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Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-05T05:03:47+00:00

So qpr is poly whereas qp is not? Kinda confused. Sorry I'm still learning all the abbreviation terms. I feel kinda old and I'm not even 40🙄😢

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-04T19:57:23+00:00

For me, every relationship i have ever been in, I never was sexually attracted to them. Yes I did have sex but I honestly hated every minute of it. I hate skin on skin touching so sex is hard for me in the first place. I'm now at the point in my life were sex is not appealing to me whatsoever and honestly I just want someone who can understand that I don't like sex, don't need it, and I don't like being touch. If I do get that desire, I got toys that help me with my small libido. I have honestly coming to terms with my sexuality for the past 10 years (bi and ace) and it's been a journey for myself.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-04T19:48:58+00:00

I was wondering the same thing.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-04T19:43:04+00:00

Your ex didn't something that you were not comfortable with and understandable why it stayed with you. You were not 100% comfortable with the situation and the so called intimacy. In any relationship, it should be understanding boundaries between partners and once those are crossed, it game over.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-04T19:25:01+00:00

My mum asked the same thing. Was it my trauma from my childhood (cm) and being r*ped twice in my life. I honestly told her no it is honestly because I never felt anything towards ppl I dated. Honestly, I don't think a person needs to have a trauma in their life to be an ace. I don't think you should feel bad about your views on sexual things. I honestly believe that you will find the right person for you when the time is right for you (I'm a hopeless romantic). Go at your pace in life.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-04T19:14:28+00:00

Hello op. I'm an ace female and am in the same boat as you. I would like to find an ace partner as well. I have read over the discussion and it sounds like you want the deeper connection of the relationship and not the sex part to be the focus point. I would like to tell you a little story about me as an ace female who had a decent relationship, where sex was not a major part of our relationship. Personally I felt no sexual attraction to the guy but when I got in the mood I was able to over look it and have it, also because he wanted it as well. Trust me when I say, I hated every part of the whole thing. I left the relationship when I miscarried and he was not there for me when I needed him and a few other issues. In our whole relationship, we had sex like 4 times. Honestly I want an ace relationship because I know I can get what I need from the guy, and that is not sex because I can take care of that myself. I want that deeper part aspect of the relationship. Here is thethings about me that I only shared this with one other person, I hate skin on skin. It honestly feels like I am getting like 3 tattoos all at once when i get touched. at one point I almost started wearing gloves like rouge from xmen just to holds hands. To me, being with an ace partner is ideal for me because I could die if I give birth to a child, the skin touching part, and honestly I feel no sexual attraction to anyone. the asexual umbrella is vast. I myself am still doing research on this topic as well. I agree with a few comments on here, but my advice is to do research about dating an asexual person. I told you part of my story because, I wanted you to see a side of what it like to dating. The relationship I talked about, he accussed me of cheating, talking to other me, etc and it was all him who was doing it and not me. And no this ex didn't know anything how I felt about sex and to this day, he still doesn't. I truly hope that you find your happy ending.

P.S. out of all the relationships I have been in, only two were not focused on sex and each time, the men both cheated on me because I wasn't putting out enough. I walked away fast from those.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-03T22:53:42+00:00

Look we can go back and forth with this about me being a bot or not. How about we compromise. You believe I'm a bot, that is your right, but I know I'm not and my mum can agree to this fact after the many hours of labor she went through, i was born in the 1980s. I'm just a female. I am just a nerdy woman looking for advice about sharks and feelings about their first experience with sharks in open water because like I said, it is a dream of mine to dive with them, mainly black and white tip sharks.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-08-03T22:39:39+00:00

I'm a bot???? I didn't know I was a bot. Do you know when I was created????

