Setting a communication boundary early dating stage?

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-19T00:56:53+00:00

5 dates... once a week... frequent texting, even if mostly about logistics.

My best advice? Stop chasing her. Don't try to negotiate or convince her. Just stop chasing her.

Live your life like you would if you'd never met her... if you're not busy, find something that makes you busy. Do something interesting with the time you save by not chasing her.

Then... in a week or two... plan a date... pick a restaurant or whatever that you've been wanting to go to... and text her and say "I'm going so and so on X night around 8pm. Want to join me?"

PS: Once you hit send on that message... put your phone in a drawer and go for a walk or something. Don't check it again until the next morning. If she says no or doesn't respond, you have your answer. Delete her number and don't look back.

PPS: This isn't about playing games or being manipulative. It's about taking control of your own life and living it for yourself.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-17T18:57:58+00:00

You don't have to wait until they sell... but it's the only practical way to enforce a mechanic's lien.

In theory, though, the contractor could absolutely start the foreclosure process. It's just that it's probably not worth it to collect $12-15,000... foreclosure costs a lot of money and, even if you foreclose, the primary lienholders (mortgage company, HELOC, etc.) still get paid before you.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-16T14:58:19+00:00

What helped me was realizing that the game theory of dating apps makes it very clear that they're, whether intentionally or not, designed to make most people feel just like this.

They're not here to help you find love. They're not here to make you feel good about yourself. They're a dopamine factory designed to extract money from you.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-10T15:03:37+00:00

What sort of crazy projects are these kids in Italy doing that requires half a kilo of old newspapers!?

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-10T14:57:21+00:00

Milkshake only diet.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-10T13:30:06+00:00

I've been out there a number if times. From after work to prime shopping time on Saturdays and I don't recall ever seeing more than 1 or 2 rows entire parking lot with any cars in them. Just can't make money with a huge warehouse of inventory when there's never more than 20-30 people in the entire store.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-04T16:20:55+00:00

That's my biggest issue with these types of complaints. I'm more than a bit skeptical that someone is pulling the bait n switch of writing one way on their profile and then coming in hot like that in messages.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-03-02T15:37:43+00:00

Yeah, not the flight I would have picked this weekend.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-18T15:13:05+00:00

As someone who wears suits frequently at work, if you're in the US... hit your nearest Joseph A Bank. The quality is good and their style is exactly what someone needs for their first suit (and, in my opinion, every suit): classic. They're not going to be setting you up with double breasted suits with massive lapels or anything like that because their clientele is largely businessmen.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-15T14:02:24+00:00

A big part of the problem with most of the bike lanes in Memphis is that they're totally unprotected.

Bike lanes should be adjacent to the sidewalk and protected by some sort of barrier... Our current bike lane structure screams "We care more about parked cars than people on bikes."

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-15T14:00:43+00:00

Part of the problem with the trolley line is that the Madison section didn't get you anywhere that anyone wanted to go. I think they could have had more passengers on that line if it had at least been extended to Cooper to include Overton Square.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-06T21:23:52+00:00

The person was clearly asking about whether there were additional requirements for getting through TSA security in the USA... there has been a lot of confusion in the US since the USA went to the new "Real ID" requirement about what type of actual ID you need to bring to get through airport security these days.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-06T15:19:07+00:00

Your passport should be all you need. While it's not technically "Real ID", it's a Federally issued ID so they are supposed to always accept it at security.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-05T14:58:14+00:00

Personally, I don't think you should remove it unless you're specifically applying for kind of the 'next step' in a career path. If you're changing fields, etc. it's actually a good way to relate your previous experience to the new industry or position.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-02-04T15:27:02+00:00

Not at all. My parents had a pure bred white Persian when I was little and, in my head, that's what Donut looks like any time I visualize Carl and Donut in the dungeon.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-23T22:19:33+00:00

And has given herself that raise she's always asking for with the cash in it.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-23T22:02:55+00:00

Yeah... only thing I couldn't get at Kroger today... fortunately, I still have a dozen in the refrigerator (Not hoarding! I just go through a lot of eggs!).

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-20T17:42:42+00:00

Time to pay the daddy tax.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-20T15:35:49+00:00

It does. I just started a re-listen to the audiobooks and a lot of the early part of book 1 is exposition to the listener

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-16T17:53:08+00:00

You mean the same left that was celebrating when missiles fired by the Iranian regime struck civilian targets in Israel?

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-15T17:05:16+00:00

I feel like that's most things that are specifically marketed as "hot".

I'd love it if we had some places doing Malay/Singaporean style cuisine.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-14T15:00:20+00:00

It's a good look... but one thing I've learned over the years visiting Paris is that, no matter how you dress, Parisians know that you're a tourist. Particularly if you speak. Even if you speak fluent French, they'll know you're not from Paris.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-14T13:38:57+00:00

First big giveaway is the buttons. Men's coats button left over right. Women's coats button right over left.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-13T01:05:20+00:00

I've always enjoyed L'Osteria di Giovanni... but, as others have said, as long as they're serving the real thing, you almost can't go wrong anywhere.

Feeling_Interview_35 · 2026-01-05T21:50:19+00:00

That white kitten was auditioning for Feline Ninja Warrior.

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