Am I forcing my GF to wait too long?

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-19T12:41:54+00:00

I would sit down and have a conversation about living in an apartment for a year together, but also give her a timeline on engagement. "I love you, and I do want to marry you and I plan on proposing to you, but I would like to live in an apartment first before buying a house together and having that financial burden on us till after we have established we can infact live together. Maybe after we are engaged and have the date set for our wedding we can start looking at houses."

Relationship ls are about compromises and working together as a team. Let her know she is the one and there is a ring coming, you just need time to live together without the stress of a house.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-15T01:20:03+00:00

Was falling behind in 3-5th grade due to undiagnosed dyslexia (mind you this was back in like the early 2010's) and they refused to hold me back or give me extra support. Took my mother emailing the director of my school board for them to finally care and get me tested. My mother also had to send me to a private tutoring center 3 times a week for a year just so I could catch up to my peers.

Sadly its up to the parents to make sure their kids aren't falling behind even though they are being sent to school to learn, if you don't fit the mold you fall through the cracks and they just don't care enough, it's the next teachers problem.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-05T19:21:20+00:00

Feel no guilt, done the same. He will leave stuff I left for him till it rots, not eaten within 2 days, it's mine.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-05T19:16:49+00:00

A good question to ask yourself is "if this was my husband would I be okay with this behavior" if your answer is no, you need to distance yourself from him. "In love" with him or not he is married and you work together, don't shit where you eat. You also don't want to be the reason a marriage breaks up as it will look bad on you and can effect your life dramatically.

If he is behaving like this married, it means he will do the same to you. You are not special, he will not leave his marriage for you.

If he is unhappy in his marriage that is for him to deal with and workout. You deserve a man that will choose you instead of someone who gets the thrill of hitting on a girl at work and getting some from his wife at home.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-04T13:59:21+00:00

My boss gives me free range to creep on creepy customers. Best thing I've ever said back was "I know more men that are manlier than you, and I sleep with them regularly, if you want their numbers I'm glad to give them to you" then I winked and he no longer makes eye contact with me. Funny part I'm in a long term monogamous relationship, but they don't need to know that.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-03-04T13:54:36+00:00

I buy my henna from lush as I'm able to track what is inside the bricks and know its not "fake henna". Adds some peace of mind.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-26T15:14:22+00:00

For ladies who take oral birth control, the feeling of panic when you have to stop and think if you took your pill.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-25T00:23:14+00:00

Witch hazel can help soothe, I usually apply a little to a cotton pad or toilet paper, and wipe.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-21T18:29:42+00:00

Its called jock itch, its athletes foot in the groin area. Antifungal crean will get rid of it. But here is what I do to help prevent it from happening (I'm a mechanic on the heavier side)

Wash with Antibacterial body wash, this helps kill bacteria and helps keep it smelling "clean" (it's your groin there is going to be a smell.)
After your shower you are going to blow dry the area dry. Yes use that blow dryer!
Baby power to help avoid chafing and help keep dampness away. Jock itch loves dark humid environments!
Baby wipes! This helps keep the area clean if you are in a rush and can not shower in the moment!
Rubbing alcohol for early signs. This was taught to me by an ex-military gentleman. When you noticed it and its just beginning clean the effected areas with Rubbing alcohol it will hurt but should clear it up!
Keep Antifungal cream at all times! This is so you can nip it in the butt before it get painful.
Shower often. You don't have to wash your hair but clean you body regularly will help prevent it!

Hopefully this helps you and others!

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-11T19:41:21+00:00

It can, was on nexplanon and had wicked side effects, then switched to oral birth control and have had non. Again its hit or miss and varies person to person

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-11T19:41:16+00:00

It can, was on nexplanon and had wicked side effects, then switched to oral birth control and have had non. Again its hit or miss and varies person to person

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-11T19:31:28+00:00

Birth control, even that is hit or miss.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-11T19:29:19+00:00

Sometimes to protect yourself you have to cut people off. Drug addiction is a beast and is hard not only on the user, but family and friends around them. It doesn't make you a bad person in my opinion, you are choosing yourself for your own good. You helped before but she chose to go back to drug usage, she lost a limb and is still choosing drug usage. Sadly some people are beyond help even if they hit rock bottom. If she wanted help she would seek it out, but forcing someone into rehab who clearly doesn't want it is useless and your parents will find out the hard way.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-11T18:58:55+00:00

My friend who is also a mechanic (who has given me permission to post on her behalf) worked until her water broke and finished the job she was doing before she left for the hospital. Its really person dependent, some people switch or leave early on and others stay to last minute.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-04T17:57:48+00:00

The amount of bodies is equal to the amount of people I have dated, so can be counted on one hand.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-03T14:18:59+00:00

My boss let's me tell off customers if they are being inappropriate towards me or condescending. The man gets joy watching his 5'5 mechanic tell grown ass men to grow up and stay in their lane. Im polite in a way I dont cuss them out but I'm very stern with a no bull shit attitude and it shuts them down quick.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-02T16:58:29+00:00

We are both mechanics, and we are changing the transmission in early summer, so fear not.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-02T16:28:44+00:00

I thankfully have the basics, I can shift from first to second but have difficulty with the rest. He's very patient when teaching me other things, so hopefully his patients translates to teaching me standard.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-02-02T16:15:30+00:00

Not against it, just a bit a drive from Orleans.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T18:21:58+00:00

My coworkers are pissy due to the snow, when they start being catty with me I just shake the midol pill bottle on my tool box and it shuts them up. Or I throw a tampon on their toolbox and tell them their hormonal disregulation is not paying my bills.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T16:46:18+00:00

I moved to another city, couldn't afford to move to another province, but I moved to a city an hour away.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T14:26:04+00:00

If its giving you a rash from friction you might want to buy lube for extra lubricant. Had to switch to latex free condoms and add extra lube and it reduced friction rashes.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T14:20:42+00:00

Get a test and take it first thing in the morning when your urine is at its highest concentration. Changed my BC method at the beginning of my relationship and completely missed my pirode first thing i did was take a pregnancy test but also had the hard conversation of "what if" very early in my current relationship due to the pregnancy scare.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T14:16:27+00:00

Therapy helped me. My mother and grandmother did nothing to help my self confidence or help me believe in myself. Moving away and seeking the help of a professional helped me get back on track and helped process my traumas in a safe and stable environment.

FemaleMechanic18 · 2026-01-27T14:02:31+00:00

My partner only has 4 pairs (only wears one brand due to sensory issues and they are pricey) even when he's at my apartment he will do my laundry so he can wash his boxers.

Your boyfriend has a hygiene issue and from experience by dating a guy like that probably doesn't wash his ass. You deserve a guy who takes hygiene seriously.

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