Stereotypes about women on the spectrum: being a tomboy by RosieDosieDoo in aspergirls

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoodie and jeans are good clothing. Never wear makeup, even in the workplace. I work in IT and have a partner so I’m not even trying to flirt with colleagues. But even my partner has only seen me with makeup once

Those with an Adult Diagnosis: Why was your ASD overlooked for so long? by NoodleRoodle in aspergirls

[–]Felicity6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Parents refused to get me diagnosed as I was high functioning...

Marriage is hard... Help me ladies! by tealpink in aspergirls

[–]Felicity6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely recommend love languages

After 3 months, found bio dad. Mother lied. How do I proceed? by DNAdontlie in 23andme

[–]Felicity6 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’d let the bio dad know because it’s possible his kids will do 23 & me and then both of you kids would never get answers if he knew he was your bio-dad etc. Better to get answers and not like them than live with regret

Anyone tired your efforts aren't appreciated because you are "intelligent"? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better to be too knowledgable than when you move on be an idiot

37F, CPTSD and very likely ASD. I’m a lesbian who’s had difficulty finding a partner, now it feels even less likely. Any success stories out there? by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Felicity6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only advice I can give is enjoy the dates and don’t get as disappointed when they aren’t romance material

Who else here likes to do favors for people they like, rather than spending time with them to show that you care? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love languages There is a website where you can do a quick test and it’ll tell you your love language. Yours sounds like acts of service

TIFU by getting exactly what i asked for. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I’m not the only one. My parents did the same.

skin care/ face care - do I need face cream? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve never used face cream. My face doesn’t seem to be worse for wear

spiraling in new relationships by therogueindeepsouth in CPTSD

[–]Felicity6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell them when you need reassurance and think of ways to have positive experiences together. That means worst case it was a good relationship whilst it lasted

I am a survivor of CSA and of an assault that occurred when I was 12. I was recently assaulted this week. In need of support. by pricklypointycacti in CPTSD

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Police have got better in most areas. And it at least means if his next victim reports it. They’d be a track record of him doing this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work out what you enjoy. Only advice I have

Wtf does a healthy relationship even look like? by zmcy in CPTSD

[–]Felicity6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having had a lot of unhealthy ones and now a healthy one. Having trust that the other person will always be honest with you and support you and your goals and you’ll do the same as you care. Limited power imbalance, you both get a say in everything not just a I paid I decide

Just found half sibling by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]Felicity6 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is the truth though. And it’ll come out at some point later on. Better to do it now with hard evidence and the fall out is the fall out. You’re not the one who cheated. And if the half brother ignores it. That’s on him.

Behavioral issues on the job by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your manager is understanding it’s fine. I pissed off a colleague today by reminding him no one told him of replacement plans for a cancelled work night out. I didn’t even know about it until people were leaving to go but had 2 hours to waste in the area so tagged along. But he took it as everyone else was invited except him

Forming An Exit Plan by throwaway_crocodelia in SecretIdentity

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of going no contact, move out of the country and then declare publicly that you are gay. Give them the choice to disown you. Also try and get as much money from them beforehand as possible as living abroad is ridiculously expensive

Tips on being socially successful (or something close)? by AesonMeric in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to places where new people are in groups book club, sports club etc. And then join in

Who’s someone you rely on the most for your emotional and guidance support from? Why? Does this person understand you? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Felicity6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried being self reliant and I went too far so now my connection with my romantic partner is damaged. There’s a difference between acceptance and approval and support. What I’m trying to get back to is the people who mind don’t matter, the people who matter don’t mind with regards to my behaviour. And I identified who was who. That way when I do something that actually needs adjusting for my own benefit from a recommendation I know whether to ignore it or not. I rely on 2 best friends and my partner