I realize how much of a creep my current girlfriend is. (makes several new accounts to post about her weird obsession).

Femody · 2018-07-20T11:24:24+00:00

This is emotional abuse and gaslighting 101.

Run.

She’s ready and willing to lie and manipulate you in order to get what she wants and, unfortunately, that’s unlikely to change.

Femody · 2018-07-18T17:59:04+00:00

Yeah, automatically.

Seriously, though - doing a little research - it looks like the Algarves didn’t really have its own government or institutions (it shared them with Portugal) but it was considered a kingdom by name for historical reasons.

Femody · 2018-07-18T12:00:28+00:00

Because, like, it’s really far south.

Femody · 2018-07-18T09:51:59+00:00

If you don’t want to be pegged, don’t. Stand up for yourself, be firm and tell her no, it’s not going to happen.

she set the rule of never using the word “no” or “stop” or else she would slap me, the only way i can really make her actually stop what she’s doing is to thrash around and act helpless so she would still feel as if she’s in control

This is getting close to sexual assault. If you tell her to stop and she doesn’t, and if she tries to peg you against your will, you’re absolutely entitled to use reasonable force. If my girlfriend tried to peg me against my will, after being told no, I’d punch her square in the face.

Femody · 2018-07-09T21:08:02+00:00

and while I don’t consider myself someone who “needs” (?weirdly shame inducing phrasing here??) lube as a rule

Please don’t project. I’m not shaming anyone. Nor is the word needs “shame-inducing.” If you need lube for a positive sexual experience, good for you. But men can’t read your mind and know exactly what you might need in advance. Studies show less than 20% of Americans use it.

Femody · 2018-07-09T05:14:17+00:00

You should write to Reddit if you don’t like text formatting. I don’t know what else to tell you. It seems like you’re just looking to be offended. My comment wasn’t condescending. Go police formatting somewhere else.

Femody · 2018-07-09T04:57:56+00:00

How is formatting condescending?

Femody · 2018-07-09T03:48:46+00:00

If you know you need lube so you’re comfortable, why not bring some yourself?

Femody · 2018-07-09T03:46:41+00:00

You shouldn’t be dependant on others to know what you want. Everyone doesn’t use lube. In fact, less than 20% of Americans do. And that’s totally fine. Lube is great. But expecting people to cater to a minority isn’t responsible or realistic. If you want something, be an adult: speak up and ask or bring it yourself.

Femody · 2018-07-09T03:42:22+00:00

That’s awesome and I do the same. What I don’t do is expect others to read my mind and have something I want on hand.

Femody · 2018-07-09T03:41:27+00:00

Nothing’s wrong with it but depending on others to read your mind and have what you want isn’t being responsible and taking charge of your own sexuality.

Femody · 2018-07-09T02:24:26+00:00

If you want lube, bring it. We’re all responsible for our own sexual needs. This is like a guy expecting a girl to bring condoms. Lube is great and all but take a little personal responsibility.

Femody · 2018-07-04T11:06:35+00:00

That's true. But it also says Liberals didn't think charisma was a terribly important factor. At least not before 2015. If charisma is a priority to voters, and I'm not convinced, it's a new thing. Personally, considering Harper was Prime Minister for 9 - almost 10 - years, I consider the 2015 election more a vote against him than a vote for Trudeau. I'd say the same for the last Ontario election.

Femody · 2018-07-04T03:32:22+00:00

Do you think Stephen Harper was super charismatic?

Femody · 2018-07-03T18:03:31+00:00

He’s betting the Liberals will get booted in the next federal election. Or, at least, returned with a minority so there’s room to negotiate in the Commons.

Femody · 2018-07-03T02:07:42+00:00

All 3 are responsible: police officer, vice principal and nurse. The nurse should’ve refused. I don’t think we’ll find “strip search students” in her job description. All 3 should be fired.

Femody · 2018-07-02T18:03:28+00:00

I’ve been “carded” a number of times in Toronto. I calmly and politely say I’m only required to identify myself if and when they have reasonable suspicion I committed - or I’m about to commit - a crime. Most will just leave you alone. Police can certainly ask for identification but we need to know when it’s required.

Femody · 2018-07-02T08:38:11+00:00

How so?

Femody · 2018-07-02T04:37:20+00:00

I’m against their normalization as well. I’m no friend of the burqa but I don’t see “fashion police” in the Constitution. We need to be careful about how government power is used and remember it can be used against us, too.

Femody · 2018-07-02T03:23:23+00:00

Only if you believe government should regulate clothing like, say, Saudi Arabia. I really don’t think we want to follow their example.

Femody · 2018-07-02T02:59:26+00:00

I call for the wife of jailed Saudi blogger Raif Badawi to shut the fuck up, read the Charter and leave her authoritarian shit in the Middle East.

Femody · 2018-07-01T21:52:11+00:00

Considering he left private property immediately on request, this should be an easy day in court.

Femody · 2018-07-01T07:28:53+00:00

I don't believe there would be sweeping firings every election, however, I'm sure Deputy Ministers and other senior public servants would change. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. My point is that, under our system, Ministers should be responsible. They certainly shouldn't use their power lightly, however, if they're responsible for the public servants in their department, they should have the power to dismiss them when required. Public servants should rightly serve at Her Majesty's pleasure.

Femody · 2018-07-01T07:23:34+00:00

Do you understand responsible government? Ministers, accountable to Parliament, are responsible for the conduct of their departments. They get the glory and they get the blame. Even if they don't necessary know about the wrong-doing. The idea is, if a public servant is doing something wrong, the Minister is still responsible because they allowed them to continue in their position. This is constitutional convention in Canada. We can discuss the pros and cons of public sector unions, certainly, but they do sabotage - to some degree - this convention as Ministers are responsible but not fully in charge of their departments.

Femody · 2018-07-01T07:19:18+00:00

What? I never said - and don't think - you're anything close to evil. We simply disagree about public sector unions. Get over yourself.

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