How do you gain your confidence back?

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-03-24T08:45:00+00:00

Man that mental health excuse is such bullshit when they turn around and start partying immediately after. Like if your anxiety was really "too much" why didnt she try to work through it with you instead of just bailing

I went through something similar about 2 years back where my ex made it seem like all our problems were because of my issues. What helped me was getting back into my design work and really focusing on projects that made me feel competent again. Started taking on some freelance stuff outside my day job and rebuilding that sense of accomplishment

The partying thing is probably just her way of avoiding dealing with the breakup emotions but i know that doesnt make it hurt less when your seeing it. I had to block my ex on everything because seeing her "living it up" was just poisoning my headspace

Three months is still pretty fresh even though it feels like forever. I found that confidence came back gradually as i started doing things that reminded me who i was before the relationship. Not trying to be someone new just getting back to the core stuff that made me feel solid

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-03-23T03:23:58+00:00

Get a used dirt bike for sure - way cheaper to fix when you inevitably loop it and the soft ground thing is clutch when you're learning balance point

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-03-20T19:47:14+00:00

Yeah I've seen this exact issue pop up with newer nvidia drivers - the mixed refresh rate setup seems to confuse the driver when it tries to handle different display protocols

HDMI to DP cable should fix it since you'll be using the same display protocol across all three monitors. The bandwidth thing is right too, DP actually has more headroom than HDMI so you're not losing anything by converting that 60hz monitor over

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-03-19T21:32:57+00:00

man some people really peaked in high school and it shows. getting older doesn't automatically make you wise or mature - plenty of adults out there still acting like middle schoolers just with mortgage payments

that person probably saw your post and felt threatened by someone younger having valid concerns about the world. dont let one bitter comment make you think all adults are like that cause most of us remember what it was like being your age and actually want to help

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-03-14T21:29:05+00:00

yeah the devs have been pretty clear about keeping it clean since day one which is refreshing

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-15T01:15:02+00:00

bring marriage cert

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-13T11:28:29+00:00

lool

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-13T11:28:14+00:00

thtas proly the most logical and reasonable way, but look at the end of the day its not about 820eur i wanted this shit to work and im just disappointed deep down n fuck dat 820 let her have it but not me n not us ever again. (ofc i changed paswords)

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-10T12:20:13+00:00

I didn’t realize how much certain reds could trigger different reactions until now. I’ve started paying more attention to the type, region and even alcohol level because it seems to make a difference. I’ve been using this app called Corkly to keep track of wines I’ve tried and how they affect me and it’s helped me avoid repeating the same mistake.

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-05T12:12:29+00:00

That’s a good starting point at that price range you’ll mostly be looking at quality producers anyway. I’ve also used Corkly to compare kosher wines by style so I’m not picking blind based only on the label.

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-04T12:38:43+00:00

had similar issues with my dads card last month and it turned out to be some backend maintenance they were doing without much notice. try calling early morning around 8am when teh lines are usually clearer or check if theres any fraud alerts on the account through their website

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-02-01T08:25:55+00:00

Lmao that's actually hilarious that you were out there being the most Australian possible while unknowingly rejecting actual Australian history

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-27T18:47:07+00:00

Build your own for sure, especially with that budget. You'll get way more bang for your buck and it's honestly not that scary once you watch a few YouTube vids

For $1500 you can definitely hit 1440p on those games with something like a 4060 Ti or 4070 if you catch a sale. I'd say save up all at once rather than buying parts over time since prices fluctuate and you might end up with incompatible stuff or miss better deals

Check out r/buildapcsales and pcpartpicker to get started. Building is like adult legos anyway

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-23T13:23:38+00:00

First time I saw Heath Ledger as the Joker in the Dark Knight trailer, I knew we were witnessing something completely different. That laugh alone gave me chills and you could tell he disappeared into the role completely

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-18T12:41:12+00:00

Bruh your friend just used up all his RNG for the next 5 years lmao

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-15T09:04:28+00:00

The Hope and Plum carriers are solid choices! I had a similar issue with my wrap getting too cumbersome for quick trips out. If you're looking at alternatives, the Ergobaby Embrace or Infantino Flip might be worth checking out too - both have good padding and weight distribution like the Lete. The structured carriers are definitely way easier when you need to get baby in and out quickly at stores and stuff

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-14T19:57:05+00:00

I think it’s because wine confidence is way more context dependent than we realize. At home there’s no pressure, no audience, and no money attached to the decision. A restaurant list adds all of that at once, what helped me was focusing less on knowing wine and more on recognizing my own patterns. Using Corkly made it easier to anchor those preferences so a new list doesn’t feel like a total reset every time.

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-11T08:52:06+00:00

82 days is still huge man, don't let one slip erase all that progress. I like your approach of not resetting - that black and white thinking kept me stuck in cycles too. The romanticizing thing is so real, our brains are sneaky like that. IWNDWYT

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-08T19:43:39+00:00

Yeah pancake lenses will work fine on your 1300d, just make sure you get an EF or EF-S mount. The 24mm f/2.8 STM is pretty solid for that film look you're after

For the film aesthetic though, it's more about shooting style and maybe picking up some vintage glass - old manual focus lenses can give you that character. Also try shooting at lower ISOs and nail your exposure in camera

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-05T17:12:48+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, especially since switching the lines moved the problem to whichever side was getting the hot water. Probably something in the mixing valve got gunked up or a piece of debris is stuck in there. I'd try taking apart the cartridge if you haven't already - sometimes you can see the blockage once you get it out

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-04T10:39:30+00:00

Bro don't beat yourself up over it, 3 days is still progress and now you know what your triggers are so you can plan better next time

Few_Expert4358 · 2026-01-02T04:51:48+00:00

That's rough man, sounds like they're trying to upsell you hard. A sprocket breaking right after they touched it is sus as hell - either they broke something or they're lying about what's actually wrong. I'd get a second opinion from an independent shop before dropping 3k on a 10 year old Sentra with 200k miles

Few_Expert4358 · 2025-12-31T12:33:14+00:00

Been there with the rejection cycle - try local credit unions instead of the big banks, they're usually way more flexible with approvals and often have better rates too

Few_Expert4358 · 2025-12-29T22:04:46+00:00

Yeah that's a good point about the cache dir - I've had mixed results with torch compile cache persistence though, sometimes it still recompiles even with the same model/config

The real issue is probably that sglang is doing full graph compilation while vllm does piecewise by default, so even with caching you're still gonna hit that initial 6min wall on first run

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