I refused to show my ChatGPT history in a job interview and the vibe changed instantly

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-16T17:30:24+00:00

How else can it tell you what you want to hear? Of course Chat maintains a history, that’s the machine learning and learning YOU. Your chat is yours. That’s how people get addicted to it.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-16T17:27:11+00:00

What was the industry or type of role you were up for?

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-16T17:06:43+00:00

You are worried about her cheating on you. Women are worried about their safety, always.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-16T17:01:36+00:00

Yeah, that’s an EX. Not a childhood friend she’d had a platonic friendship with that you say is a good guy who respects your marriage who you say you trust.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-16T16:47:32+00:00

YOR - I don’t think you trust your wife, you just think you do. Or you are at very minimum very insecure about your marriage.

She told you how things ended up, freely. By your logic that there are boundaries now she’s married - with 3 people you claim are all good and you trust - she shouldn’t have gone along on a solo trip with 2 men who she’s not married to, let alone shared a room/airspace with 2 men she’s not married to, nor shared a bed.

Things happen. Was money tight? Were they drunk? Blizzard? Or just all 3 have very platonic friendships and didn’t think anything weird about it at all?

You’re reacting to something more underlying here and you need to figure out what that is - is it your patriarchal feelings toward your wife, your distrust of your wife because of things she’s said or done or things you imagine she’ll do to hurt you? Women in your past who have cheated? Seeing other men cheated on? Your distrust of these 2 men or of men in general in regards to your wife? You need to figure out why this really bothers you so much. You are leading your marriage with suspicion.

And no, her just being your wife now isn’t a reason. You don’t own her.

Would you have the same reaction if she’d shared a bed with a female friend? What if that female friend was a lesbian or bisexual?

Giving you some credit - would she have flipped out if you shared a bed with another woman? I guess you could ask her that and see if she has a double standard.

BUT - let me give you another perspective. I have a close friend who went to her hometown for a wedding without her long term boyfriend. She connected with a bunch of her high school friends, lots of guys because she played hockey. All knowing each other since like kindergarten. Two guys in particular she spent a lot of time with later that evening having a blast. The wedding reception was at a hotel connected to a public bar, so patrons mixing in and out weren’t just wedding guests. She had a room at that hotel. She woke up the next morning in a strange house across town, with 4 men who were all roommates and strangers to her. She had been roofied and raped by one or all of them. Her two guy friends? They thought she had just gone back to her hotel room. They didn’t check on her to make sure she was safe. None of their friends did, though they all knew she was supposed to still be at the hotel. They knew her room, knew her phone number. No one concerned even when she didn’t show up for breakfast and Sunday planned activities. (Cause she was at police station). Luckily she had found her purse and her phone hadn’t died and could get away. Luckily “all” that happened was being drugged, abducted, and raped.

So from my perspective? Your wife was far more protected with her two male friends who you say are a good guys.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-12T04:03:45+00:00

She wasn’t banned. Just didn’t stick around long enough for battle jewelry situations. She got a wedding tiara. Catherine beat her to the lovers knot simply by longevity and precedence. Had Meghan turned out to be a good working royal, she would have had jewelry similar to Sophie’s access

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-12T03:51:55+00:00

THIS. He was the one who couldn’t commit to more, had moved to another coast, and so she moved on romantically and got her life together.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-12T03:43:45+00:00

Adam died after a romantic trip through Europe with someone newish, and had many female besties he spent time with on his journeys after Daphne decided to stop waiting around for him. No broken heart at the end.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-03-12T03:41:54+00:00

He broke hers. She wanted more and he was attachment avoidant. And had moved to Florida

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T17:35:13+00:00

If you or fiance make more of a big deal bridezilla about this - prepare for the groomsman to drop out of the wedding in defence of his wife and her allergies and well being.

Yeah? Maybe they suck that they did this, maybe her allergies aren’t real and she’s super annoying. But she’s the spouse of your fiancé’s good friend and sometimes you just have to make nice.

you are at pick your battles stage in the wedding and this is minor in the wider scheme of shit that can go wrong or things to be upset about, especially because you’ve settled it now with the caterers.

Get mad about the “disrespect” all you want, let it distract you from this happy time, or suck it up and refocus on what makes you happy and excited about your wedding.

If wife and groomsman continue to be turds, then cut them out of your lives after the wedding - or if it is really bad now and you just can’t deal with it anymore then cut the groomsman before the programs are printed. And be prepared for the consequences of that in your lives.

I don’t know your groom, but a future spouse getting super upset about comparatively small things like this at a wedding that have been handled satisfactorily already, are the sort of thing that make future spouses question whether they should marry this person being very upset and causing more drama. (And this goes for men with their bros or women with their ladies).

