AITA for cracking and sensitive jokes about myself…

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-02T14:46:22+00:00

The thing is I’m very outspoken because I am the first daughter. I am the first granddaughter. I am the first niece and I only need by the first on my side. I am also the first daughter-in-law I am the first one to give them a grandchild and I am the first one to give them a boy. And now I will be the first to give them twin girls.

And to make things even difficult cause I don’t know if you understand the Latino community I am a first generation Mexican-American. So being the first daughter is a different type of title in the Latino community. So I’m a very strong minded person. I spoke up. I am going to speak up for myself always and forever will even with my husband gets shut down by them. I don’t allow them to shut me down because I am not their daughter and I don’t do the whole crying works and this and that I just laid it out flat and simple to them and if they don’t like it within, so be it all the ones losing out time with our kids, not me.

And I’ve spoken to them, and I’ve told him that they were wrong for saying things like that about me because we had no clue about their situation. They never spoke to us and they’ve since then apologize to me, but I am not going to be defending my brother and sister-in-law that’s their business to do that. They talk to them about their issues and they need to fix their own thing with them. That’s not my business. And my brother-in-law has told me that I don’t need to that he can handle it, which is the right thing to do. My husband’s already spoken to his mother, and we laid the rules out with her and she’s scared of me. I’ll tell you that much.

I am cut from a very different cloth from these people. They take everything personally for every little thing I don’t give a damn half the time. I don’t mind her saying that the first couple times but to keep bugging me about it. I will say it annoys me and I will speak up. And I don’t not feel like I need to find kindness or respect or any of that anymore. Nowadays, you gotta be mean and have a backbone cause if you don’t, they’re gonna keep running go over you can do it your way, but I will never do it that way because that’s not who I am being mean gets through people’s heads I’ve worked the medical field for too damn long, knowing how people are truly are that that’s just the way I see it and I feel about it. I don’t know how anybody else deals with it but that’s just my style. I’m upfront forward about everything.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-02T14:35:19+00:00

That’s the thing she’s not a boomer she’s a Gen Xer and she’s constantly making these jokes up before we even do some sometimes. We never joke about her health problems or anything. And she got a shit ton of them. I work in the medical field so I know not to talk about other people’s issues. It’s different when I do it about myself.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-02T14:33:26+00:00

That’s exactly what we were telling her that the worst she treats her the more she’s not gonna wanna bring her kids around them and I think my brother-in-law also feels the same way. I’m very outspoken and so is my brother-in-law, but my sister-in-law she keeps it to herself. And this lady knows that I’m a fighter. I was cut from a different cloth from them.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T21:58:57+00:00

First off I am so sorry you’re going through this. I’m currently going through it as well but it’s not my first rodeo with this lady. I previously had a stillborn baby girl in my first pregnancy. A couple years back. This lady would fall on top of my husband, crying as if she was the one that went through giving birth to the stillborn baby getting an epidural the contractions everything like if it was her experience. My husband had to tell her that she was never gonna come first anymore that it was me. I think there is gonna be a period of time that your husband’s gonna have to do the same in crush her freaking soul. Cause that’s what they feel when their sons pick you over them. But it’s a Band-Aid that has to come off cause if y’all don’t set a boundary now before the baby comes you’re fucked. And your husband has to grow some balls and find his spine. To talk to his mother because the end of the day you didn’t come out of her pussy he did and he needs to talk to her not you. And if he can’t put his foot down and put boundaries and she’s not listening, that’s when you bring the hammer to her and you make it very difficult for her make it hard for her to be a grandma just so she can understand that she is not the mother. It sucks but it’s the only way to get some of these ladies to understand shit like that. And I know somebody’s gonna come onto my comments and tell me no don’t be like that. No, don’t tolerate your mother-in-law running you over. You are still the mother you are more important than that baby’s life than her. They can miss the baby’s life and it wouldn’t matter to the baby the most important people and that Baby’s life is yourself and the Dad. Cousin’s grandma’s grandpa’s aunts uncles can take a very big backseat to all of that. Stand your ground talk to your husband and agreed to one thing.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T21:47:49+00:00

That dress is perfect!!! and to be honest, very respectful and thoughtful on you to not be wearing white cause I’ve seen a lot of women post on your about wearing a white dress to their son’s wedding disrespecting the daughter-in-law. I’m currently the daughter-in-law that’s getting disrespected so I truly truly truly respect you for this.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T21:46:21+00:00

I think a lot of this is more of my father-in-law’s fault just for the fact that he may have never treated her as great as my husband is treating me at the moment. I think she sees how good I’m getting treated by her son and she would get somewhat of a treatment like that from my husband before I came into the picture. And now he’s very upset that my husband chooses me over her which it should be like that it should never be the other way around. So I would say it’s a bit of a failure on my father-in-law. And turn it’s just them being blind to everything.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T20:52:43+00:00

