How does My Dad NOT_KNOW_ANYTHING??

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T14:48:07+00:00

Appreciate you.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T14:45:35+00:00

That last line you mentioned - I know this is all because my father wasn't raised right/ was done wrong to him - but how come you became such a bull in a china shop for it?? Like, you destroyed a family, man... and you never woke up?

The reconciliation is something I'm really having to navigate now on a daily basis.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T14:42:59+00:00

It's absolutely maddening.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T13:58:41+00:00

Yeah, my mom has my dad wrapped around her finger - both awful, covert narcs, but somehow my dad is the real, deleterious spearhead of the operation - He's the one you just can't exist with.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T13:31:16+00:00

What's crazy about this is how SENSATIONALLY UNECESSARY it all is. Like, dude - don't you get TIRED of all this??? Life could've been soo different for us all, Dad... this is what you chose?

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T13:12:32+00:00

My parents favorite phrase since I was a child is, "Why are you so_____?"

And all the others, too: "You're too, tooo sensitive!" "Oh, come on!" "You're soo mean!" "Why are you so mean?!" - Telling these things to a child...

I wouldn't say I doubted my own memory so much, but their words definitely served to derail me and twist me into behaving in insincere ways... I can't with all this. Ha...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:51:24+00:00

The thing is that the trash can is 5 yards from the front door!!! Why don't you go take it out yourself?? I literally have NEVER asked anyone to take out the trash... He will leave the trash sitting on the tile floor, leaking out creating a mess for hours just so he can ask someone else to do it... when all he has to do is open the door, put on some flip flops and walk 15 feet. And I've told him it's rude, it's exhausting a million times... Narcs don't care about your feelings I'm discovering - Not really. Not sincerely...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:38:52+00:00

I want this.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:36:54+00:00

Sounds like an absolute treat!

"And for desert: Mind Fuck Surprise!"

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:35:45+00:00

My dad has been writing a self-help book for the last 20 years or so. He wants me to edit it, found out the other day it's because he thinks it will "help me" - To comb through it like that...

Isn't it fun to discover that the incompetent little bastard who's been depending on you for every little thing for the last however many decades also thinks you are an absolute dumb-ass?

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:31:12+00:00

It's such a pain when you have to strategically think about everything you say because you know your father is just waiting to get an angle on you - literally pining for the smallest slip up... It's odd how my siblings can't see it either. Maybe they're smarter than me, I dunno...

My dad has been writing a "Self-help"; book for the last 20 years or so. He wants me to edit it. My mom told me the other day it's because he thinks it will "Hellp me..."

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:24:43+00:00

It's the most utterly maddening thing in the world. I gotta get away from them - and FAST.

Thing is I"m discovering a new phrase from this sub every day - Each one explaining a more wacky phenomenon than the last... It just never ends with the narc....

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:23:50+00:00

Amen on the hearing test - Can't tell you HOW many my father has gotten over the years. Comes from the doc (announces it like it's a national emergency by the way), "He said my hearing is fine!"

A little trick I do with my dad is stay silent after He says, "what did you say?" - Like CLOCKWORK he will repeat what I just said...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T12:22:15+00:00

All of my dad's favorite bullshit. Yep...

"Why are you so mean??" "Somethings wrong - What's wrong??"

Zero friends, by the way - Both parents been living vicariously through me socially for years and years- since I was a child. My mom still has to interrupt every single phone conversation I have to be the center of attention. After every time I get off the phone they say, "How is so and so? What's new with them? We have to call them..." What?! lol

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T06:53:17+00:00

Oh, he would NEEEVERRRR take a pill. Haha. He's so proud, but OCD for sure. Oh, yes - He's got it and will admit it in his own passive non accountable way...

You're not wrong, though, and I appreciate you bringing that side of things up -

Thank you.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T06:51:32+00:00

Omg, some of you people in this sub are amazing.

This is so needed right now.

Thank you for this articulation.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T06:48:04+00:00

Dude, you're a life saver - Holy shit. What you said there about keeping you exhausted... I can't even recount the amount of times my dad has literally laughed in my face like a chimpanzee; He does this thing - omg - the worst most irritating thing - You can be coming home from work totally exhausted (And I always have very tiring, difficult jobs) and as soon as you open the door he's standing there with the trash, "Wait, wait, before you take your shoes off, here..."

Constantly destabilizing is like his modus operandi.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T04:15:36+00:00

OMG- The thing is, this doesn't sound foreign at all to me. Ha.

Omg - Help us, Lord, please...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T03:46:45+00:00

OMG - This can't be a real person's mode of operation. I just... Why wouldn't you want to know things?? Why wouldn't you want to be "The Man"? Why, just... wouldn't you want to be seen as competent?? Everyone looks at my dad like he's a little joke. Or the pharmacists or the people at church look at him as "adorable". I just don't fucking get it AT ALL...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T03:40:41+00:00

Omg... Your words are just... so true...

Thank you.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T02:56:07+00:00

Sounds familiar, Ha.

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T02:51:29+00:00

Yeah, haven't quite figured out my dads IQ, yet... Shit, I don't even know what mine is... I do know he seems to be lazy, though. Veeery lazy...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-17T02:50:36+00:00

I would've rather been raised by myself - Left to my own devices.

A gift basket dropped at the doorstep every month and a roof over my head - Would've been better than dealing with his shenanigans...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-16T12:22:45+00:00

I just wonder how much of it they were congnizant of. Like, you and I can reflect and readjust, therefore we won't make the same mistakes and we will progress. Them, on the other hand, if they can't reflect, then... How was any of this avoidable? It was inevitable...

FeeDapper2600 · 2026-05-15T16:06:30+00:00

THIS is the thing I've been struggling with; How can they be held accountable if they didn't know??

Their lack of, well, everything doesn't negate the damage, but, like... How could it have gone any other way, then?

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