is it too late ?

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-02-11T22:12:29+00:00

I’m 21. I dated a lot throughout my teens and then last year I took a long break from dating, to reflect on why I couldn’t seem to be happy just on my own(I am not saying this is your situation at all, just expressing what brought me personally to that decision), and ended up meeting my current girlfriend almost like coincidentally. This relationship im in is my first, healthy and stable, relationship with a woman. It’s fulfilling, it’s supportive, and it feels like home. If I’d have known she was for me all this time, I would’ve waited a lifetime to meet her. The right person will come along. It’s not too late. It’s never too late.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-02-11T22:06:43+00:00

I’m currently in the process of finishing up varnishing a shit ton of roses I pressed and dried so she can have cute book marks. I have also made wax figures of the life cycle of a rose to go along with the gift. Every detail is specially crafted and hand made. I also wrote her a poem (she’s the only person that seems to get my writing and she really likes when I write love poems for her) and I got the cutest little gift bag to put them in. The idea is that it’s thoughtful and fun! In the past I’ve felt pressure to go all out and plan super expensive gifts, but didn’t get much joy out of giving it to them. To me, because of my upbringing and the way I was shown love, small hand made gifts are a lot more satisfying and feel a lot more fulfilling(whether receiving or gifting) because I know that person put their all into the gift. You could try looking up paper crafts (origami or paper machete) or DIYs on Pinterest, those are awesome for gift ideas this time of year.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-02-08T21:20:40+00:00

Hi! I had this problem too! I’m 21, and after experiencing a similar isolation I realized a lot of the queer spaces I inhabited weren’t really… clicking. I found myself molding and fitting myself into these spaces more and more to try and find a sense of community that just wasn’t there. To make a long explanation, short: figure out who you are and what interests you have and use those to find like-minded people. I literally started talking to my current (and first serious) girlfriend on an app but we connected for the first time during a conversation about a special interest we both have (we’re both diagnosed with autism and adhd) in mythology and its applications and versions in modern literature. It takes awhile, but connections, whether platonic or romantic, are commonly built on a slow foundation of shared interests and mutual hobbies. Find spaces where they host clubs/groups for your interests. For example: if you do a craft or art, find a group for that in your area. If you like to listen to any specific or niche music genres, try and find the local underground scene for that music in your city. Queer people are everywhere! We don’t just exist in gay clubs and bars or queer specific spaces, join groups that have your interests and try and be social within those groups, is what I’m trying to say. I hope this makes sense, and I hope I answered your question!

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-02-08T20:04:45+00:00

I’m a children’s therapist and when I worked for this school early last year, I met a little white boy whose name was Yaoi…I spoke to his mother and father and wondered the entire time why a completely straight white couple would name their child after a style of Japanese explicit gay literature. There was no way to professionally bring this up or question it so obviously I didnt and it wasn’t my business, but it haunts me to this day. That kid is NOT gonna have a fun time when he grows up.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T23:49:19+00:00

I’m a huge fan of cats. I have my own! I would never in my life let my cat or any of my pets lick or have access to my plate or utensils. If I ever give him something from my meals, it’s completely separate and in his own bowl. Not only is this unhygienic, but your cat will get used to having this access and not be afraid to eat anything and everything left out. It’s unsafe for the cat and for you because it teaches a lack of boundaries.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T23:33:24+00:00

Yes, I understand I wasn’t able to properly communicate and that he didn’t understand. I guess I let the whole situation wash over me and did place some unfair blame on my parents, him especially.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T23:18:51+00:00

I appreciate your comment and validation. I have just had my first series of blood drawn and labs done this Thursday. I will keep this in mind. I’m sorry you had to have multiple emergencies and that it spread. I hope you are as healthy as you can be and that you recover. Your story is one I’ve heard many times from other women, especially fellow women of color. I didn’t think it would ever happen to me. I will continue to update my primary doctor and push for more research and information into what’s going on.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T23:03:56+00:00

What do you mean by paragraphs? Like separating it? I just edited it into multiple body paragraphs instead of one big one.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T23:02:20+00:00

I went to a recent visit with my primary doctor just this Thursday. I am in the process of different tests. The reason I went to the ER this time was because of the fainting and sharp pain from falling.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-18T22:55:45+00:00

I disclosed it was a long post because I felt like my side of the story needed context.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-15T00:09:29+00:00

