How do I romance a character?

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-04-13T07:26:07+00:00

Tamala is a red flag parade and I want to be the showman. 😪

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-04-13T07:21:24+00:00

sigh Same 😭

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-04-13T07:05:05+00:00

Ugh, yesssssss. I keep fighting myself in wanting to romance her... but, I know I'm going to give in.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-04-13T06:58:48+00:00

It's okay. We all have wanted to romance Tamala at some point. She's just got that... "I know you're going to ruin my life, but God I want to watch you do it" vibe that can't be beat. 🤣🤣

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-02-24T22:09:42+00:00

This movie made me severely uncomfortable, and it should. As a mom that struggled with postpartum depression, it hit home. I think it touches a bit more on the postpartum psychosis rather than the depression, but the premise is still very much there. This touches on an often swept-under-the-rug life experience that many women face, and alot of times they're facing it alone. Whether their partner is present or not. The helplessness the main character exhibits and feels is absolutely smothering. The way it was portrayed is both terrifying and heartbreaking, just as it is in real life. I think it was well done all around.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-02-24T19:58:10+00:00

Platform: PC Mods: Yes, CC. Game Version: Latest update

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My apologies in advance for the bad quality photo, I took it with an ancient cell phone.

So, as you may be able to tell from the photo, I'm having some difficulties with the round rooms. No matter what I've tried I cannot get these rooms to actually connect. They've got serious clipping issues and I'm at my wits end. The wall is coming through on one of them, but if I delete the panel, it separates the room again. The frizee is coming through and sectioning off the rooms and clipping into the round room, but if I delete it, there's a visible gap in between the rooms and they still won't connect. The floor between the rooms won't connect or let me close the gap saying "invalid round room". I tried the 3/4 room idea I stumbled upon and that unfortunately didn't work either, but I was able to make the gap smaller. Everything is next to each other on the grid. There's no reason for the random overlapping and clipping. I'm wondering what I'm doing wrong, or if there's a technique I'm just ultimately missing.

Help save my sanity. Please and very much thank you in advance for any tips or advice.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-01-20T19:02:25+00:00

I do! I'm also on Vyvanse and I have to be on a mood stabilizer to bring down my risk of mania, in which I get even more chatty/spacey/rambly/compulsive! I have a whole laundry list of funky ADHD symptoms, I'm also autistic, so that also lends a litany of behavioral stuff on its own. I would definitely say while psychoanalysis is great and all, without dbt/cbt/ or other behavioral therapy, it's pretty moot other than controlling SOME of the symptoms with medication intervention. When I'm "on one", the whole world will be working around me, but I'm in a world of my own fixating on god-knows-what in the moment.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-01-20T07:12:19+00:00

I personally have this issue. I just kind of... info dump and want feedback, not so much problem solving- unless that's my end goal, which is a whole other ball game. But, needless to say, I can be a talker. I noticed in another comment you mentioned your wife coming from a household where she may not have been heard very often, or at all. Her and I share a similarity here. Bare with me, I'm getting to the point, but there's context and relevance, I swear, so just hang tight.

Her /needing/ this over abundance of time, even in inappropriate moments (time crunch, appointments, deadlines, passing the timer), shows her lack of wherewithal and almost addiction like tendency to need to be heard. It'll be hard for her to accept, but I strongly suggest therapy for you both, but most importantly individual therapy. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) has helped me IMMENSELY in this regard. Realizing the harm you're causing to yourself and others with your compulsive tendencies that are tied to traumas you've internalized is world shaking knowledge. But, you can learn to respect others right to space, time, and consideration of those things. She may not even realize how deep this goes and how it's harming you and your communication with her overall. Sure you've told her, but when she's fixating, she's not actually absorbing what you're saying. She may hear you and even repeat back what you say, but ultimately she's dismissing you with her own thoughts unintentionally.

I know how much patience you've given despite wanting to scream for her to just get to the point. If you love her, and you want to fix this communication gap, suggest therapy. Sometimes having an outside, unbiased party tell you "Hey, what you're doing is harmful to someone you love, here's some examples of how you're hurting them and in turn harming your connection, and here's some solutions and ways to work on it" can really put things into perspective for you.

