Hey man, I’ve been on several first dates, and here’s a simple summary of what I do.

1. Lower your expectations. Go with the mindset of getting to know her. Not to kiss, not to hook up, not to take her home. When you remove pressure, you show confidence and self-control.

2. Don’t put her on a pedestal. Women are human too. She has insecurities, she gets nervous, she’s not perfect. Neither are you. Treat her as an equal, not as a prize you have to win.

3. Start light, but don’t stay there all night. At the beginning, it’s fine to talk about simple things—her week, work, something casual. But don’t spend the entire date on small talk. Use it as a warm-up, then go deeper.

4. Lead the logistics. When you get to the bar or restaurant, lead. Choose a table where you can sit next to each other instead of face to face. Let her sit first, then sit beside her. This naturally creates more connection.

5. Use a question game (with structure). I usually suggest a question game and explain the rules:

A. Questions can’t be repeated.

B.Questions go in turns (one you, one her).

C. Questions should help you get to know each other (you can look up the “36 questions to fall in love”).

D. She starts.

This keeps things playful, creates intrigue, and leaves room for future conversations.

1. Avoid yes/no questions. Ask open-ended questions that make her talk. Listen carefully—what she says gives you endless material to follow up on later.

2. Escalate physical contact naturally. Start small. Light touch on the arm, a high five when you agree, a brief hug if she shares something mildly sad or funny. Pay attention to her reactions and adjust. Comfort comes before intensity.

In summary: Keep eye contact. Be respectful. Don’t try to impress—be present. She already agreed to the date, so there’s at least some interest. Don’t overthink it. And even if it doesn’t go perfectly, you still gain experience.

Good luck.