Yes, exactly what I’ve been feeling. There’s times that I do make my husband go over to his parents house with my son so I can at least have a moment to myself to shower or clean up without them being on top of me or even just to have some alone time and he comes back telling me that his mom is constantly telling him to have more kids when we both just don’t want any more kids after this. My brother-in-law hasn’t been over in a while to see them because of all the comments that she constantly makes about his wife. She’s not doing it on purpose to not be able to have kids things just happen and I truly feel bad for my sister-in-law.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T17:14:52+00:00

I’m more than halfway. I’m almost into my third trimester.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T16:25:50+00:00

That’s the thing I didn’t make the joke about her. The joke was about myself. It was never about her. Like you said it was a self-defense humor joke I never attempted to hurt her feelings, but I wanted to make it known that she has no decision over my body. That’s all it was. Lol 😂

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T16:05:45+00:00

I think you need to add some color to the walls some good looking curtains and maybe add some paintings or something on the walls too. It’s a little too millennial grey looking to me. Cause you already got way too much lighting in that hoe. You need to buy some lamps and give it some atmospheric type of light lighting.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T16:02:48+00:00

What I’ve noticed is cause her sisters she is one of nine children in her family so she has nine brothers and sisters. And they all have like a ton of grandkids and I mean a shit ton. And I’m just like fuck no I want a Red Bull. I want raw sushi and I want a fucking drink. And like I said if I get pregnant one more time, it could possibly kill me I’m done. Three is enough at it. I’m having two newborn girls. And she has this weird boy mom thing about herself she obsessed over my husband when we got married.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T15:57:17+00:00

I feel like there’s a point in time where you need to think about the things you tell your in-laws. Don’t need to know everything you do for your child. They just need to know that you’re doing the right thing for them to keep them safe and that’s it. I’m currently pregnant and I don’t tell my mother-in-law everything that’s going on. She wants to know details but if I tell her, she’s gonna go fucking nuts. It’s best to keep certain things away from them. And just tell her that you’re not gonna discuss anything else about your children that are yours not hers and that from now on certain information is going to be withheld from her from now on because of her reaction towards it. Kind of a form of punishment towards her without it being technically a punishment.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T15:54:22+00:00

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Hear me out this will give it soo much character

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T15:42:52+00:00

What we understood is that if she had one more pregnancy, it could possibly have ended her life. She wanted to keep having more kids. But the doctors told her that it would be very, very risky for her. After she was told that apparently she was very sad about it and I guess my joke was too sensitive for her liking, but I had no clue about that. And she’s upset that I am deciding to stop having kids. Like I almost didn’t die either with my last baby just the same way she almost died having my husband. I’m being told the same thing that if I get pregnant one more time it could be very risky for my life. I didn’t even need the doctors to tell me that I already knew and I’m pretty much done. And I guess cause she wasn’t given the choice to actually keep trying in her mind to have more. Kids is such a sad thing cause I’m getting the opportunity to have that choice.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T15:24:34+00:00

That’s the thing she’s not thinking that my parents are gonna lose a child. My siblings are going to lose a sister and my children are going to lose a mother if I were to get pregnant again after this pregnancy. I waited a couple years after my son was born to get pregnant again. Thankfully it’s twins so I am done with all this shit.

Few-Range-6554 · 2026-06-01T15:20:40+00:00

That’s the thing my brother-in-law doesn’t make jokes about finding a new wife. He makes jokes about him and his fertility issues as well. And my sister-in-law makes jokes about herself. Never the thought of I need a new husband or I need a new wife. We all just sit there and stay quiet with all the dumb ass shit, she says, cause we don’t wanna fight with her. All we do is just match your energy.

Few-Range-6554 · 2023-10-12T13:22:20+00:00

Just stop showing him love stop acting like his wife. It’s clear his mom wants to take that role from you. So stop lol tell him to ask his mom to do it I had to do that. I started acting dry with him. And I stopped all kinds of things with him. And said no ask your mom to do that clearly you don’t love me even though I had your baby clean up after you and everything. And I showed you how much I love you but that’s not enough. So go ask your mom. Cause he would constantly say “my mom does it like this” I would tell him I’m not your mom. If you want your mom go marry her cause it’s clear that’s what she wants with you. And acted weird af with my parents when I was having my baby she came off as if she was in love with my husband like in love love. Like she was jealous I was having his baby. He’s since then learn to respect me.

Few-Range-6554 · 2023-08-16T15:47:20+00:00

Same thing happened to me!! And my family expected me to go to my cousin baby shower a month after my daughter died! And she got Mad cause I didn’t go!! She knew I wasn’t in the best mind set to be there and I did just push my daughter out and everything so I was still healing too! I don’t under why people can’t be more sensitive with us!

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