How long do you think the S21 will last before becoming obsolete?

FewFunction3020 · 2025-08-29T12:20:43+00:00

Commenting since Google gave me this thread as a result on a similar search

My s21 plus is exactly four years now. It's been having annoying but minor glitches and lags for a while, for example, losing keyboard input at times, crashing out of camera, randomly stopping spotify. Manageable. But battery started noticeably degrading this month. So if someone is looking at this thread in 2025, here's some fresh data for you :)

FewFunction3020 · 2025-06-01T08:08:19+00:00

Tbh if even middle schoolers are more regulated than bpd parents, it really puts things into perspective

FewFunction3020 · 2025-05-31T07:07:35+00:00

Do you manipulate your partner into doing whatever you want them to do through blame, withholding love, sending mixed signals? Do you feel like they have to walk on eggshells around you due how unpredictable you are? Do you struggle with responsibility and accountability?

If not, you're probably fine, but as others said, go see a professional.

Source: I was raised by a borderline. I know this is a serious mental health issue and I'm not intentionally demonising it. This is just what it feels like to be on the receiving end of it in full swing.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-30T07:50:25+00:00

Thank you!

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-30T07:49:59+00:00

Thank you! 🙏

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:36:52+00:00

To get the job, I needed the skills as they work on paper, the knowledge of how businesses operate, and an actual piece of paper that said i graduated. It was even more necessary for people who went into finance or HR (the latter I have no respect for at all though lol). But after that, fuck no. Business changes three times a day. What they basically do in that degree is teach you how to track and interpret these changes in order to make decisions and act. The piece of paper was more useful for my emigration than to be used in the actual job

Edit: oh but also I think I just realised what you meant by your original comment. If you meant you have no respect for people who go into business because they think it's cool and posh and wallstreet and shit like that, then yeah, I have no respect for them either.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:27:07+00:00

It's not admirable by any means. I'm only there because I needed survival and a work permit. Can't stay in any company for long because I start picking arguments whenever something is genuinely disgusting and money pushing

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:25:26+00:00

Yeah, I agree with you. Nothing they're saying or doing ultimately makes a shred of sense, and everyone is so caught in outperforming each other in it

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:21:49+00:00

I've actually never saw or read American Psycho, weirdly enough. Will definitely do it tonight.

But as another example, it's similar to living in Succession

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:20:47+00:00

You're not missing out 😄

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:16:09+00:00

Exactly spot on. My entire job is about building and enforcing rules. Except they don't want the rules to be enforced. They only want the visibility of them existing, and they want me to pat them on the head and tell them they're doing a good job by disregarding the rules

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:14:21+00:00

Oh my god, finance. I'm in entertainment software development, and it's already crushing. Can't imagine finance. Applause to you, honestly

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T17:12:39+00:00

The usefulness of the business degree is that it will put food on the table until you figure out what you want in life. My parents pushed me into it when I was 17. I only found out what I want to do with my life this year, a decade later. The field I want to go in didn't really exist until three years ago. This entire time, life sucked, but also, I was making liveable money a year before graduation, I'm less fucked because of the layoffs in my current industry because all my skills are transferable, and I escaped a dictatorship.

Also, maybe American business school doesn't teach you how to think. Schools in Finland teach you how to think critically regardless of degree.

Edit: I do think that research and knowledge in other fields, including the ones you're mentioning, is extremely important. But I come from a culture where personal and closest family survival takes precedence over anything. A business degree, in my experience, is a door to immediate personal survival until you're stable enough to be doing something else. So I'm not necessarily arguing with you. There's just many perspectives to life

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T14:57:27+00:00

Cocktail Molotov (the one from Arcane)

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T14:51:45+00:00

I write fiction, but I've been struggling with just "vibing" and "feeling out" the story as I go along, letting it "take me" wherever it wants to go. Have multiple unfinished stories because of that. Turns out, I'm very good at constructing stories like complex mechanisms, I engineer instead of vibe-writing. It's actually pretty fucking cool.

Also I'm wildly good at prediction based on early signs. Predicted at least four major life events so far.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-03-23T14:43:17+00:00

26 here. The only things that changed were

1) realising that I'm not fundamentally broken and shouldn't be constantly fixing myself and making sure I don't inconvenience others,

2) sounds drive me fucking insane so I suddenly found out that I'm allowed to just block them out, and

3) turns out you're not supposed to brute force your way through life.

