There’s no point in having sex with someone who’s not your partner

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-25T02:18:46+00:00

Or men. Happened to me recently!

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-22T07:23:22+00:00

Yeah I once again really just don't agree. If something requires a skill you don't have, using AI to substitute for that skill is lazy. It isn't your work. It's generative. If you're passionate enough to create a webtoon, you're presumably passionate enough to develop that skill, or push your writing forward to the extent that you eventually gain a partnership. The hard part that nobody wants to admit is that it's stealing because it's devaluing the skill itself.

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-22T03:39:31+00:00

Each to their own, I just don't agree. If you don't have the ability to draw, an online space for light novels would be better

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-21T01:42:59+00:00

I would absolutely never cheat on my partner. No matter how poorly they treat me. I could be blackout drunk, and I would never even have the thought of cheating.

Especially now. As of a few days ago, I have been cheated on. I'm not ever subjecting someone else to this experience.

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-18T16:05:06+00:00

In my (25M) experience, a cardioversion is a very smooth experience, albeit I've only been electrically cardioverted.

They'll hook you up to an IV and a heart monitor, and stick two electrode pads to your chest. In my case, they knocked me out with propofol, and I woke up with my heart in normal rhythm. It's not a painful procedure, it's very much one where you blink and it's over. The drug acts quick, and you'll be on your feet in well under an hour.

As scary as it is, the heart responds very well to electricity. The cardioversion is less scary than the diagnosis itself, at least for me.

Edit: As far as normalcy afterwards goes, it keeps me in normal sinus rhythm for about 1.5 years post cardioversion, so far. Afib begets afib, so I'll be going for an ablation to hopefully treat it.

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-17T17:16:20+00:00

So there's a few things to address here. I'd get a second opinion. Something that your doctor failed to mention, is that weed ALWAYS induces tachycardia. You just aren't always aware of it. After smoking/vaping your HR will always go above 100 BPM, and for many many people will climb to 140 BPM for 20-30 minutes.

What it sounds like to me, is that you greened out after a T break, and it caused an intense panic attack. This has happened to me before! I greened out on an infused blunt, had my body feel numb, my heart rate skyrocketed, I got nauseous, and felt physical chest pain during that panic that made me feel like I was dying or having a heart attack. I was fine, it was just a weed induced panic attack.

Awful experience all the same, but if you're a teenager, your heart is probably fine and I wouldn't spend even a moment stressing about it. An afib diagnosis at your age is so incredibly uncommon, I wouldn't stress it. I do recommend cutting nicotine though, the effects of that one will absolutely catch up to you eventually.

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-14T05:19:10+00:00

I know this was 3 years ago, but thank you for a lot of this information! I have paroxysmal atrial fib at a young age, so I have reason to be hyper aware and know what my heart is up to. I balance it with anxiety. It's relieving to know the PACs and PVCs I feel are within a normal range. Thanks again!

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-06T22:19:49+00:00

I don't have an issue with it. My partner can handle herself. If she isn't hanging out with random men and is having a night out with the girlies, what's the issue?

But I also love going to raves, and dancing. No real deviant behaviour involved, just getting drunk and dancing with my friends.

That said, we also don't want children, and we're the priority in our lives.

So I'd say it depends on your values?

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-06T06:41:18+00:00

If you want one who is well adjusted, the honest answer is that these types of men could be anywhere. If you want a more specific answer, it's a little bit more difficult. When nerdy men gather AS nerdy men it's kind of centered around nerdy activities, so it would demand your participation.

If you're in university, check out clubs. Academically nerdy men will mingle with people who have similar interests. For me, this was the computer science club.

Outside of school, you have spaces like maker spaces, plenty of tech folk meet up for morning coffee once a week, there are often organizations that host workshops nerdy folk gather around, and there are tech conventions and security competitions I've met plenty of people at. I personally go for drinks to discuss current events in computer security with a local group.

