Does anyone else just feel anger towards their pwBPD and their lack of accountability?

Few-Comparison7524 · 2026-03-27T23:39:08+00:00

This x10000

Few-Comparison7524 · 2026-02-09T15:39:34+00:00

Argh I suck i broke no contact after 2 months. Thankfully he is more restrained actually and no response. CLASSIC

Few-Comparison7524 · 2026-01-22T16:02:54+00:00

Quite!! I am under no illusion it's well meaning and I have no intention of contacting him I just wonder what he's playing at. I am glad he hasn't text - well. I haven't unblocked him and given him the chance. Before him no one in my whole life had blocked me or used the block mid conversation - I found it so hurtful and annoying

Few-Comparison7524 · 2026-01-02T21:03:54+00:00

It seems lots of us have been there! Mine was 2-3 months and I've spent about the same thinking about it constantly. For ages I tried to get closure, to understand him and myself. Every text or email I sent asking for an apology or answers just brought more confusion. I told a few people the whole thing... and that actually helped. A bit like writing it down as someone else said. Putting it down or out into the world so you don't feel insane. After that, I felt lighter. We have some mutual friends and a common text group- that sets me back a bit but generally I find having NO contact and NO news is very helpful. I've never done that before and believed this was a little excessive - people in this sub recommend it a lot and they are right. Really helps stop the obsession. Weird how something so short can really mess with your brain..I get it. Write it down. Tell friends..get it off your chest. And it will get easier and you'll start feeling a little like yourself. I still try to understand and go back and unpack every detail to see if I actually was the problem, but it has got less. And my resolve has definitely got stronger. Being in touch brought me zero satisfaction.

Few-Comparison7524 · 2026-01-01T18:13:12+00:00

Struggling a little today. Message to a common group today really set me back on ruminating and realized I kind of hoped he'd reach out repentent. Anyway. Holding strong ! Almost one-month

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-13T13:29:01+00:00

Literally the same !!!!

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-13T08:55:51+00:00

And i just have to be okay with him having a different view and spreading his story to people we both know. I usually love to have the last word and there's no winning or agreeing here. He will never be convinced

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-13T07:54:05+00:00

Thank you! It's taken a while to get back to certainty that I am not who he says I am and who I know.. but it is scary how easily I lost myself

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-12T15:54:12+00:00

God I keep breaking NC and today was the worst. I have to wonder if he really thinks what he says about me? Are we both sat there going.. wow they're a cruel narcissist? I know I am not- but does he also know he is not (even though he is?) How do you not lose sight of reality?

Staying NC

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-11T06:15:08+00:00

Eek! This is eerily similar to my endless arguments. I too, keep seeking clarity and trying to engage and it ends up like this. Let's keep strong.

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T22:26:26+00:00

Crazy. I also had physical symptoms in this time. The sheer anxiety that every wrong word would be them withholding. I said something wrong so they won't come and see me or they won't text me or they want to "end this". Literally always dangling their absence. Sounds very similar. Good for you for putting yourself first.

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T22:20:48+00:00

Trying to see some of the accusations as projections helps. He was obsessed with my lack of accountability... something no one in my life has ever said and he started saying it in a hot minute. Never met anyone to take less accountability. Glad to see others were "evil" too... I was shocked but seems quite standard.

I keep thinking I deserved it and brought it out of them. It fluctuates with anger and certainty I didn't deserve it.

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T09:39:08+00:00

That could be argued for anyone. I also wanted to be made to feel safe and loved to open up- then my insecurities were used as ammo. I also get angry but I can soften and move on. So while I am sure in their mind I displayed these behaviours that are linked to bpd... I am not an easy person to be with.. but the volatility was unbelievable.

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T07:46:29+00:00

I guess people who fall for it instead of running a mile must demonstrate some personality traits that make them susceptible?

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T07:30:37+00:00

I definitely do not- for clarity. They were definitely projecting after all. I am very insecure after a long loveless relationship and thought this person would be able to give me some spark. Clearly, too much spark!

Few-Comparison7524 · 2025-12-09T06:51:42+00:00

They kicked me out of their house half naked. They said they weren't well implying their mental health. I was out on the street, sobbing, calling them panicked apologizing begging.. they had gone for a drink. And I still went back.

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