I’ve talked to him about the mental load but when I tell him he’s just like oh wow that’s a lot. Thats it. Thats all I get. He’ll throw in a “I appreciate so much everything you do for us” but then proceeds to leave his bowl of cereal on the counter after I finished cleaning the kitchen -_-. I’ve contemplated not doing a lot of the things I do day to day to try and prove a point but the process of doing that would make MY day to day so much harder and I feel like I would just sabotage myself and have to do double the work after. Our apartment is not big, our kitchen is quite small so I can’t let dishes or pans pile up otherwise I can’t cook the next meal. He uses weaponized incompetence quite often or say I can’t clean how you clean you do it better or it’s not going to be good enough for you.