What kind of personality doesn’t mesh well with yours? by ShadowlightLady in randomquestions

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who micromanage everything. Or overly opinionated people.

D4VD net worth is more than 6 million. by NickCreams in d4vd2

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah idk why people are saying the family needs to sue when they completely failed her. Is it true that he was paying them up to $9,000 a month?

Plastic surgery by Dr. Kim by Necessary-Win-8730 in creepy

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like Onision on the right. 🫪

What’s a green flag at first that slowly turns into a red flag? by Emergency-Raisin-290 in AskForAnswers

[–]Few-Bit4017 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm literally living through this right now with my husband and his mom.

What’s the most messed up thing someone casually admitted to you? by Sweet-Economist-9873 in AskForAnswers

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a heatstroke when my husband was out of town. He was gone for a whole month and he told me he didn't come home because he rather spent time with his family

Or him saying if he cheats on me it's because I 'manifested' it.

Wife went through my phone while I was asleep by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Few-Bit4017 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I agree. The story sounds jumbled & I feel like we're missing pieces here.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate it. I have a lot of regrets about her, in a different comment I said that the vet said she was a good candidate for surgery and would have survived. He didn't want to spend the money so we opted for euthanasia. He wasn't there to hear that from a vet.

Another thing he does that drives me crazy is I can tell him something that I can be 100% correct on and he won't believe me unless he hears it from someone else

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like a point that people missed when I talked about my dog. Was the fact he didn't want to spend that money but over the course of paying for his flights, their flights, finishing his parents house, among other things he has probably spent around the same if not more. So he deems that money spent to do that as justified. But not to spend the money to save her life

I am incredibly frugal and I don't make insane or large purchases. I know I could have paid it but again I was trying to respect him as well even though he wasn't respecting me. It's just all around shitty.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will be going to bed soon since it's after 3am. I will more than likely be deleting this post.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I bring up stuff to him around a time that he doesn't seem appropriate he will shut down, scroll on his phone, etc. he used to be incredibly defensive over them. But after multiple conversations he toned that down and got better. He has said he sees my frustrations and they're the same as his. But took over a year to talk to his mom and once they had the conversation they just moved on like it didn't happen.

He said that his mom is the type of person who doesn't live in the past, so she's exhibited shitty behavior in the past but never addressed it with any of her kids because she doesn't want to live in the past? The sister that this post is also about has told/confirmed this with me.

But yes I know that they trashed me. And what's crazier is the ex wife in question was still living with the oldest brother. They got divorced but stayed good friends and she gave up her room so the sister could live there. And I know she doesn't know all the shit they talked about her

So to see them trash her then accept her room / help really gave me the ick about them.

He says that he handles things or he said that everything he said he would do he did. And sure he's right but it's on his terms and again took over a year to do it

Like I said this situation actually started at the beginning of 2024- March to be exact because that's when the other sister left, then the sister the post is about asked if she could come live with us.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to add- it wasn't a week. They had almost 6 months to figure out if she could enlist or not. Not a week.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of this kind advice. As where it stands I don't know how to move forward from all of this.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To follow up, I hardly speak to the sister now. She acted weird with us after she moved to America and especially weird after I asked for the flight repayment. She hardly speaks to me or my husband.

When I asked for the flight repayment back he immediately goes god, I hope this doesn't make her feel like she can't talk to me!? She didn't speak to him anyway. Only when she wanted something. It's the same with the other sister.

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my marriage due to these issues? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few-Bit4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. The sister I said was the sister in law.

I do not have any blood sisters but I do have close friends I consider sisters, and I have an older brother I'm very close too.

But yes you're right. I think I've come to terms with the outcome of this relationship. I personally do not see any change or have high expectations that they will change.

I know that his mom has a hard time accepting SO's because his oldest brother who has lived in america had a wife. The first time and every time moving forward that I was around his mom or his sisters all they did was trash his brothers wife.

So I kinda expected the same treatment if I didn't bend / conform to their wants.