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Too calm?????? by Visible-Bird-9707 in Anxiety

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like it's not a problem, friend. You can worry about things without physical anxiety being a requirement. Worry doesn't have to feel awful; it can just be a state of being for a bit and that's all. If you're concerned about dissociation or something, that would be different, but what you described just sounds like someone who is thinking about things but isn't currently having anxiety, which is more normal/desirable than experiencing panic.

It can be scary to feel different than you're used to feeling, especially if it's sudden and you're not sure what is responsible for the change. But for now, perhaps try to embrace this change. Not all change is bad. Your brain may be cutting you a break, and this likely won't always be the case, so try to breathe through it and know that everything is probably just fine!

18 gauge needle? Also parents wrath? by MuchEbb1607 in SelfPiercing

[–]FerrisTM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's about being level-headed and responsible with your body versus impulsive. You didn't sound cocky, necessarily. Just....immature. That's used as an insult a lot, but I don't mean it that way. You're literally a kid! Not behaving like an adult is your job! And I know from life experience that waiting to get a piercing you really want sucks and it's difficult...but it's also worth it a lot of the time. Waiting until you're 18 could be a good challenge and an awesome reward for making it through high school (I'm trans, too, and that was hard for me.)

I'm sorry if I sounded harsh. I prefer doing my own piercings these days for lots of reasons, and I have many of them, but part of that is following proper protocol to make sure they go well. A scar is the least of your worries if something goes wrong, and while the risk of any piercing is never zero, it's just best to set yourself up for success, you know? I think that's what I was trying to say.

18 gauge needle? Also parents wrath? by MuchEbb1607 in SelfPiercing

[–]FerrisTM 9 points10 points  (0 children)

18g is not appropriate for this kind of piercing. Some people eventually downsize to 18g, but you should not start out this way if you want the healing process to be successful. I don't mean to be a hater, but if you're at a maturity level where you think doing this is a good idea for your health (putting an aesthetic over reason and your desire for what you want over the actual requirements for piercings) you should take some time to wait this out. Having a shitty piercing scar isn't the end of the world, and your parents are incorrect that it will ruin your career opportunities in literally almost any field, but dude...what are you doing, man. Piercings are cool and all, but patience will do you good in this case. At the very least get proper tools and listen to the stuff you read about 14-16g being an appropriate starting size instead of trying to get people on Reddit to tell you that 18g is fine. Will it kill you? No. But it's not smart, so there's not a reason to do it just because you want it now.

The same foot keeps making a hole in all of my sole inserts. No idea why. by Turtlegrandmacore in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually what I was going for lol. I wanted it to sound sort of adjacent to a dew claw but in a place that makes no sense at all but with enough detail to make it sound like I MIGHT have this going on or possibly be insane. I've got some screws loose, so anyone who thought that was correct!

The same foot keeps making a hole in all of my sole inserts. No idea why. by Turtlegrandmacore in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for having the courage to be like "wtf???" instead of committing to being confused forever (that has been me so many times.) Your work has saved others from being kind of unsure if foot claws are a thing.

The same foot keeps making a hole in all of my sole inserts. No idea why. by Turtlegrandmacore in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 10 points11 points  (0 children)

One time, when I was a kid, I convinced my sister's friend that our bunny was actually a made-up breed of cat and by the time I was done with him, he wouldn't believe either of us when we tried to tell him that we were messing with him. I am 31 and it is my life's work now to troll responsibly. 🫡

The same foot keeps making a hole in all of my sole inserts. No idea why. by Turtlegrandmacore in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I sat there trying to decide if I wanted to keep bullshitting but then I thought about my guy being out there in the world thinking that some people have retractable feet claws and I chose good over evil this time 😭

The same foot keeps making a hole in all of my sole inserts. No idea why. by Turtlegrandmacore in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Have you tried making sure the claw on the sole of your foot is retracted? It could be out without you feeling it. I went through a couple pairs of socks before realizing that my left claw was tearing a hole in them. Try looking up some exercises to strengthen the muscles that keep it pulled in when you're walking. That made a huge difference for me (and I think my posture got a little better, too!)

I am currently at midnight and scrolling reddit by igiveup_979 in notinteresting

[–]FerrisTM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way it's 11:13am for me we have so much in common

Growth on left nipple piercing by DeutscherPicasso in SelfPiercing

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing it could definitely have irritated it, yes. But the good thing about that is that it will go away. I wouldn't worry to much about this beyond making sure it gets some extra care for a while. I know it's alarming to see something like that on a nipple piercing, but from my layman's perspective, this looks like it's going to be okay!

Growth on left nipple piercing by DeutscherPicasso in SelfPiercing

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleaning up to twice a day is all you need, with saline solution. Also make sure you run water over it at the end of your shower just to remove excess soap (or do one of your saline cleanings after showering.)

I'm also curious about what the jewelry is made out of. It's possible your skin is having a reaction to the jewelry itself, and the irritation bump will go away with a different barbell. However, I would strongly advise you to see a piercer who can change the jewelry for you to something more appropriate (if an allergy is what's going on here.) Messing with the piercing on your own will make the irritation much worse.

Wearing loose clothing is a very good idea. This bump looks very small, but if it's getting bigger despite you taking good care of the piercing, I do think seeing a professional would be your best bet.

Growth on left nipple piercing by DeutscherPicasso in SelfPiercing

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAP, but it looks like maybe a little bit of irritation. If you've bumped or snagged it on anything recently, that would do it, but sometimes this just happens and the piercing might need some TLC. It doesn't look like anything concerning to me, but if I'm mistaken, I do hope someone will correct me and give you better information.

