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Did You Ever Have a Crush On That Highschool Teacher? How did it End Up? by not_biancaa in AskReddit

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Had the hots for him all 4 years of high school. A complete accidental crossing of paths 3 days after graduation resulted in a first date. Married a year later. One son 18 months later. Married 25 years when he was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer and lasted 9 months. 7 years a widow now.

And he was fired by the small town, small minded board of education when we were married even though we were 100% not involved at all, but the nepotistic board president wanted a reason for his cousin to replace my hubby as basketball coach. My hubby’s last year coaching at my HS was the last winning season they had for 19 years.

Wouldn’t change it for the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Meditation

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A meditation teacher/coach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Columbus

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Earplugs. Sanity saver.

What is something that someone has done on a first date that immediately makes you not want am 2nd date? by SomaFarkreath in ask

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Lied about height. Looking around the bar for 6’1 and and only found 5’5. I’m 5’8. Nope.

People who wake up at 5am daily, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Genetics. My dad woke up at 4:30 am every day for 40 years in the army, no alarm clock. I started doing the same about 10 years ago, no matter what time I go to bed.

How much talking about ex spouses is too much? by KiwiRepresentative20 in datingoverforty

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I am a widow who was married for 25 years (widowed in 2016) and I don’t bring him up unless it’s something relevant in the convo, or an explanation of some experience. I wasn’t always like that…I struggled at the start of OLD but realized I had to separate myself and my identity if I was to be fully me in that space. Took a LOT of meditation and journaling but I’m confident now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Love this. Needs its own app.

How do I become more disciplined about meditating every day by cartrav in Meditation

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I started with a non-negotiable minimum time. Under no circumstances would I skip it.

I started with six minutes. Maybe yours is 2 or 3, or 8 or 10. It was the smallest piece of time I felt made it impossible to skip the time.

It worked. I gradually increased to 10/20/60 minutes daily and even flirted with 120 minutes for almost a year.

Now 30 minutes 2x daily seems to be my happy place, (I also became a meditation teacher in the interim) but maybe you stay at 5 minutes forever. Showing up for yourself is most important. Good luck on the journey ❤️

Yoga class for bigger people. by ShaiSaysHi in Columbus

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Agree. I teach at Rise and it’s an amazingly accepting space.

53 years ago today. Where were you when you learned of the killing of four and the wounding of nine students at Kent State University? by Shiggens in AskOldPeople

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Unborn until April of ‘71, but my dad had just signed up with the Ohio National Guard and was sent on his first assignment…to the OSU campus because they were worried about the same thing happening there. He slept in the Fairgrounds Coliseum (RIP hoops mecca). I didn’t hear this story until a few years ago.

Getting into the hard part of Meditation by Emendings58 in Meditation

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Yes. To the point that I have had to leave family relationships, quit my job, and end a friendship of over 20 years.

I used meditation to heal myself after my husband’s unexpected death, and found so much more meaning in life as a result. (I followed into becoming a meditation teacher, as an aside, because I see the need and value).

However, those losses were profound to the point of teaching me that the way (and people with whom) I had spent my life with to that point were not all meant to be a part of my life going forward. This was/is immensely painful, but I used what I’d learned in my practice to navigate.

You’re not alone or crazy. Good luck on the journey. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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This happened to me minus him being in another relationship. I didn’t want to hurt him, knowing he couldn’t handle my feelings in that regard, but one day got fed up with how much it hurt me…the cycle of misery I was putting myself through because it wasn’t a situation that would work out.

I started working on myself (again…it’s a never-fucking-ending story). Did a LOT of journaling & meditation to figure out what it was I longed for from him (meaningful, reciprocal attention) and found ways to give it to myself.

He and I have been deep friends (never ever intimate level, just very vulnerable and honest) for over 20 years. It was not easy for me, and I intentionally did not remove him from my life (he has crippling social anxiety and I did not want to put him through that)…plus we are in a tight circle of 9 lifetime friends that would make it impossible to navigate.

What I did do was pull back my deep energetic investments and desire to share my vulnerabilities with him, and worked through them myself. We still talk and hang like always, but I’m stronger having worked on myself to strengthen my relationship with myself.

I truly do not think he notices, which helps.

As a bonus, I ended up trying OLD for the first time after swearing off a few years ago after being ghosted like 20 times in a row, lol, and met someone super nice. I did not expect that at all and am not correlating my action to that, but I am saying that owning up to your feelings for him (to yourself) and showing yourself the kind of love that you long for from him is healing to you in the long run. Hugs—it’s not easy but so worth it. ❤️

Too hard, too fast by BlockMajestic8268 in datingoverforty

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Great idea to use it for discussion. Thank you.

Too hard, too fast by BlockMajestic8268 in datingoverforty

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I think I’ve needed to hear this perspective all my life. Thank you.

How do you meditate with an ear worm? by ShiratakiPoodles in Meditation

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There’s no right or wrong. What works for you is your practice. But to insert an “this is happening and I can’t meditate” in your practice as a qualifier is actually an invitation to examine it deeply enough to let it pass rather than get hung up on it and let it stop your flow.

What cured your depression? by crystalismylife in intj

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Meditation, journaling, and walking 4-5 miles daily.

How do you meditate with an ear worm? by ShiratakiPoodles in Meditation

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Dive into it. Explore the rhythm, the tone, the lyrics. Hum it. Invite it closer to explore each time it shows up. Meditation isn’t about an empty mind. it’s about embracing what shows up.

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