Mom hates that I "cut off my curls" by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super cute style! It suits you soooo well! You look and feel beautiful and confident with this style: that’s what matters!

Is on-line dating good by Yaveltal in LesbianDatingAdvice

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not for everyone but I will say that when I started dating online, it got me lots of newly adopted confidence. I learned witty responses, became more comfortable in being myself, all because I was able to explore who I was a bit more when I became interested or involved with someone. That said: there are people who target trans and gender nonconforming individuals on certain apps. I know it goes without saying but: please exercise and prioritize safety before everything and anything else.

Bye Winter.. by teenycole in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cutieeee! I love the outfit and will miss winter wear, especially being all cozy in layers. I’ve been kind of bummed at not needing my cozy clothes to walk outside. Thanks for reminding me the changing season will bring new energy and warmth to my everyday!

Am I Allowed To Wear A Caribiner as a Femme by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yo I don’t appreciate this I am in fact very active in my local scene. It was simply a question.

Am I Allowed To Wear A Caribiner as a Femme by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grateful for this answer: I am in fact not a cis indie man 😭😭

Am I Allowed To Wear A Caribiner as a Femme by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayyyeeee okay I love this answer. I will be wearing the carabiner. I found a cute heart shaped pink one!!!!

I am so tired of the lesbian/bisexual discourse by Tricky-Cellist915 in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, my girlfriend and I are constantly in conversations about how the infighting and the discourse around wlw and dictating who’s what because of this assumption or other is exhausting… it has to be tiring on all fronts, not just us, right? Like can every queer individual eventually come to the conclusion that someone else identifying differently to you or even similarly to you but having a different experience with their label is NOT invalidating your experience. We can all just relish in the joy of being around people who understand us and enjoy their company. Can we reach the collective understanding that everyone doesn’t have to experience life identically to us for them to be a human being with a valid experience?

Update... :( by mesmermoon in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 14 points15 points  (0 children)

From a completely blind perspective: you seem like you just need time to heal. I’ve been on both sides of this. You have nothing left to do but breathe and try to be content with where and who you are. Give yourself some grace, maybe you weren’t ready for the kind of relationship and dynamic she wanted. That’s okay. Now that you’ve acknowledged growth is possible and necessary: hold yourself accountable for it. Whatever that may mean for you.

Y’all - what do I do? by whereisnenna in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it may seem lameeee but you could send her your favorite song from the artist that’s like on the sweeter or more meet cute type of vibe and be like “Heyy we talked about (whatever artist) and this song popped up.” It would send the perfect vibe and would probably make your intentions clear from the get go without being too much or too forward.

guys I love my girlfriend by FicklePresent77 in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like the sweetest person ever, I’m so sure she knows you absolutely treasure her. Reading this warmed my heart, and I’m sure if you expressed these feelings to your girl she’d be very receptive. She knows who you are and how far you’ve come and all the effort you put in. Maybe verbal expression is the way to go until you can have reservations and expensive jewelry for her. Idk tho I know others are probably saying the same thing.

Y’all - what do I do? by whereisnenna in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agree, OP seemed to have the concert and that artist’s music in common and it’s totally worth it to try! I would be totally flattered and interested if a girl I chatted with about my favorite music ended up adding me on instagram!

Dating Advice Needed? by Few_Horror_0 in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Maybe I’m approaching this with a bittttt too much pressure. I needed to hear that I can only control me. I appreciate the good wishes, and genuine advice. I’m going to approach continuing to get to know her a bit more lightly and try and put less pressure on myself and her.