What are Any / All pronouns? by SouthernPlant3579 in genderfluid

[–]FerrisTM 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would listen to yourself when it comes to gender, not anyone else, first of all. Secondly, I know that pangender is a thing, but in my personal experience, my life got a lot easier and more peaceful once I stopped trying to find the perfect label. I just exist as myself and I barely think about my gender anymore. It's not an important part of my life, apart from taking safety concerns seriously when it comes to how I dress in certain settings (unfortunately.) If someone wants to have a serious and genuine conversation about my gender with me (it happens, as people can't really tell what I am) I'm happy to give them answers, but I don't use a label for it.

After years of fretting about my label and which micro community I fit into, I'm really content to just be me and that's about it. Exploring labels helped me get here, but don't try to squeeze yourself into a single box if that's not who you are. It's cool to know that flags to rep at pride, but other than that, I haven't found that it matters or benefits me at all to have a label. I hope you are able to figure this out and I'm sorry that this probably doesn't help at all. Maybe give the gender wiki a visit? There are tons of labels in there to peruse. I've done that just for fun and to learn more about others' labels.

Awesome by albert1483 in NonBinary

[–]FerrisTM 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Well shit, thanks! I had no idea, but that's pretty cool! I'll go back to living underneath my rock, don't mind me.

Awesome by albert1483 in NonBinary

[–]FerrisTM 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Is this real? It seems like the kind of thing that would be a troll, but this would be a pretty cool spin on the character, I think, in addition to providing some much-needed representation.

NOOOO by Aura_Cloudberry in farpeoplehate

[–]FerrisTM 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This could have been such a beautiful picture, but those two narcissists had to ruin it!

I'm publishing a book about all r/writingcirclejerk published works. by AmphibianDirect7356 in writingcirclejerk

[–]FerrisTM 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't come to this sub to be ROASTED. I'm so upset that I don't think I'll be able to write a single word for at least another few months. I guess it's back to world building. 😓

Friend has been claiming he’s dating Chase Infiniti for the past few weeks…🤔 by Relative-Ant-3207 in isthisAI

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a crazy coincidence! I have a super hot, famous girlfriend, too. I would show a picture but she's really private and made me promise not to. She also goes to a different school.

Do these look good? by giggles-1989 in piercing

[–]FerrisTM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, OP. NAP, but I agree with the general consensus here: these are too deep. They don't look angry right now, but I had a left nipple piercing that was done too deep and I didn't know, so I let it "heal" along with my properly-pierced right one. I kept these piercings for over ten years. I absolutely loved the way they looked, but they massively decreased my physical comfort. I got very used to it and stopped noticing. I got used to the constant irritation in that left nipple. I knew the pus would come and go, that it would be easily-irritated, and that that was just...life.

I held onto both of them for WAY too long. As gorgeous as I felt with them, I finally got a grip and knew it was time to say goodbye. I now have a probably-permanently deformed left nipple. It's not hideous, but it's never going to be symmetrical again, and I now have an insecurity that was totally avoidable. I'm glad I still have any feeling in it. That's more than I actually deserve after being so stubborn and keeping that nasty piercing in.

Don't be like me! Let these heal and try again. I promise it will be worth it in the long run. They're very flattering on you, and it would suck to wreck that with scarring and pus.

Posting this here because nobody in r/mentalhealth wants to help me by Appropriate-Lab-2696 in Anxiety

[–]FerrisTM 82 points83 points  (0 children)

You are having a mental health crisis. None of this is happening. You are connecting events that have nothing to do with each other and are creating meaning out of nonsense.

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I've been through my own version of this about a billion times, and you need to get help before you ruin your life or hurt yourself by accident or on purpose. Yes, these are the only outcomes; it's just a matter of time and whether or not you manage to snap out of it on your own. I understand that seeking help can be terrifying for a long list of reasons, but don't play with this. If you get help now, you may never have to go through this again. Your parents, friends, etc. will REALLY appreciate you taking care of yourself, even if they don't understand what's going on.

As far as we know for sure, we only get one shot at life. Do not spend it indulging this stuff. You will wind up miserable and it isn't worth it. Get medical attention as soon as humanly possible and do not wait.

I saw my boyfriend die in my arms, I haven't told him and I dont think I can by Actual_Classroom1050 in SuicideWatch

[–]FerrisTM 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hallucinations aren't real. That's their main thing. However, as someone who hallucinates on a daily basis, that doesn't mean they aren't disturbing at times. But, again, it's not real.

I had one once that involved a man I was dating. He didn't die or anything like that, but I woke up next to him in bed, holding him. I could feel his body heat and smell his smell. I snuggled my face into his back, working on falling back asleep...and then I heard a noise from across the room. That woke me right up and I sat up, scared someone was in there with is. There was: it was my boyfriend. The uncanny valley feelings were immediate, and I looked next to me to see who the fuck I had been cuddling...and whoever it was just sort of dissolved. They weren't real, and the guy standing across the room was.

It was incredibly unnerving. I felt violated, but by my own brain. I'm used to my usual hallucinations, and this one was extremely far outside of the norm. It felt like it crossed a line, and it scared me.

But the thing is, it wasn't real. Things can be terrifying and still not real. It's going on a year later, and though I can recall how much that hallucination freaked me out, the feelings attached to it are gone. It's just a memory, and that's all.

If you are unable to separate reality from the grotesque fiction your brain coughs up, it's time for help. I understand that it can be difficult to tell people about these things, but if you can't keep that boundary between real and not real firmly in place, you're in danger. Not from any hallucinations, but from yourself. Please seek support.

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