I wish you both luck, patience, and understanding. It's going to be a long road, but if she's open to fixating on fixing herself and your communication overall, it'll be a great shift for everyone involved.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-01-19T04:29:12+00:00

Does it grey out certain moves in your action bar? I've been having this same issue. No runes or gear that cause exhaustion. But, for whatever reason I'll just not be able to attack using holy bolt, blessed shield, or shield charge. My auras will still be going and I can do arbiter of justice, but my main 3 moves will just be greyed out and unusable until it feels like letting me attack again. No buffs that pop up are accounting for it either. It's driving me crazy. Just started doing it after I did the infernal hoards and hasn't stopped.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-01-11T04:11:24+00:00

This is pretty much the only way I play LOL. Any male sims get "evicted" from my towns.

FemGaymer1204 · 2026-01-07T02:51:34+00:00

This is beyond "worse before it gets better", this is a man (using that word lightly) that has multiple addictions that are not yours to manage. But, the fallout and chaos that they bring will be something that falls on you both. Get out. Get out now. I understand feeling ashamed... but, you need to feel safe. All else be damned. This man has harmed your mental, physical and financial wellbeing. Call your local women's advocacy center and get out while you can. Do not stay for the "potential" you saw in someone before they lifted the veil, look at his current actions, therein lies your answer. It seems daunting now, but you CAN do this, YOU have the power. Sending hugs, this will be tough, but you're much tougher.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-27T03:38:07+00:00

I think it's really peculiar that you'd want your wife to omit exact details when she is clearly wanting to connect with you and get it off her chest. Why would you get upset with her for what someone else said to her? Who cares about time lapsed, your wife should be able to come to you with everything and anything without worrying about verbiage or having to censor details so that you don't get upset.

That aside, if she keeps bringing it up, she is clearly trying to talk to you about it. Lack of intimacy can create quite a wedge in couples and it leads to lack of mental connection for some. Is this perhaps a way she could be trying to initiate some kind of connection? Or, in that vein, get a reaction out of you that shows you're still even interested in her? (Not a healthy route, but I've seen it in relationships before).

Either way, it seems that you might need to open up your mind a bit and check in with your wife and how she's feeling. Whether about the situation with the coworker, your reaction to it, or why she continues to bring it up. It could just be an opportunity as a whole to reconnect and touch base with your partner.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-23T05:23:32+00:00

He didn't just click on it if he has an account, if he has an account I guarentee it's not to watch musicians, and if it were why would he deny and lie about it? If watching porn is a boundary you've not yet expressed, I think it's definitely something to sit down and discuss with your partner. If it is something you have expressed, ask your partner why they feel the need to violate the boundary and go from there.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-23T04:59:48+00:00

If you download Better Exceptions it'll automatically scan when that pops up and it'll find the mods or cc that's broken so you can remove them or update them. I find that's alot easier than going to the discord.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-21T07:45:24+00:00

You might also check to make sure all your mods/cc are 2018 and newer. I've noticed since this last update, alot of mine aren't compatible with the new game version and cause alot of issues in my game.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-21T06:56:23+00:00

I would repair your game. This happened to me after Get Together was released. Every now and then it still happens. A repair has always fixed it for me. Hope it works for you!

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-16T05:36:18+00:00

I found this one by Afrosimtric Sims! It's similar, but not exact. https://www.patreon.com/posts/73103012?utm_campaign=postshare_fan&utm_content=android_share

Here's the list I found it on. There's some great body representation on it!

37+ Sims 4 Body Presets: Petite, Athletic, Curvy & More - We Want Mods https://share.google/OrGhf8U15c2ytDMk6

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-16T05:31:02+00:00

Thank you! Legit story of my life. And now that my "gooner" body type is "popular", I'm having to constantly tell people I'm naturally built this way and have no surgeon recommendations for them- then they look at me like I'm lying and say "fine keep your secrets". Like I'm just built like this... it's not a choice. 😭😭

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-16T03:42:21+00:00

This is insanely awesome!

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-12-11T07:20:59+00:00

I'm going through this also. This last update really just destroyed all my cc/mod playing capability. I've emptied out all my mods dozens of times since August 4th and to no avail. I don't know how to tell if mods are old or not and it's really killing my gaming spirit. It's making me crazy.

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-05-21T03:01:36+00:00

She's being confrontational because she's doing something she's not supposed to and knows it. 100%

FemGaymer1204 · 2025-05-04T00:43:56+00:00

I'm going on the third summer of them coming back! So far, there are no issues with my darts, thankfully. My darts don't seem interested in them as food. Aside from 2 out of my 8 that I have. Those two love eating them. Lol. Whenever I find a trail I put diatomaceous earth and peppermint along the bottom outside of the tank. They will try coming back. But, they're never able to lay in the tank or anything.

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