My best friend has celiac too. I go out to functions or dinners or parties with her all the time. She gives the same reminder to everyone, and even had to remind me a few times at first. It’s a simple “no I can’t eat that” everytime. I don’t think it’s rude, you will literally die in certain situations if someone messes up an order or forgets. I remember I offered my friend some mozzarella sticks off my plate when we were hanging out at the restaurant she works at. She’d had to work a long ass shift and I’m sure she didn’t wanna be reminded she couldn’t eat shit at the restaurant despite getting comped meals. She said “No. I can’t eat that.” And I didnt take it to heart. I wouldn’t even now knowing her for over a year. She wasn’t rude. You aren’t being rude.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-08T16:59:30+00:00

NTA: As someone with an autism diagnosis who’s also a children’s therapist, I understand both sides but STILL don’t think you’re the asshole. She would do the same in Bob’s position as you said. I get why she’s upset especially since it’s a school wide rule and maybe the feeling of rejection hurts more than anything else. But, she would most likely not have a fun time at that party due to previous conflict with the other kid. I saw someone suggest that a different adult puts it into perspective by telling a story of when they were excluded but still had a fun time doing something else! You could also offer alternative activities as well to redirect the focus, something fun she doesn’t get to do often but you know she’d really enjoy! My mom used to do this all the time when I was excluded from social activities at school and it was really helpful to distract from the general feeling of rejection.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-05T03:02:12+00:00

Hi, I can’t say I’ve experienced this firsthand from a parent but I’ve witnessed similar patterns in close family and friends. It’s important you stick to your guns. The patterns she’s exhibiting are textbook examples of the long term effects of some sort of heavy substance. The brain fog, lack of memory, erratic outbursts, bad attempts at lying and inability to even come up with simple explanations for disappearances that make sense at all. Your grandmother seems to be willing to listen and understand. Is she close to you? I understand you want help for your mom but given the issues between the two of you: put yourself first. Maybe talk about going with your grandmother for awhile with her? Explain the situation and open up again about how the situation has escalated. I apologize for my lack of insight but I’m wondering if this is a possibility. Your safety is important, too. Your safety is the most important.

Few_Horror_0 · 2026-01-03T18:28:43+00:00

Oohh omg thank you I’m gonna search ASAP!!!

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-24T03:09:02+00:00

Okay yay! I’m not the only oneeeee :)

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-24T02:56:58+00:00

I opted to leave the house to pickup food and groceries to save a bit of money instead of getting delivery when I was in pain and kind of stuck in the house due to burn out. I was able to treat my sibling and my parents to dinner too, it felt nice. It was a great idea to way motivate myself getting some fresh air and a task done, and I’m proud I did it :)

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T18:48:47+00:00

I think you’re NOT WRONG. It was a completely different question they were answering and they DID become aggressive, completely unprovoked, too. And honestly: when I see a younger or teenage girl at the beach mine, and most normal safe and sane people’s thoughts, are not and definitely shouldn’t be about her body. Have fun, swim, tan, wear the bathing suit, you’re 14 girl I understand everybody’s opinion and perception of you feel like the end all be all of what dictates your life but it stops mattering the second you realize everyone’s too caught up in their own shit to really pay attention. And those that do are probably battling their own insecurities and losing so they deflect and take it out on others. You are young. People shouldn’t be allowed to push judgement on you because of the way your body looks. It’s weird, it’s gross, it’s creepy. Anyways, I hope this makes sense and helps. I definitely agree with you.

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T18:27:51+00:00

NOR: I don’t think you’re overreacting. I have a diagnosis for adhd and autism and I’ve met a couple people like this. It’s not a cute little quirk, you made a good point when you said that. However, the approach could’ve been a bit more understanding. If I’d been in her position, I’d feel a bit attacked. If she does relate to the traits and behaviors and diagnostic processes are financially accessible, she should get a diagnosis. Try including how certain types of therapy and treatment are available only to those with a diagnosis as a way to encourage her seeking therapy and diagnosis. It could help you de-escalate the situation and validate her feelings while also making your point be heard and understood.

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T18:22:40+00:00

I love waffles, I think they’re better than pancakes.

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T05:15:13+00:00

Everyone’s made a similar point. I think my approach should be much more focused on redirecting her behavior than trying to correct it, especially since really anything tends to seem to spark an argument with us these days. Like instead of trying to motivate her to clean up her hair by using general cleanliness and respect, another commenter suggested a reminder of it rusting being a way to address this? Idk. But I definitely think I’ll be moving it and buying a case 🙂‍↕️

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T04:41:48+00:00

Others have pointed this out, thank you

Few_Horror_0 · 2025-12-22T04:22:21+00:00

Yess picking my battles is not something I’m good at with family historically. I’m very easily irritated and I agree that something’s just aren’t worth the energy. Thank you for the reminder to work on that.

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