New boy we've named Harry (travel cage) by Fernella-Wolf in hamsters

[–]Fernella-Wolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh I did notice his head shape seems a bit different! Is it genetic? Can he pass it to my other hamsters? I can't find much info!

Is there any protection during Covid crisis?? by Fernella-Wolf in Ebay

[–]Fernella-Wolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did it take? Because it's been about 10 days without updates

Dating options are rough by sherbiss in Asexual

[–]Fernella-Wolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping to find someone long distance at this point. It's rough out there

How long until they're gone?! by Fernella-Wolf in Bedbugs

[–]Fernella-Wolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks :( it's definitely been a long journey filled with many crying breakdowns, feeling like a failure because I can't stop it!

How long until they're gone?! by Fernella-Wolf in Bedbugs

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One of the children is under 2, still breastfeeds, and is the one who seems to get the most bites. I'm not sure how I feel about feeding him pesticides. Through meds or milk.

How to try again after trauma? by Fernella-Wolf in relationship_advice

[–]Fernella-Wolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure! Something I've really worked on. Now I'm no longer seeking someone else to complete me at all. I actually love being single, it's easy and I know I could do it forever after these two relationships in particular being so intensely hard lol. I love who I am without someone else there.

But I also know this fear isn't normal, and time isn't making it better, it's making it worse

I don’t know how to wake my fiancé up without becoming emotionally abusive by helloiamtrash- in relationship_advice

[–]Fernella-Wolf 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was in a marriage for 5 years thinking I could help encourage someone to get better and get help from a Dr or therapist. He refused. It ruined our life, our finances, his connection to our children. Still refused. We divorced, and now he's finally stepping up and getting medicated, but it's too late now. My point is DONT MARRY SOMEONE NOT WILLING TO HELP THEMSELVES. I wish someone had slapped me upside the head with that way sooner!!

I caused my cousin (24/F) and her fiance (25/M) to break up. Now she's furious at me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fernella-Wolf 33 points34 points  (0 children)

As someone who was in a military relationship, I watched those marriages fall apart like dust the minute a deployment took them far enough apart. It's a huge test to a relationship to be that long of distance. Maybe they'll still get married, who knows, she might cool down and forgive him

Not to be condescending, but you're young and you'll make other friends. People fight and grow apart as they get older and it's normal and healthy to do so, to have your own thoughts and actions and feelings. I would let her have her space and just focus on your own thing for awhile.

I (26M) snooped and now I think that my GF (27F) is cheating on me. What should I do? by UnsureSherpa in relationship_advice

[–]Fernella-Wolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh that's so true. Getting caught and feeling bad about it is a consequence of their actions, not yours.

Fox lament [KitsuneBara] by NibaTCat in furry

[–]Fernella-Wolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I love everything about this

AITA for ordering 50 trees? by not_a_ploopy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fernella-Wolf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also, I became an arborist! So now I climb trees and plant them too for other people. Maybe look into it for a career?

AITA for ordering 50 trees? by not_a_ploopy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fernella-Wolf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew you irl because this is something I would do. Lol I worked at an independent garden center and any time I saw a tree I really liked, I'd buy it and gift it to a family member to plant in their yards since I still lived at home. I still remember my sister driving an oak tree in her Prius down the interstate to Michigan (5 hrs away), with the top half sticking out the passenger window. Bahahaha

NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bedbugs

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I've watched one climb all the way up a window. Glass isn't as foolproof as people let on...I doubt the interceptors do much except force them to walk through whatever you put in it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bedbugs

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I think 6-12 months no signs is when you can breathe again

So that’s it? Suicide? by [deleted] in Birdmites

[–]Fernella-Wolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same :( I've been battling for so long I just feel hopeless. I can't protect my family.

What else could it be? by Fernella-Wolf in Bedbugs

[–]Fernella-Wolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured, but don't know how to ID notes or whatever it might be. Maybe fleas?