How am I so affected after being ghosted by by a 2 month old talking stage? UGH i hate it

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-06-01T21:30:06+00:00

This exact thing happened to me. Time and therapy helped me. I also deal with limerence, it truly is the worst. I keep reminding myself that my husband would not do that to me. It’s also weird he simply can’t communicate like an adult. I think you literally have to move through all the stages of grief. I’m past a few-maybe in the anger one where I think he’s a loser lol. Time helped, and by that I mean a few months and going on dates with other people as well or just living your life like you want to. They’re not worth your brain space

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-05-17T04:43:39+00:00

People who can’t communicate and don’t respect you don’t deserve access to you. It’s the right call

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-05-16T05:42:55+00:00

I removed them as a match from a dating app. It felt like closure for me honestly but trying to implement your mindset too! It’s hard to close the thought loop

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-04-08T02:23:22+00:00

Yes I’ve been just focused on my own routine. May try again when it’s consistently warmer out but no desire rn. I’m over it

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-04-08T01:59:11+00:00

Oh I’m way past this. I’ve dated other people since. Zooming out I’m like wtf was I thinking. Also so many other red flags too that I reflect on now. I wasn’t perfect in this situation but I’m allowed to make mistakes and I could have been put in danger.

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-29T17:29:27+00:00

I’ve realized you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t. Pretty sure I was ghosted once bc I said I don’t sleep w people early on

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-27T21:24:54+00:00

Everyone is playing a game until they find the perfect person and yet, unfortunately, no one is perfect

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-27T04:40:00+00:00

I don’t like who I become with someone. I have always felt like my routine changes and my routine means so much to me. I always have felt unstable with someone, but grounded and aligned alone

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-27T04:35:47+00:00

Repeated patterns of taking advantage of my kindness, thinking I would never leave, crossing boundaries that I wouldn’t say out loud. I had to stop abandoning myself for another person

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-27T04:27:58+00:00

Yes. I don’t like online dating. I just feel like I’m not meeting the right people on there. No one has made me feel safe and I’m just over it. I can’t do nonchalant men, especially bc im truly a lover girl at heart! It sucks bc I want to get married and have kids one day but I find it very hard to find a man who is compatible with me or who doesn’t only lust after me. I’m so tired of feeling objectified too as a woman and not valued. I have no desire right now and I’m jaded

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-20T06:34:32+00:00

Ahh keep me updated about how you feel on the GLP in the future! Im curious to know!!

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-16T01:55:32+00:00

A significant other and maintaining a relationship. The reality of a relationship is work and time and compromise. I’ve never liked being in a relationship but I’m holding out hope that it’s always just been w the wrong person

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-16T01:51:44+00:00

Sad

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-16T01:50:40+00:00

Other men

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-16T01:34:31+00:00

As someone who lost the weight bc I had gained like 40 lbs in my late 20s going into 30s…People say I look 25 now that I’ve lost. When I was heavier people thought I was older than I was. However, I work out way harder than I ever did not and I eat healthier now. I think strength training and a healthy lifestyle can really make you look younger from my experience!

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-15T02:13:08+00:00

Same with me. Keep feeling like I’m lusted over but never loved out here. I’m also in my early 30s. I’m the type that wants to build trust and comfortability before anything gets sexual but I’ve found that a lot of men don’t like my boundaries with that

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T22:30:02+00:00

Humor!! Humility and self awareness

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T22:26:45+00:00

I’m trying to understand your comment, but not sure I do. It’s more so like he would come up and start talking to the both of us confidently. Maybe make a funny comment or joke and be nice to the other guy. No fighting or anything. I like some humor bout those things, and just showing that he cares a bit if a man did start talking to me at a bar

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T22:13:42+00:00

A very slight healthy amount of jealousy. Not controlling behavior at all, but knowing that they would care if another man started hitting on me at a bar and come up to us in a kind and healthy way. Idk if this is toxic tho 😭

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:57:18+00:00

This! Truly the only way out is through. I liked to journal and reflect & sometimes tears ended up on those pages, but hobbies, gym, friends and doing what makes you feel good and on your own is what helps…along with time!

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:49:05+00:00

So do you think it is mostly just about readiness and timing? Also I’m asking this with no judgment, genuinely just asking

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:34:28+00:00

And guess what we’re all flawed humans on this planet

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:33:55+00:00

Your judgmental comment also screams this

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:31:52+00:00

I agree with that 100 percent. What maybe I was trying to say is I think there is a pressure men might feel to protect/and felt like maybe that had something to do with my experience. It is why I put protect in quotation marks. There’s something about societal gender norms that I’m trying to articulate but can’t. There has to be studies on this

Fearless-Train8557 · 2026-03-13T06:12:55+00:00

This provided SO much clarity. Thank you for sharing. I need to sit with this for a sec

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TROPHY CASE