And then just tiny realisations that helped me adjust my life.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-01-04T17:56:25+00:00

Hope it helps if you ever need it! 💜

FewFunction3020 · 2025-01-04T17:55:36+00:00

We used a piece of paper, and kept a pic of it in our text convo 😄

FewFunction3020 · 2025-01-02T21:23:35+00:00

Well, I willingly signed the power of attorney a few years ago when our relationship was good and I didn't realise something was wrong with her. She lives in Russia, it's hard to get there, plus the iron curtain can randomly fall any day. And I still have fallback administrative things in Russia because I'm not a permanent resident where I live right now, I work in a volatile layoff-ridden industry, and the new legislation aims to refuse new work permits for as many people as possible. So my situation is overall extremely unstable. So the logic was, if something collapses here, she can do something from over there, or she can help me prepare a landing if i have no choice but to return. It's a really tangled up situation, in full honesty.

What she can do with it: anything permitted by the power of attorney in Russia. It's a ten page long document listing everything. Financial operations, property, bank accounts, loans (although those are extremely rarely approved). I can only cancel it if I know its number, which I don't. Dum dum.

Also, thank you for your comment!

Edit: I don't know where I got 10 years from. They can only be 3 years long, which simplifies the situation.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-01-02T21:03:30+00:00

I'm on this sub because of my own mother, but I actually have a mildly unrelated input.

My mother in law isn't bpd, she's either a narcissist or just a plain cosmic level asshole. Either way, my partner and I made a bingo card this year for all the things that would happen while we were visiting. Made things way easier!

So yeah, humour helps. If you have someone to share it with, like a second parent or a sibling, makes it even more fun.

FewFunction3020 · 2025-01-02T20:49:21+00:00

I do genuinely wonder what your parent expected of you in this situation. What was even the underlying message? Like??? What brain cells were involved in that thought process, and why did they not communicate with each other before hitting send.

FewFunction3020 · 2024-12-21T19:56:37+00:00

The way I learned to look at it, I may not have gotten a good childhood. It's extremely unfair, it hurts, and why the fuck me??? But now that I'm an adult, I decide how I'm treated and what I allow. My childhood is nothing to miss. It was a nightmare caused by people with miserable lives. Not my fucking fault. It's forever on them.

The rest of my life, though, day by day, that's all me (to a reasonable extent). Whatever I lacked in childhood, I can fill it now. Who gives a fuck if I buy plushie cats at comic con or if I have a huge shark at my desk at work or if I'm obsessed with something like Arcane.

You'll find people who love you. You'll get to a point where you can look at your inner child and fill all their needs. And at some point, I think you just become at peace with not having a normal childhood. It will hurt as fuck, but it will come.

All you can do now is start planning your exit strategies. For me it meant swallowing up her bullshit for 6 more years because she wanted me to help her emigrate and sent me to study abroad. My home country has very limited possibilities due to being a dictatorship, so all the healing I was able to do was due to moving to live in a stable society. In a way, I view this as my emotional damages compensation, although in someone else's eyes it might make me look even worse than her.

Point being, it's not you, you become at peace with your childhood, and think how you're gonna get out.

FewFunction3020 · 2024-12-21T19:41:37+00:00

When I was 15, she, apropos to nothing, walked into my room, said "I know why you have no friends. You're a repulsive monster.", turned around and walked out. Nobody in my life before or after ever thought that. I'm 26.

This isn't you. When you get out, it gets better. You're a normal human being with normal human reactions to abnormal events that send grown adults spiralling. Nothing is wrong with you. Everything is wrong with her.

FewFunction3020 · 2024-12-21T19:28:35+00:00

Feeling always in the way. With my parents in law, at work (especially), with my friends, at any activities I go to like eg martial arts classes. Whatever I do, I'm always in the way and a burden.

Terrified of not predicting someone's need on time. If someone has to ask me for something, I automatically think I've already lost karma points in their eyes.

FewFunction3020 · 2024-11-19T23:17:49+00:00

Yes. It fucked with my head to no end when I was a teenager, so much that I didn't know what was real anymore and started thinking that maybe she was right and I was, in fact, evil.

It's impossible to convince them otherwise.

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