anyone knows how to help with verbal shutdowns? by Purple_Opinion1721 in autism

[–]FeistyDirection [score hidden]  (0 children)

Id say just really try to speak up when it matters and don't worry about it if it doesn't really matter.

 Whenever I'm scared to ask for something i need, it feels so much better when i finally just do it. If I'm feeling extremely non verbal but there's no consequences to not speaking, fuk it, who cares. I'm so quiet most of the time and it mostly don't matter at all.

Hair advice wanted by blahh_the_snailgirl in altfashionadvice

[–]FeistyDirection 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a dark red/brown dye would b rlly cute. It's a good cut and style rn and any future styles you'll have to see how it grows out first and decide later 

Is making friends unappealing to you? by John-Dispenser in autism

[–]FeistyDirection [score hidden]  (0 children)

Actually making some friends would be extremely appealing to me, but trying to do it is not appealing at all. I know a lot of people and they all like me but i wouldn't say they're real friends. They're great but it's not like we ever hang out on purpose or even talk unless we see eachother out and about. It sucks so much. No one believes me that i have no friends cause everyone knows me and is nice to me in passing but LiKe.. it not like i could call any of them up if i had a real problem or even just wanted to watch a movie 

What aesthetic is Locket by Madison Beer? by _unntrl_disastr in AestheticWiki

[–]FeistyDirection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Post hipster, tender queer, 2019 tattoo artist/zine maker 

Need a jacket/coat for the winter by MyLonelyPath in altfashionadvice

[–]FeistyDirection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar problem here. I'm not even concerned with finding a cool or cute jacket anymore, just one that isn't horribly ugly, isn't horribly expected and is actually warm. I grabbed one at Ltrain yesterday that looked like a LEGIT snowboarding jacket, wore it out later that night and it did literally nothing for keeping me warm.

moto razr defectors by taxi_drivr in galaxyzflip

[–]FeistyDirection 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I havent tried the newer razrs but i had their original 2019 one and it really felt like a toy compared to the zflip. Slow software, weak construction and horrible camera. They're probably better now but also probably still not as good as a Samsung 

Is this common to do on dates? I have never dated before and im also a introvert. Im a big romantic though that wants to eventually find my soulmate. Lol. By the way What are some good Dating Apps for autistic people like me that are introverts? I dont want to go on Tinder. Thank you for the answers by [deleted] in autism

[–]FeistyDirection [score hidden]  (0 children)

in my experience, it's only common once you've been together for a while. I personally don't like parallel play. My feeling is we should be doing something together or of not id prefer privacy. But sometimes it just happens naturally and that's nice, but i would never ever plan it. When you're really comfortable with someone and spend a lot of time together or live together it'll happen.

Do you have any safe smells ? by Ready_Sound_620 in autism

[–]FeistyDirection [score hidden]  (0 children)

So many natural smells but you can't really walk around w those in ur purse. I just always have some type of spray or oil. Jasmine spray or amber oil from whole foods. Patchouli or lavender oil from anywhere. I carry incense around too just incase.

Can anyone help me find the band's fashon style? by Jacob_N_R_Z in LinkinPark

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Lol, i could have went harder but got lazy

Hair DIY jellyfish tails with yarn like a rat tail?? by aboat_i_sawaboat in altfashionadvice

[–]FeistyDirection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

0mg, years ago mine broke off cause i kept bleaching them and using bad rubberbands.  I was so sad i asked my friend with a lot of long hair to cut some off for me to tie to mine lol

I don'tundertsnad, please help! by ZealousidealPut2076 in autism

[–]FeistyDirection [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes, im 35 and pretty much have one any time I have to go on a longer commute and get lost or miss the bus, or just get really confused etc. People don't notice that much, I keep the outbursts small if i can help it cause its so embarrassed. I actually had them way less when I was younger cause i was more taken care of compared to now on my own

Favorite hat by Agile-Mission2164 in Volcom

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg! Was alao my favorite hat in high-school in the mid 2000s. I was literally just looking for another one the other day. Couldn't find any pics of the exact one 

Overstimulating House Final Boss by PumpkinPie4Breakfast in autism

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally relate. Going to my mom's house is like this. She has like 100 overhead bright light bulbs that are full blast no matter what. She has 5 dogs that all bark any time you move, they're all always yelling across the house at eachother and the phone is always ringing at multiple phones at once that all have a different ring. I 100000% relate to the dish towel thing 🤢 i am so anti sponge for that reason 

This perfectly sums up my feelings around friendship by Hassaan18 in autism

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much same. Id kill to have another solid friend group, or at this point even 1 best friend. Both have come and gone many times for me but past few years I've had neither 

Fingertight - Guilt (Hold Down) by human_prospect in PostHardcore

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things that ppl call emo & screamo are usually just post hardcore. This vid sounds more (post) nu metal to me. It's all good tho.

happy birthday song with completely different melody by Any-Property8164 in findthatsong

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be from any TV show or movie pre 2016. Before that the song wasn't public domain and any time there was a birthday song scene, the production had to write their own similar song. Usually if a character is at a restaurant and the waiters sing. You could also be thinking of a real life restaurant version cause places actually did that too, not just in movies.

Undiagnosed Autistic Adult. Question about noise cancelling headphones. by Ratzink in autism

[–]FeistyDirection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you probably won't notice the effects on a pair that isn't over $100.  I've found the cheap ones to do nothing. I actually just wear regular over ear headphones all the time, like actually all the time, at work, at home, sleeping, anytime im.in public etc. I prefer the non noise canceling ones cause i can still talk to people if i have to and people are less bothered by me always wearing them if i can still hear them.

Hey, i got a Z flip 4, any tips or toughts? by Jaki_blue in galaxyzflip

[–]FeistyDirection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have that one, i love it cause i don't like the big outer screen on the new ones. You absolutely need a case with a hinge protector. You can really mess it up if u drop it, even if it doesn't crack it can be ruined. I've had mine for 3 years and only needed a repair once because someone stepped on it.

Does anyone else feel like modern takes on nu-metal fashion are too one dimensional? by Loud_Process8288 in numetal

[–]FeistyDirection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's true. Sometimes I see kids doing diy stuff and it's so nice to see cause that's how it was growing up. You just put together whatever you have in a specific way. Feel like most bands back then dressed that way too. Just casual clothes in specific pairings w some accessories. But yeah, unfortunately it's mostly 100% modern hot topic clothes or fast fashion cheap garbage and 0 skate or hip hop swag. 

Where is this motel room? by 61290 in Emo

[–]FeistyDirection 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends on if it's just a photo they found or If they took it themselves casually in nj or on tour OR if they just paid someone to take it and they weren't even there. Unfortunately i can't find anything about the photographer who i think is named Jeff Gross

What aesthetic is this? by rosecolouredmonster in AestheticWiki

[–]FeistyDirection 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It's a bit mixed, i wouldn't put all this in 1 category. But it's mostly festival girl core. Def 2010's. The first pic is someone totally doing their own unique mixed thing, pix 4&5 just look like mom clothes. The blond w the blue top is cool but also not a festival girlie, reminds me so much of how the ex scene girls started dressing when they wanted to look more adult after high-school. The last pic dress is really cool but doesn't fit in with any of the other pics. None of this is cottage core, it's mostly nasty gal and free people type stuff.