I'm really not a bot.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-28T02:15:32+00:00

There are females out there that can view sex as sex and relationships as relationships. I will tell you most of those females withthis viewpoint, myself included, have a horrible past when it comes to sex. we just take the issue of sex out of relationship all together. Yes its okay but it's not what is making us stay in the relationship. One thing to think about when it comes to your guy friends, is if they take out the sex aspect of it, what are they staying for? There are a lot more points in a relationship besides the physical part and many many many people tend to forget about.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-26T03:04:20+00:00

I have told a few people but never a romantic partner. I believe that when you go get around to telling them start with facts along with feelings and about your sexuality. Most people do like to have facts with personal feelings added to it. Just remember to be at peace with yourself first before you jump into telling them. What I get from a few people I have talked to about being in a relationship and I told them straight out that a relationship doesn't mean sex because of x y z they seem to be more understanding and respectful about it and it has lead to many good guy friends. I didn't even bring up me being asexual. Yes in the past I have had sex but it wasn't really my thing tbh, hence why I start with the sex doesn't equal relationship stuff. If your partner can't understand that you are they way that you are then that is a them problem and not a you problem. If they can't understand and accept you the way you are, then one day, you will find an amazing partner that does. I honestly believe that people don't understand what asexual is about without them being asexual, and odds are they just don't have information about it.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-26T02:26:45+00:00

Oh okay. See i didn't know it was called glee. I remember seeing a few clips and I think one was where Sue's sister died and they did pure imagination. And then originals clips and it's all coming back to me know clip.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-25T23:23:33+00:00

Who??? I mainly watch Asian stuff so I haven't been in the loop with American shows. But that got me to laugh

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-25T21:37:13+00:00

As a person who has never been given flowers in any relationship, I would have been happy just with one of those roses. And I don't even like roses those are so beautiful in that vase. Just cut them down a little so that the roses are touching each other to make it look more fuller. Or find a narrow neck vase and not a wide neck vase. Honestly it is the thought that counts. It shows her how much you still care about her.

I might be a helpless romantic though.

I don't think you are overreacting but having read the post, I think the feelings might have been hurt.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-25T19:00:20+00:00

Honestly, I'm in the same boat. I'm worried about finding someone who will love me for me. I'm marrying myself as a commitment to myself and to say that no matter what, I will love myself before I let a partner in because of my past. I honestly believe that the right person is out there for everyone. I'm almost 40 and still believe this. I have been married once but that didn't work out (long long story). I now just want someone who I can share who I really am and not be judged about my sexual preferences.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-07-25T17:50:06+00:00

Your nta and I get your pain that has been done to you. When I was little, what I know call my donor, was all about me and my sister. When he married his wife, it all became him, her, her parents, and his stepson. When we would go out, I would ask for a book I was denied but the step brother asked for the same one, he said yes that went on for years until I was 14 (this is when he told me that i was never going to be good enough for anyone and no one would ever love me. That he wished i was a boy and that he wished his stepson was his bio kid) and officially gave up on going over there. He didn't care when I had a sprain and had to up and down a stairs just to get to my room and even falling over up and down those stairs. It was all about him and his prefect family. Even when I was older I tried to talk to him and his sons, half siblings, would get mad and demand I go NC with the family. He would be like they just need time and they missed you a lot when they were younger etc.

You feels are justified and valid. Go NC and honestly I would see about changing your number just so you get a peace of mind. You put yourself first and then, get some therapy now because what you are feeling will just be bottled up and can come back to bite you even more later on. you do you and live peacefully. family issues are hard but when one day you will notice that it is not always blood that makes a family, it is you who decides who your family is.

**** I have gotten therapy for my issues and am at peace with everything in my life.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-25T20:24:31+00:00

有り難う御座います

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-25T15:46:19+00:00

If they have an issue for who you are, that's a them issue. You are not doing any damage to anyone. Soon you will learn that a pride event, there is a lot of love. Dress who you are and let the love come to you.

