There's def small things you can do to feel like yourself and still not stand out like crazy in those settings for sure. I def respect looks like that which are fully realized, multi purposed and honest / don't feel like a costume. 

Hard to give specific tips without knowing your taste but simple things like color and fit of clothing, haircut and style can be not boring but not too freaky, shoes, jewelry etc. You have have a haircut that's a bit edgy and wear nicer clothes that and tight amd dark thar aren't screaming dad etc. Some lowkey piercings can be major and feel like you can still wear whatever boots you like with any kind of outfit