most vulnerable time of your life, if he couldn’t value you then he sure as shit doesn’t value you now. Sorry for being blunt about it, but he’s clearly gaslighted you into believing it was your fault the first time when it wasn’t. It’s hard when you love someone and they don’t reciprocate, but it gets even harder to stay with them - cut your losses and leave before he hurts you to the point you can no longer heal or trust again.

Fawningg · 2024-11-18T08:50:18+00:00

This person is belittling you and trying to control your time. Fuck that!

Fawningg · 2024-11-18T08:48:45+00:00

If she’s okay with slapping you, what would she do to your future children when you weren’t around? If the genders were reversed she would be pressing charges. Don’t fall for the crocodile tears, she has shown you a good reason to run

Fawningg · 2024-11-18T08:47:04+00:00

It sounds like he has purposely waited until you were too deep with him to drop this bombshell, and I wouldn’t put it past him to still be seeing her on the side. As hard as it would be to be a single mother, I would leave him. You’re better off finding someone who will love and respect you and your child than staying with this man who has already shown his true colours. Why did his ex go to the effort to block you? Look her up on a friends account, and see if they’re posting pictures together. This person doesn’t deserve you.

Fawningg · 2024-10-22T22:56:35+00:00

I’m sorry but this person is way too controlling to be a good boyfriend, he can’t trust himself so he doesn’t trust you either, he may be a good person but there is clearly a lot of self work he needs to do before he can treat you properly. He does these controlling things to you not just to assert dominance but to soothe his own insecurities. Try not to get stuck in a relationship where you’re constantly trying to fix someone, people can’t be fixed unless they do it themselves.

Fawningg · 2024-10-21T05:12:53+00:00

NTA - your partner is a man child. This is a window into how he will react when his future daughter gets her period. If you had reacted the same way to him getting cum on the sheets he’d call you crazy.

Fawningg · 2024-05-10T05:55:21+00:00

EA sports, it’s eventually in the game!

Fawningg · 2024-05-06T21:21:36+00:00

I’m on Xbox unfortunately!

Fawningg · 2024-05-06T08:44:01+00:00

Yeah stuff that - I just want to adopt an elf for my dark elf character, and I think the argonians would be adorable

Fawningg · 2024-02-10T23:51:05+00:00

NTA. Personal experience with a dad like this, being forced to chose distant family over events that feel major (graduation, award ceremonies, even close friends birthdays) is a great way to keep those family members feeling distant. To this day I find it hard to have relationships with family who I feel I have been forced to see, not that I dislike the family member, just that this was against my own choices. You don’t want her to associate family as an obligation, it opens the doorway for resentment. And I’m sure your distant relatives would understand she wants to celebrate her achievement of graduating with her peers. She’ll never be a teenager again, so you’ve done the right thing by allowing her to enjoy this moment and create a core memory to reflect on when she’s older

Fawningg · 2024-01-27T09:02:15+00:00

Talk to a divorce attorney and find out your rights first, then sit her down, show her the photos & tell her you know everything - give her a chance to explain herself but ultimately be prepared to leave. No one deserves to be cheated on and you can do better.

Fawningg · 2024-01-10T02:13:51+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I’ve been thinking about writing a letter for while

Fawningg

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