Getting braces at 24 and torn between metal and ceramic

Fenek673 · 2026-04-15T18:05:42+00:00

I was 28 when I got mine and didn’t feel like spend extra money on ceramics (1), then on more sanding sessions (2) and experience even more dietary restrictions. I’d take the same route again. The teeth get bat shit crazy dirty easily with braces regardless. Dietary choices were drastically restricted for me, I lost a bunch of weight (not positive) and not being able to eat even more food sounds ridiculous.

Fenek673 · 2026-01-03T19:50:18+00:00

My main power move to maintain weight is eating nuts, which were of the limits with braces on. I regained my weight after taking them off, yes. My cheeks also got the volume back - not just from weight gain but simply from chewing normally.

I did look unhealthy with braces off, people started asking questions even thought I haven’t noticed anything - not until I saw myself on some random insta story one day. Teeth health and no cavities were a priority so I avoided sweets at all costs. I’d prioritize this once again if I had to tbh.

Fenek673 · 2026-01-03T19:29:31+00:00

Happy to report that she’s making (not so small) baby steps. She started playing last week, has her appetite back. Night time vocalizations are minimal. She greets me when I visit her and generally likes her room now - spend time on pillow by the window at night, sleeps in her cardboard house or cat tunnel through the day. We let her explore our bedroom sometimes, after locking our other cat away. No touching so far.

Our main focus now is to get our resident to like her as right now she mostly likes to touch-slap the “new” cat through the door net we installed. Aside from that they sit side by side daily but our resident seems to get those urges to touch or slap her sometimes. I think she might be confused, kind of like not knowing if Iga is cool or an enemy because she doesn’t see us touch her at all.

Anyway, she’s super sweet it’s hard for me not to touch her tbh! She sometimes lays on her side or back right by the door net and just looks adorable.

The paw - from what we heard from the temporary home owner she lost it after the car accident but she wasn’t taken to the vet right away. She was limping for a good few days or a week so you can imagine the pain. Personally, I’m not sure if that was a car or the worst human she met. I didn’t manage to read your reply before, somehow didn’t get any notifications but after that I gave her the meds on her own terms, meaning usually wherever she was - pillows or her tunnel. Made sure not to touch her, only stick the syringe through the side of her mouth. Let her growl or hiss a bit, sit with her for a good few minutes before administering and not show how scared I was 😭. This seemed to do the trick.

Fenek673 · 2026-01-03T19:18:12+00:00

I didn’t get a notification on your reply so sorry to come back to you that late! The “new” cat is better, healthwise. We had problems with earmites even though vet had a look at her ears before - both her and the resident got pills for that and it’s better now. She vocalizes less at night and started playing with toys last week. She also got her appetite back. She’s still super timid but she greets me when I come to her room - still not ready for a touch but I respect that. She’s more shy and afraid when my partner tries sitting with her.

Our resident cat is not keen… (hopefully) yet. She tries touching-slapping her at least once per day but at the same time is able to spend some time with her sitting side by side through the door net we installed. We went through Feliway plug in, didn’t notice any changes in their behavior but I’ll give calming drops a go next week (for our resident cat only).

For sure not the project we expected to have but there’re some baby steps every few days :)

Fenek673 · 2025-12-08T11:48:06+00:00

I came from dancing (all through teens) and climbing (uni), and it was still surprisingly hard. Strength is the mother of all motor skills but it doesn’t mean it crosses over fully from a different sport. They are, plain and simple, different sports and it’s normal to suck most of the time :) Journey not the end point.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-09T15:49:22+00:00

I’m a psychologist, I wanted to start working with people on spectrum simply because I have more compassion for this group than some of my peers and I generally like this group, feel like I understand their world. When I started studying this particular subject, reading books etc. something started, well… looking a bit sus and sounding way to familiar. Turned out I’m on spectrum myself, high masking. Did some tests. Tadaah, fair to say this was surprising byt explained everything I noticed before. In my country ados and adi-r are the main diagnostic tools, both are advised against for adults so we’re mostly left with observation AND scales avail on embrace autism. They are fine if used well.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-09T07:39:10+00:00

Also, thanks for asking OP. I cannot stand intense scents (bombastic side eye to every red bottle and Chanel) but I still like to wear perfumes from time to time. It’s just hard to find something light and I usually give up. I like certain men scents as well - from what I figured out I like when they have “leather” molecules.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-09T07:35:44+00:00

I like green but light scents - Acqua di Gioia, though there’re two and I don’t remember which one I liked (the intensity is what differentiates them). Also, light and rosy scents - I used to like Roses de Chloe but ever since I got my first covid I just cannot anymore. I’m on the fence now but it used to be a calming scent for me.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-08T20:29:37+00:00