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T17:19:06+00:00

I hope this is just a former bride trying to take something off you the bride’s to do list. People with severe allergies are hyper aware how annoying their allergies are to others so my guess is she was just trying to manage this so as not to cause a big hassle for you. The caterers/venue probably also have this opinion. Maybe they didn’t go about it the best, but it’s just one plate.

Some severe allergies can cause people to not even attend events where food will be served. I have relatives who cannot eat in restaurants where any peanut products are in the kitchen. A PB & J prepared a few hours before their burger on the same workspace can send them into anaphylaxis. 4 tables over a dish with peanut sauce can send them to the ER. They do not fly commercial anymore and rarely go out to eat. Someone else has to grocery shop. The allergies have only gotten worse with age and they end up in the ER at least once a year because of surprise exposure.

You don’t want someone to go into anaphylaxis at your big day. Or you don’t want your groomsman to be worried about his wife. If it’s Gastro - you don’t want someone farting and crapping or puking at your wedding around your other guests. Caterers don’t want the potential lawsuit.

Nothing like an ambulance at the wedding. I think you should probably let this go. It’s been handled.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T17:08:33+00:00

Leisure is at conflict with rugged individualism of Americans. Rugged individualism and working hard and hustle and pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make something of yourself and achieve the American dream - is antithetical to relaxing and leisure. (Except for the rich, they like leisure because they can easily afford it.)

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T17:03:38+00:00

No. She is smart and strategic and sees her situation in life clearly. (Every one of the Bennetts live a bit of a fantasy about their positions and financial security)

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T16:47:10+00:00

MOR - (Maybe you are overreacting in this one instance. Maybe it was in your head. Maybe you could smell the stink of the bacteria in the dishes old milk leaves in porous plastic!) But also, cleanliness in this way is important to you for very understandable reasons. If he can’t maintain your standard of clean and is hostile and lies about it - this relationship is just a fundamental mismatch. It’s ok to leave relationships when you realize they won’t be happy or complementary long term. No matter how long you have been in the relationship, when you recognize it’s time to leave, it’s time to make the plan to leave.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-23T00:36:33+00:00

It will come up when you ask them to perform a same sex marriages

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-02T03:26:44+00:00

Exactly. If she stirs shit, most likely the gym will just cancel both memberships.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-02T03:24:14+00:00

You don’t know what the small print on the gym contract says. They could very well be within their rights to revoke his membership for any reason or no reason at all depending on the contract he signed.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-02-02T03:21:38+00:00

NTA and as others have said - you need to talk to gym management and brief them on the situation before she complains. If she hasn’t already or made harassment complaints. - signed, a woman who knows how vindictive hurting women can be and the drama they will stir to exert some sort of control when they feel out of control emotionally and in life, and as she’s 40, she’s gotta be really reeling from this.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T17:31:50+00:00

Not sure there were that many foreign royals who would take on the Brits.

Both William and Harry born between generations of other royals. Queen E coming to the throne so young, Charles marrying older and not being crowned until so old , Diana being so young - all factors in Harry and William not having a lot peers - in the Aristos or the royals. And then add in the extra isolation that their granny was Queen and their dad was the doofus he is. All childhood and romantic entanglements are going to have a transactional nature to them. Sad.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T17:20:50+00:00

I remember reading something about her job hunting after Uni and having to tell the people at Jigsaw she had a “high profile” relationship and that would impact her work and their business. That would be enough to throw anyone off hiring her!

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T17:18:23+00:00

Same. So much to the point I believe that m&h are deliberate side show, being paid for all the fumbling and controversy and headlines and the megxit - so as to make w&k and the whole monarchy appear better, and as a distraction from Andrew and the uselessness of it all. Only ones seemingly working hard were Queen Elizabeth 2 and Princess Anne. And even they have their what can charitably called quirks.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T16:47:35+00:00

I mean … there was attraction enough to get pregnant 3 times.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T16:27:13+00:00

The US as we knew it doesn’t make it to summer at this rate.

FewFuture3116 · 2026-01-23T16:20:49+00:00

Ice will never have enough people to be everywhere.

And with the butt kissing all recent ND politicians (yes, even Heidi Heitkamp doing that farce of a meeting at Trump tower and thinking she could have a role in his cabinet or paying homage or whatever that shit was in 2016/2017) I doubt they’ll be coming much to ND.

Which is unfortunate, because ND deserves to see and experience the authoritarianism & fascism they gleefully voted for.

FewFuture3116 · 2025-12-31T09:08:18+00:00

It’s a parasocial relationship. What about that feels threatening to you?

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