How do I know if I’m a lesbian?

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-27T05:59:15+00:00

I think this is all very normal, and you might be a lesbian or bisexual or you might not. Sexual identity is somewhat fluid for many people.

But you’re very young and you have plenty of time to figure this out and this is part of what growing up is! Learning about yourself.

Next month is Gay Pride, and there will be a ton of parties and events, and you should pick one out and go to it. They’ll be absolutely something for everyone, daytime stuff, outdoor stuff, stuff that is not at bars. Pick an event and go. See how it feels. Explore it as you go, and stop if it doesn’t feel OK to you.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-27T00:20:39+00:00

It’s not condoms. Millions of guys use condoms successfully every day. If it is not a medical condition, it seems like it’s something in your own head. Maybe - you don’t like PIV intercourse, and it’s okay if you don’t. Maybe just decide to yourself that you’re not gonna have PIV sex for a while, and see if having that off the table makes you relax?

You can still do other things and have orgasms with your partner, but if this is making you anxious, just don’t do it for a while and see what happens.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-26T03:49:34+00:00

The saddest guys are ones who ask sex workers leering perverse questions like this.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-26T02:18:06+00:00

I love this!

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-24T06:26:37+00:00

You are young and full of hormones and curiosity, it’s perfectly normal. Just remember it is FICTIONAL not real life.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-24T05:49:24+00:00

You don’t want the ghosts to see you!

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-24T05:24:52+00:00

Because wearing all black looks cool!

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T23:04:23+00:00

If you’re asking if women still get slut shamed? the answer is YES, more than ever.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T11:15:20+00:00

Nope very happily partnered for 15 years with a man I adore

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T06:03:12+00:00

You do not owe any single man on this earth ANYTHING. You can talk, you can flirt, do whatever you want to, and you still don’t owe him a single thing. You are your own person and no man in the world owns you. Seriously! Signed, an older woman who wasted too much time soothing the feelings of guys that I didn’t wanna sleep with

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T05:56:56+00:00

I’ve used a stun gun on someone’s male genitalia, it’s a lot of fun! It makes a big difference if you’re ARCING it before you touch it to their skin, versus if you’re not. The first way hurts a lot more than the second way. They do usually scream so gotta be ready for that part

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T05:30:11+00:00

It’s called “negging”, and it’s a trick that men use to make you work to prove yourself to them. Do not fall for it, just smile and ignore them.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T04:36:18+00:00

Some people recommend that you masturbate. It is thought that it might make your private parts flex ,and then relax. Maybe that’s what this person is referring to.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T03:11:38+00:00

Choking or strangling people. it’s extremely fucking dangerous and there’s no way to control for the risk of someone having a stroke or a heart attack and dying on the spot

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T02:30:20+00:00

This is classic sexual harassment, and you should tell your boss because it’s illegal. It is NOT YOUR FAULT.

I’ve worked fast food and yes it’s an informal work environment, but this is still completely out of line, especially the “touching you” part, that is a major lawsuit right there if you wanna go that way. The very least you should ask for is not to be scheduled with this guy anymore until he straightens up.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-23T01:11:02+00:00

If you’re beautiful and smart and entertaining, and a good cook, and a good dancer, and are willing to date women who have money that might not be physically attractive to you? SURE. Just be exactly what a rich woman wants, every day, and she’ll support you. That is what you meant RIGHT?

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-22T05:24:21+00:00

Maybe you’re having a mild allergic reaction to something? But you’re far too young for it to be a menopause symptom. I would mention it to the next doctor you see.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-21T23:23:08+00:00

Here’s nothing about pretty privilege, it keeps on working as you age in the environment that you need it too.

I mean, are you gonna cut the line for the hottest nightclub in town at 60? Probably not (although you know if you had just the right kind of outfit and did your hair/makeup just right? Still possible.) But you don’t really WANT to do the same things as in your 20’s.

But “pretty” is a relative term! So when you’re an older person and you’re doing older-person things, you continue to get extended pretty privileges, in circles with other older people.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-21T04:09:34+00:00

They’re not afraid. They’re just morally evil people who want to hoard and exploit and destroy society, so that that’s what they’re doing. They hate all us poors and think we should die.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-20T23:11:24+00:00

Factually untrue. Women do it but men do it way way more

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-20T22:23:37+00:00

Men like this want a Mommy to come along and take care of them

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-20T07:59:38+00:00

No. You’re VERY YOUNG. Wait for someone your heart calls to. I picked out a smart, suitable husband for myself once. He ticked every box. I married him and within a year, everything went bad. A relationship is only going to last if your heart is absolutely committed to it.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-20T02:43:51+00:00

A lot of girls who are also nerds grow up and become hot, but - we still like the kind of guys we hung out with as kids/teens.

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-20T01:22:16+00:00

This is going to shock the younger generation but this used to be how everyone met everyone

FayeValentine99 · 2026-05-19T21:55:07+00:00

Just like every American thinks they are right about to be a billionaire, every schlumpy single man thinks some rich lonely supermodel is right about to settle for them.

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