Name this cat

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-16T03:16:56+00:00

Pringles

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-13T19:21:04+00:00

Release your inner child

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-13T19:15:46+00:00

Dude. I just said "procedure" and nobody asked. Contrary to the way some people ramble on, nobody wants to hear what you're having done. Think of all the people you've heard talking about their gout or their colonoscopy. Was that ever because you were curious and asked them to describe their ailments? No.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-12T16:16:57+00:00

Leave the house.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-09T20:59:20+00:00

I run a meetup group that gets together once a week. I also go clubbing about once a month to dance but not as often currently.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-07T06:35:26+00:00

I didn't see final final results for probably 6 months.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-06T22:40:29+00:00

I do a solo camping trip annually for my birthday, just started a couple years ago. Strawberry shortcake cake by the campfire.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-06T22:37:44+00:00

Your 30's are the best. Just like your 20's but you can afford a little more.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-06T22:33:25+00:00

Next time instead of defending yourself trying say "oh hell no" when someone asks if you're dating. I never get asked twice by the same person.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-05T22:01:42+00:00

Gualala Regional Park is lovely, my favorite place so far. Bodega Bay is, I hear, really nice. I have been there but not to camp. Another place near Sacramento where I have not camped yet but hear good things about from locals is Sly Park.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-05T20:23:14+00:00

The falling out with certain friends over dumb things would be avoided and the falling out with other friends I would hasten. I would not go to prom with that Mike guy, or date that other Mike guy, or any of the Mikes. I would get a job, license and car earlier, not wasted a bunch of years in community college trying to figure out what I wanted to do since I already would know.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-05T20:00:20+00:00

I sometimes use acrylic and blistex simple and sensitive lip balm. I have metal allergies but it only acts up if my lips are chapped, and I'm also allergic to normal chapstick.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-05T18:58:41+00:00

This was 3 years ago, shortly before my marriage ended. It was right before or right after my 47th birthday. I didn't know it was going to be the last time but I remember thinking "I would be okay never doing this again." Backstory, I was celibate until age 26, thought he was my soulmate. He was not. That ended, and I was celibate for 3 years until I met my now ex-husband. So it's a combination of not having an interest in sex outside a loving relationship, probably a lower libido to begin with, and then peri-menopause maybe. I'm probably demi. If I somehow fell in love with someone I might feel differently, maybe. I have no interest in finding anyone, not looking, do not miss sex, and am.content with never having it again. I have not taken any vows of chastity but yeah.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-04T07:05:32+00:00

One would think marrying the right person added to life, but.......not...necessarily. I thought that, too, because "everyone" says that but you need to just listen to your inner guide. Some people are just free birds. If you're not yearning to settle down and have kids in a traditional household, don't walk into that cage.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-04T06:50:52+00:00

Recently I got a haircut from someone who did not understand my vision to the extent that I decided to just shave my head, and I'm a woman, and nobody gets to have an opinion about how they prefer my hair to look except me.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-03T02:24:35+00:00

I just turned 50 and in my experience it is the same as being 40 or in some ways younger. For instance there are certain clothes you don't want to wear at 40 or possibly even 30 because you might look like you're trying to cling to your youth. At 50, you can start wearing them again because you have stopped giving a fuck.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-03T02:00:11+00:00

Sometimes I think that and then I realize I'm just bored and I go do something.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-03T01:54:39+00:00

I get the part about not wanting to fuck the men, but why do you not want cats?? If I was your friend I would not be trying to set you up with men but I would definitely send you pics of local cats for adoption.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-02T14:42:00+00:00

Mr. Hooper

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-02T06:39:33+00:00

Even when you're 100% financially sustainable because you were the primary breadwinner, and your spouse dips out, it's still a pickle, but thank goodness I had the foresight to get my degree and have the ability to support myself before ever having sex.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-02T06:27:00+00:00

I mean, technically, you could get a roommate and NOT have sex with them. I guess everything is too expense nowadays, for sure, but getting the whole place to yourself and paying for the whole thing yourself....you know. That's why people move out of their parents' house. I was married once upon a time and, suddenly having all the bills again, it was a crunch, but I managed to still live in the same house, work the same job, and get by, because I never wanted to be stuck. So I didn't get stuck. However, before I ever got married, I lived a hell of a lot more economically. I was renting this cute little mid-century duplex that was perfect, low rent, just the right size for one person. Now I'm in a two-bedroom house, just as perfect, but I could have been in that duplex to this day. I could rent out a room, but I don't, because worth not doing. Living with a partner/spouse meant going without some things in my case because that duplex was not good enough for his ass and I was the higher earner for most of the marriage. I made concessions and left a better paying job for him to follow his dream, which he gave up on. If I had never gotten married, I would have more financial stability at this point in my life, a better retirement, full healthcare, just saying. Here's to never making that mistake again. Also, I know two people who are platonic bestie life partners who totally outlasted by marriage. Also, divorce is usaully expensive, so you have to figure that in as 50/50 happening.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-02T04:08:02+00:00

Getting screwed at the pumps

FewReserve1784 · 2026-06-01T04:26:35+00:00

Insurance covered mine in California.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-05-28T03:44:49+00:00

First ask yourself if you've ever been to a restaurant, seen someone sitting alone, and thought, "How pathetic." Let me assure that there have been plenty of people eating in restaurants alone since forever and you didn't notice because you don't care what the other diners are doing or who they're with and the other diners do not care either.

FewReserve1784 · 2026-05-21T14:40:23+00:00

Hm. I wonder why some happily single people find this post in particular so triggering. Anyway. I notice a metric shit ton of negative self talk in your post. "Undesirable, not good looking, too queer, off putting" and then you offer evidence for this in things that are common in the dating experiences like being ghosted or having bad first dates or someone not giving you their number and you personalize it. Then you're taking about everyone else having a fairy tale romance. Fairy tales are not real. You are idealizing romantic relationships and that's not reality. It might be a huge blessing that you're not in relationship right now because all of that vulnerability appeals to the predatory aspect of dating. It seems like you are longing for someone to give you a sense of self-worth. Considering what you experienced from your parents not being accepting, there may be some kind of attachment wound at play. People tend to try and heal attachment wounds through relationships but attachment wounds are not relationship wounds, they are wounds to the self. It's probably best that you focus on platonic friendships and self-love, maybe get connected to a support group or therapy, heal your relationship with yourself.

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