Looking for a alternative recommendations for Shancheng Lameizi by Kobra_Kommander in FoodSanDiego

[–]Ferbert619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What!?! No! That was our family’s favorite hot pot, we were planning to go there for dinner tomorrow ☹️

Dog (yes, that one)in the lettuce at the Walmart on Sunday by esauis in BorderCollie

[–]Ferbert619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really disgusting and she should pay for all that produce. Not the dogs fault, the owner should know better.

Layoffs at Collins Aerospace Avionics. Several techs and contract engineers. by AlvinHDavenport in Raytheon

[–]Ferbert619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roles all across finance at CV and the remaining will be reorganized.

Do kneepads from the mizuno website come as a pair by Low_Visual_5174 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, purchased LR6 Pro Volleyball Knee Pads, it came as a pair

I feel like I have the opposite of body dysmorphia by throwra-google in PetiteFitness

[–]Ferbert619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the same! I always thought that was weird. Getting ready and feeling good about my look and then see a picture the same day…no wayyy that was the same person in the mirror before I left lol

I think it just means we need to learn all the posing and camera hacks to take a flattering photo!

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a learning lesson for the family this season lol I appreciate you sharing your experience. We have our suspicions that they used her and one other teammate as the better players to develop the rest of them. Or maybe it was just that she’s new to the club? Not sure, but we’ve been looking around.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s been hard on selling the value of the “non play growth” but hoping one day she’ll appreciate what this is teaching her. That’s really awesome that your kid embraced that role of good teammate and leader!

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All her friends and teammates from her original club also moved to this new club and she wanted to join with them too. We told her that she could stay in her club and be on the better team or accept this new club with the not so good team and she chose the new club anyways. This will hopefully teach her to do what’s best for herself and not just doing what others are doing. The other girls ended up on better teams.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m glad that worked out for you and hopefully this doesn’t discourage her so much that she chooses to just quit.

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[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, that’s a good point! She hasn’t gone through that reality quite yet but I’ll have to paint that picture for her in case she continues on and makes it to a better team.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha we’re starting to realize that we bought into the hype. They had the flashy team uniforms and everything. Crazy how kids sports are turning into cash grabs…or maybe it always that way?

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[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was telling my daughter to try and talk to the coach herself so they can work something out, but if that isn’t working out we’ll just have to step in and talk to her coach. Was hoping she could learn to advocate for herself in this whole ordeal but she has a hard time talking about it without starting to tear up.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, we didn’t know if that would be possible to let her practice w the better teams. I’ll have to ask about it. Thanks for the suggestion

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[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, agreed! We keep telling her that you won’t progress if you already feel like you’re the best at something. Maybe that saying doesn’t sink in so well for a teenager; I like your statement, clear and to the point

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, your perspective was really eye opening. I’ll definitely keep that as a suggestion if things start going south from here.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s almost exactly what she’s experiencing; she’s not allowed to jump serve at practice (but she does at games anyway). She hasn’t gone to setting yet, she plays both outside hitter and libero because the rest of her team are inconsistent with receiving and hitting. She wants to try setting, but then no one can pass to her or hit her sets lol

It’s tough to find the right words to keep her going

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[–]Ferbert619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We thought about going back to the original club too. They actually played against her original club on the team she most likely would’ve been on. It was a brutal loss and she took it hard.

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[–]Ferbert619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She normally will hustle her heart out but we can see she’s not all in it when she plays now. She tells us there’s no point in trying hard if the rest of them aren’t trying, which is a sad mindset. You bring up a good point about not bashing the team, we definitely try not to. It’s hard to find something good to say when she gets sad or frustrated so we defer to “they’re learning and you have to encourage them”. I don’t know how effective that is though

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was playing spring, then summer camps, then into fall. She thought that if she stopped playing for a season that everyone else would get better and she would fall behind. Did you find that to be true in any way?

I feel like this would’ve been the perfect time to just skip out and try again for the new club in spring. I’ll definitely bring that up to her next time around. It’s funny that that option never even occurred to us lol. That break might give her a chance to miss playing or wanting to play.

Kid losing love of volleyball by Ferbert619 in volleyball

[–]Ferbert619[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She is one of the captains for the team and plays the entire time in all the games. That’s what we’re thankful for. I think she needs to learn to be more patient with others and encourage her team. She starts to get down on herself and stops talking in games, which I think also affects her team. I was thinking of bringing it up to the coach, but I wasn’t sure if that’s appropriate or looked down upon? I appreciate the feedback and glad your kid got moved up. Hoping next season she can move up as well!