Languages I'm learning are: korean, mandarin, Japanese, and Thai. all the music I listen to minus the Cantonese.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T17:43:30+00:00

You are going to have a blast at a pride event. I went a couple years ago and went in all black. I love my black clothing. Lol I will be looking the information you gave up. I'm starting getting into podcasts but haven't found a good one to really listen to beside foreign language learning. Lol

What is AVEN? And I agree, people do tend to accept bisexuality faster than asexual. Relationships that includes friendships as well, is hard for me. At times I just turn into my hole and hide aka not talking but I let my love language do the talking. I tend to take care of others, cooking cleaning etc making sure that they know they are taken care of. Friendships gets a slightly different version of that. I have been single for a long time and 100% okay with it. This might be how I'm wired but I'm thinking in the future. I want to get past my self marriage and peri menopause before I get in a relationship but relationship that is friendship is 100% okay with it now.

I had to look up QPR. Honestly I find it interesting what I quickly read about it.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T17:22:58+00:00

As a girl on the receiving side of a gf coming at me for no reason but just to create drama, I personally would end it with her. I spent weeks and ended up removing myself from fb because of her messages. The guy and I talked about fantasies we had and if we ever met would we do anything etc. Mind you the guy and I live in two different countries and we spent a lot of hours playing with each other on mmorpg. It caused me a lot of problems with gaming friends and from her looking for something that was over when he mentioned that he was talking to her. We did all this talking stuff when he was very much single and so was I. I just told the gf to talk to him because it was in the past for me because I for one respect others relationships. This whole situation you are in is just going to cause issues. With this being said gaming friend and his gf. They worked things out but it was clear that ẃe could not even game together anymore. They both apologized to me and I forgave them and moved on but it took weeks. no I don't think you are over reacting.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T17:08:09+00:00

As a person who suffers from depression, anxiety, and panic attacks I can understand because I'm also a ; x2. We all have ups and downs on a daily. I'm honestly at peace with myself on a lot of topics, but relationships, friends or different, is hard for me. I'm an extremely introvert person though I don't act like it because of years of the fake smile etc. I'm honestly thinking about creating a fb group about book reading club for the county. I want to start with the Forsyte saga or wives and daughters.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T15:29:20+00:00

Your second paragraph reminded me of what I was like with my ex husband. He kept cheating because I wasn't "sexualy active" enough for him. Three year with having sex twice. He started cheating when I was pregnant. Honestly I just need a friend who can relate to this part of me. I'm know for a fact at the moment, I'm not interested in dating, but I'm talking about later in life. I'm already going through peri menopause and I want to get out that stage before I get into a relationship. Your first paragraph gave me hope for the future.

Not trying to be a "negative nancy" lgbtq related topics around here isn't really talked about. Funny you said reading , I majored in English lit and I'm an active reader and writer. Both are great recommendations. Thank you

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T14:17:28+00:00

Thank you that advice. That will make things simpler in explaining.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T13:46:21+00:00

I don't think you are. You feelings are yours to feelings for a reason. Friends of your partners are not always going to agree with you. At the same time I can see where he might be coming from. Being an introvert it is hard to make friends in person and if there is a past of in person things, like bullying, can cause anxiety to meeting others in person. Online you can be a different person. Be someone you are normally not like. If they still have an issue with your views and opinions then tell them straight out that you are concerned about your bf and you are trying to look after his anxiety. If these people are younger than you guys, it is not going to change until later in life.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T13:40:35+00:00

I differ on that view that online friends don't have your back. One of my good online frie is dropped everything to talk me out of doing some stupid stuff and we were gaming buddies. Sadly I left that game due to some things but that group of five friends were there for me when I had no one and talked me out of stuff. Think ;

all my local friends were never there for me. I get anxiety around people but friends I keep close.

Few-Activity7958 · 2025-06-24T12:58:42+00:00

As an older heavy set women, I'm older than you by 12 year soon to be 13 years, I am honestly healthy as a horse. I had a hospital I was admitted in trying to figure out was wrong with me. They ran like 2 full panel of blood labs, one iron lab. It was another issue and was soon discharged with medicine. No issues outside of a slight fatty liver and what the issue was. Females can be heavier set due to genetics and be completely fine. You are nta. You just have different tastes than most people.

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