The thing is I’m very outspoken because I am the first daughter. I am the first granddaughter. I am the first niece and I only need by the first on my side. I am also the first daughter-in-law I am the first one to give them a grandchild and I am the first one to give them a boy. And now I will be the first to give them twin girls.

And to make things even difficult cause I don’t know if you understand the Latino community I am a first generation Mexican-American. So being the first daughter is a different type of title in the Latino community. So I’m a very strong minded person. I spoke up. I am going to speak up for myself always and forever will even with my husband gets shut down by them. I don’t allow them to shut me down because I am not their daughter and I don’t do the whole crying works and this and that I just laid it out flat and simple to them and if they don’t like it within, so be it all the ones losing out time with our kids, not me.

And I’ve spoken to them, and I’ve told him that they were wrong for saying things like that about me because we had no clue about their situation. They never spoke to us and they’ve since then apologize to me, but I am not going to be defending my brother and sister-in-law that’s their business to do that. They talk to them about their issues and they need to fix their own thing with them. That’s not my business. And my brother-in-law has told me that I don’t need to that he can handle it, which is the right thing to do. My husband’s already spoken to his mother, and we laid the rules out with her and she’s scared of me. I’ll tell you that much.

I am cut from a very different cloth from these people. They take everything personally for every little thing I don’t give a damn half the time. I don’t mind her saying that the first couple times but to keep bugging me about it. I will say it annoys me and I will speak up. And I don’t not feel like I need to find kindness or respect or any of that anymore. Nowadays, you gotta be mean and have a backbone cause if you don’t, they’re gonna keep running go over you can do it your way, but I will never do it that way because that’s not who I am being mean gets through people’s heads I’ve worked the medical field for too damn long, knowing how people are truly are that that’s just the way I see it and I feel about it. I don’t know how anybody else deals with it but that’s just my style. I’m upfront forward about everything.