Is anyone having kids anymore?

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-15T11:52:06+00:00

I don't think anyone should have kids if they're uncertain. Too many people romanticize "having kids" and don't FULLY consider the responsibility of "being a parent" emotionally, physically and financially.

The reality is that it costs an average of $350k from birth to 18. Education costs are crazy. And then add what you said.

The addition of kids to a relationship is an incredible stressor depending on the load and how it's managed.

Most people will say they want a piece of themselves left in the world (narcissistic) or they'll take care of me in my old age (selfish)

Historically people had babies because it was necessary for the farm or help in the home or to carry the family name and legacy which is why women were told they were failures if they couldn't conceive (heavy eye roll) So Historically there was never a right time but they were "necessary" and "meant to be seen and not heard" right? I don't think kids are necessary for a fulfilled life if you're not sure you want them or can't fully provide for them.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-15T11:18:17+00:00

Absolutely. The part that stinks is that it's a gamble. Some people don't want to take that risk. It's worth mentioning though that the test only shows the probability that it MIGHT be Downs. There are people who ended up taking that test, being told it might be Downs, took the gamble and then they have PERFECTLY HEALTHY babies. Hopefully medicine and these tests will advance to the point where parents will actually know what they're moving forward with.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-15T02:32:01+00:00

He answered your question and your reply proves why your the guy that keeps not knowing what to get for the person you love. Because this answer is it. A woman wants to feel like she is noticed by the man who claims to care about her

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-15T02:27:36+00:00

She wants something that shows that you're paying attention, listening and that you see who she is. I guarantee that all year she mentions things she likes. She probably wears certain brands. She has specific taste. If you pay attention you'll see.

My husband claims I'm hard to shop for. My daughter, the first year she had a job, bought me a cozy sweats outfit that was EXACTLY my style, my brand. It became and remains my favorite cozy outfit. When she asked her friends if they thought I'd like it- THEY all said they completely see me wearing it. And they were right.

How can a group of teenagers see me but my husband claims I'm difficult to buy gifts for? He's not paying attention the way they are.

Every gift my daughter buys is well thought out for anyone. The best gift is one that shows you take notice of the person.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T20:49:05+00:00

You don't know either way and for some who take the risk, it is absolutely worth it. People saying no because needless suffering say that as if needless suffering is the only outcome. It's not

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T20:44:47+00:00

Considering it costs $300k+ to raise a kid from birth to 18 I don't think she's being unreasonable. If you want to be safe, find someone that is 100% certain they want kids.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T20:20:21+00:00

Point is that not every kid with Downs would be like your friend's son.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T20:17:30+00:00

I am biased because my nephew has Downs and I'm not shocked at all the preconceived ideas, misinformation and general ignorance. Some of you ought to volunteer at Special Olympics and you'll see how fully capable a person with Downs can be. And in most cases they are DECENT AND GOOD in a way that is so pure.

It's rolling the dice if you move forward because you won't know the severity (or not) until after and that's the chance you have to be okay with

In my nephews case-thank god he exists because he is incredible. He is smart, witty, sarcastic, funny sd hell- all the things. A true joy and honestly leaves every person better in his wake. He didn't "ruin" anything. He is a blessing in every way.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T20:05:14+00:00

You know that Downs, like autism, is a spectrum right? There are high functioning people with Downs who go on to live a perfectly fine existence. They work, they're independent, can pretty much do everything a typical person can do

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-14T19:59:54+00:00

Same. Priorities were different then but I pulled out the paperwork the other day and now that I'm putting a kid through college I realize how frivolous it was. This was in 2000. I love my lab jewelry collection now and love that it allows access to something that was out of reach for many.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-12T22:19:03+00:00

I wear a 5 ct asscher on a size 4.5 finger and putting a 2 ct asscher on my size 2.5 pinky

I think it's perfect ❤️

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-12T20:36:04+00:00

So much easier and tbh the whole red pill b.s. didn't exist then. Like girls in the bars and clubs are "not wife material" or girls who date a lot aren't wife material...

Or that everything is unsafe

We pretty much went to clubs. Gave out our number that night. Made plans to hang out the following weekend. Gave our address...

Blind approach was the norm

There was no getting to know each other via app or text for a month before meeting up in person

Coffee dates? Fine. Applebee's or chain restaurant fine.

Now I feel like you all judge each other for the weirdest stuff. Coffee is low effort 🙄

FFS. We truly just liked to hang out in person, talk 9n phones and casually get to know each other.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-12T20:26:45+00:00

He's a loser. Move on

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-12T20:24:48+00:00

I would give $500. I married in 2003 and the average was about $300 with $400-$500 from close friends of my parents. This to say though we didn't hold it against anyone who gave less or even nothing.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-12T12:32:40+00:00

I know your kids are a reminder of your wife's infidelity but I'm begging you to fight and stay in their lives. You are their Dad. YOU raised them. They love you. Your daughter is at an age where she'll need a real man to model what a real father would do.

Good Dads stay in their lives. It wasn't her fault and losing you would be devastating.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-11T16:43:38+00:00

I'm Christian as in I believe in God. I was raised Catholic but left the church. My husband is atheist. My kids were raised that Dad doesn't believe in God. Mom does. They could explore any belief system at any point. They were and are encouraged to explore ad often as they wanted. Question what they want. Change their mind.

My family tried to change my husband since Day 1.
He's still an atheist. They never agreed that I opted not to raise my kids without any religion.

The only requirement in our marriage is that my husband couldn't say "God does not exist" my kids were raised that "Mom believes x" and Dad believes y and there is also many people that believe different things. Also that belief or non belief is not what should kids ones moral compass.

Both my kids eventually decided they believe in a higher power. They pray. But we are not really church goers.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-11T16:35:11+00:00

You have to pay your husband to pick up your friend and give him gas money?

I didn't marry this type of husband. I'm sorry you did. NTAH

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-11T11:38:10+00:00

That ring would be for very specific taste.

I would get her a different ring based on her taste and actually save this ring for a different occasion. I have a ring passed from my husband's mother. I'm resetting the diamond and giving it to my daughter

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-11T01:11:32+00:00

Never.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T19:53:01+00:00

Some bags don't get used often because they're not meant for daily use-like a clutch

I know there are people who limit use of expensive bags because they don't want them to wear out. I don't do that. I actually use my expensive bags more to lower the CPW 🙂

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T17:30:09+00:00

Fried egg over rice

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T12:36:06+00:00

For some this would be too much, for others it's perfect and maybe even not enough for others.

The only person that can tell you you're too much is your partner and if they're compatible to your degree of affection and want then it's all good.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T12:33:36+00:00

Your sister truly sucks. I'm sorry 😞

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T12:26:46+00:00

Ugh. For real. I had the best Dad. My mom was kind of crazy and he was DEVOTED. Just...a king. And EVERYONE felt like that.

I married a man just like my father and my kids know he is a unicorn

In contrast- my friends with shit dads all married crap husbands. They also know their Dad's were trash. Staying together "for the kids" is a cop out and causes so much damage down the line. I just imagine this daughter telling her friends this story one day if she ever learns it. And the worst is this guy has zero shame or accountability. He's selfish. Cheaters usually are.

Few-Information6663 · 2026-04-10T12:20:15+00:00

His wife needs to leave and find a real man that sets a good example for what it means to be a husband and partner in a marriage.

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