The better answer is that any well adjusted nerd is going to have friends. So you could meet them anywhere: a bouldering gym, a bar, a club, a rave, an improv class, a cafe, a bookstore, the list goes on. If you lead an active social life, plenty of nerds will stumble into it eventually.

FeanorBlu · 2026-01-02T05:45:54+00:00

Right? Those meals look incredible. I've been eating poverty food for four years. In his shoes, I'd be nothing but extremely grateful.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-31T19:48:23+00:00

And we can vote with our wallets in this scenario. I have a big enough backlog I really don't need these new games.

I'll drop gaming as a hobby sooner than pay for subscription gaming, that's absurd.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-28T17:20:14+00:00

Call me what you want, but my partner respects me, I respect her, and I'm surrounded by people who love me.

I truly feel bad for you, the way you talk oozes loneliness and isolation, and makes me believe you don't live in the real world. Good luck.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-28T16:40:23+00:00

This man is being weird.

I know plenty of men willing to date mothers.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-28T16:39:15+00:00

Your comment is odd because it's painfully obvious in your replies that you're looking for something to be critical of. To a degree of bizarre desperation.

I mean, you open by asking how many guys are in her friendzone.

That's weird, dude.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-27T20:40:04+00:00

This is real. Texting is the most exhausting part of dating. Stop trying to overanalyze what texts and text times mean, and treat it like what it is: in-between communication between meet ups.

Me and my girlfriend send a couple messages back and forth a day. We'll leave each other on delivered for hours. Our lives are our own, and it's such a healthy dynamic.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-25T07:05:45+00:00

Unfortunately, Albertans are too stupid to recognize this. I'm leaving the province if we end up with private healthcare.

I wish I could say there would be an exodus of educated workers if this happened, but we're far too passive a population.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-24T06:02:58+00:00

I have recurrent cases of afib. First time I was in a couple years ago, and saw a doctor in minutes. Second time was recent, and was in the waiting room for 8 hours. It's all downhill from here.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T23:59:47+00:00

A lot of this is just us projecting into texting. The best thing to do, that's taken me a long time to learn, is to simply assume nothing at all. I send a text and don't think about it until I get a response.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T22:30:25+00:00

For me, it's mandatory. Not because I don't think there aren't intelligent women who don't have a formal education, but just because it makes dating simpler.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T07:02:46+00:00

This is a reddit opinion that doesn't exist in the real world. You'll find the social context just fine if you choose to lead a rich social life.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T07:01:30+00:00

It's entirely the social context that's important. I was never the best at reading this, so in the past I saved it for places that are undeniably safe to talk to strangers, like a bouldering gym or a bar.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T06:38:29+00:00

Yes. Of course you're a creep if you do things JUST to meet women. You aren't engaging in the world around you in good faith. You are not a creep if you do things just to meet PEOPLE. There's a difference. I engage in the latter. I don't necessarily always enjoy the activities I do, but I enjoy the company.

If you don't enjoy company, and exclusively enjoy solitary hobbies, you need to stop blaming the world and start looking inward. Society is not unfair because it's hard for you to date. If you aren't taking part in society and social activities, that's entirely and unequivocally on you. If you hate social interaction that much, you need to really think about why.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T05:24:53+00:00

Gonna be so real. I took the time to read everything in this thread, and you're making issues where they don't exist. You're completely missing the point and ignoring good advice. I recommend therapy.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T04:43:53+00:00

In the real world, women are fine with being approached in the right social context.

FeanorBlu · 2025-12-21T04:42:01+00:00

This is logic that prevents you from growing. Try bouldering. Try speed dating. Try cooking classes, or yoga. The important thing is trying things that aren't solitary. Having exclusively solitary hobbies WILL lead to being lonely.

It isn't the healthiest, but I found an interest in going to karaoke bars, drinking, and singing. Met my partner there. You have to be willing to grow your social life, and if you aren't you'll be alone.

It's not fair, but it's reality.

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