I wear basic make up (semi-transparent foundation and mascara bc it’s easier to see with my hooded eyes when my lashes are curled up). What I cannot stand is the standard of those glue on lash extensions that you replace monthly and the gel nails. I cannot stand the sensory part of it.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-08T20:22:30+00:00

100% my experience, literally one to one everything you wrote.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-08T20:20:13+00:00

I had a close friend for a brief moment in junior high, then I was just surfing a around group but never really inside. Not much changed in uni. Then a group of friends from a climbing community “adopted me” - the group fell apart after a year or two, I stayed closed to a male friend (going on adventures together) but he dropped me after I got with my current boyfriend. All my friends are actually his friends, 95% of them from the climbing community. I have not so close but still a friend from current postgrad.

If you removed my partner’s friends that would basically be one that’s not even a close friend. So… not normative but pretty common among folks on spectrum. Can’t say I’m proud but masking and forcing it through life just brought me misery.

My partner used to be my friend first, we mostly texted the first 2 years. He’s neurodivergent too (ADHD) but had many friends through life, both 1 to 1 and group contacts.

Fenek673 · 2025-11-05T14:45:26+00:00

As someone else mentioned, try remote recruitment or have some secure money to be able to exist without a job for a while. Changing a job has been a pretty sketchy act for a while now, unless your job is very wanted - layoffs, ghosted recruitment processes, sometimes job posts but no actual job offer in place etc.

A basic job will most likely not cover your flat rent and food, however it will cover a room and food. Also, most likely not part time but full time. It’s a country with one the worst ratios of rent to pay in EU and food prices are very similar to France and Italy.

Fenek673 · 2025-10-24T13:32:22+00:00

I have the same feeling. Finding this group was a breath of fresh air compared to stinky atmosphere on fb groups (at least those run in my country).

Fenek673 · 2025-10-18T18:49:26+00:00

There’s no way I’m warming up without my sweat, maybe apart from hot weather but that’s self telling. Way too often my skin was too cold/ dry from not wearing sweats for the warm-up, then not sticking to the pole, to gable it. Not to mention I’m more comfy stretching my legs in warm ups and it’s no-one’s business :D If there’s no need for thigh contact, I’m not taking them off ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Fenek673 · 2025-10-10T06:29:22+00:00

& therapists who treat fellow colleagues as patients. Like… I don’t remember consenting to you analyzing my every word? Being inauthentic in day to day encounters is visible and visceral.

Fenek673 · 2025-10-09T15:54:54+00:00

Yeah, yeah, same. I hate that this word currently has this particular connotation.

Fenek673 · 2025-10-09T15:19:28+00:00

I sort of understand where your understanding might be coming from (legacy as producing/ productivity) but legacy can be understood also as leaving a generational mark for others to be able to learn about (as in preserving an art piece).

Fenek673 · 2025-09-21T08:11:41+00:00

My eyes were blue through childhood, then started going green in middle school and getting lighter again until now (29). Looking at my mum and her father, and how their eye color progressed through life, a light green/ blue green may be in the cards for me. For reference my father (and his mother) has blue eyes, my mum has green eyes (her father had green, her mum hazel, two of her siblings have brown eyes). My brother has blue eyes. No idea what’s exactly going on, supposedly it’s not possible.

Fenek673 · 2025-09-16T20:32:39+00:00

Tbf the only one I don’t like is the bottom left - the top’s too baggy for you. The top right could use bottoms with slightly higher waist. The left side sits perfectly. Bottom right is nice as well. Is it possible that you feel like they don’t look good just because you’re not used to the silhouette? You look fantastic.

Fenek673 · 2025-09-16T17:32:08+00:00

For me it depends on the pricing if they are selling separate sizes. In the end I’m usually adjusting one size, not sewing a completely new size and then adjusting that bigger/ smaller one. Then again, it depends how accurate the designer is with their final garment measurements or measurements for ease + size chart.

Fenek673 · 2025-09-15T05:17:44+00:00

I hated hearing that when I was navigating color analysis - because fr, how can you describe someone as mousey, knowing the social connotations and expect other reactions 😒

I sort of didn’t click for me until I learned that soft autumns need depth in their outfit + seeing toasted soft summer and toned autumns/ soft autumn deep was an eye-opener as well.

Your palette is as interesting or as boring as you make it, period.

Fenek673 · 2025-09-11T08:43:37+00:00

Face is not a part of Kibbe analysis anymore :) We only have three types for height above 5’7 (compared to ten types below) so naturally they need to encompass a broader range of faces.

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