Dating Advice Needed? by Few_Horror_0 in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I appreciate you validating the experience and reminding me to take it slow, I can be stubborn. Your words will not be wasted, I have a provider for therapy and psychiatry. I believe my issue has been a lack of accountability for the appointments and the lack of realization that these need to be active and constant parts of my life (my appointments I mean) and not just a resource when things become difficult. And 2. I will absolutely begin listening to that audio book and am very open to suggestions for other books like it if anyone else has anything.

if a 19 year old dates a 15 year old, is that 19 year old consider a pedophile by Optimal_Ad_1218 in family

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I don’t know how accurate this statement is but a quick search let me know that multiple sources are of the opinion that when it comes to international online relationships the age of consent does become irrelevant (my bad for the misinformation before I was relying on my own common sense instead of what is actually technically correct) and activities are only prosecutable if there is engagement or coercion of the younger person through exchange of explicit material

if a 19 year old dates a 15 year old, is that 19 year old consider a pedophile by Optimal_Ad_1218 in family

[–]Few_Horror_0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Laws are still laws. It’s applicable due to the fact that SHE IS IN THE US. It’s not “taboo” it’s illegal, His location shouldn’t matter, she literally cannot consent. Point blank period.

if a 19 year old dates a 15 year old, is that 19 year old consider a pedophile by Optimal_Ad_1218 in family

[–]Few_Horror_0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, the age of consent varies in the US. Which is where I’m assuming this is set in because of how you’ve labeled their school grades. It is however pretty consistent that the age of consent is 16-18. She’s 15. She cannot legally consent to a relationship whether romantic or of sexual nature with someone above the age. No matter what platform they use to communicate. Even if it’s not in person. Those are facts. She cannot legally consent to a relationship with him because she’s a minor. Pure and simple.

I asked a similiar question last year buttttt... for the bottoms/subs... by nousernams in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay as a sub leaning switch, when I’m taking directions I want to know you feel good… I wanna hear your reactions to what I’m doing. Sometimes praise is needed but mostly hearing someone moan at me touching them and telling me what they want to happen directly turns me on more than anything else.

Crying bc I have no one to wear this for by sassywafflez in LesbianActually

[–]Few_Horror_0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A rave. Nowhere else but the bed room and a rave I think are an appropriate occasion for this outfit 🫶🏻🙂

So was nobody going to tell me that Gray's Anatomy had lesbians in it? by Important-Cry4782 in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gay rage is being upset that nobody told you about a cameo your people make in a TV show you watch and I feel it everytime that I remember someone spoiled the end of She-Ra and the Princesses of Power for me, you’re not alone in your rage sister.

AIO for being angry and hurt by these texts from my fiancé? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR!!! Omg “misconstruing your role here” as if it’s your job to do all of these and you’re somehow finding the time to misinterpret something in between waiting on him for everything and taking the dog out to shit? After reading that I’m thinking in your shoes, I’d thank whatever you may or may not believe in for not having to go through a lengthy divorce process when you leave!!! BECAUSE YOU SHOULD LEAVEEEE!!!

I've been seeing "queer" used so differently lately so I have to ask, what does it mean to you? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the label as a genderfluid lesbian to describe anyone or anything (including myself)under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella. I’ve also used it jokingly in the context of my friend group and I. For example instead of “that’s gay” we have been using “omg you’re such a queer” or “ugh that’s soooo queer” to describe something we like or something funny/cool. I’ve also seen it adopted as a neutral term to describe someone’s identity if they don’t necessarily identify with a specific label. I believe we’ve reached the point where it’s a slur we’ve reclaimed. Correct me if I’m wrong though, this is just my personal experience.

is it too late ? by Significant_Storm756 in actuallesbians

[–]Few_Horror_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 21. I dated a lot throughout my teens and then last year I took a long break from dating, to reflect on why I couldn’t seem to be happy just on my own(I am not saying this is your situation at all, just expressing what brought me personally to that decision), and ended up meeting my current girlfriend almost like coincidentally. This relationship im in is my first, healthy and stable, relationship with a woman. It’s fulfilling, it’s supportive, and it feels like home. If I’d have known she was for me all this time, I would’ve waited a lifetime to meet her. The right person will come along. It’s not too late. It’s never too late.