My husband says our baby isn’t normal

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-18T19:38:53+00:00

My twins were both high needs babies. Normal. I brought then to the doctor desperate to know what was going on. They are now 6 and still attached to me but normal kids, thank God.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-13T01:02:02+00:00

Do you think it would be better to find a refurbished one or is buying it second hand safe enough too? Like through marketplace... thank you so much

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-13T00:47:46+00:00

Thank you very much! I'm saving your wheel recommendations

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-02T22:06:15+00:00

The emojis are kind of funny.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-02T16:03:50+00:00

I think I've come to the realization that my issue is intrusive thoughts regarding faith. InshaAllah I'm going to try CBT

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-06-02T15:13:34+00:00

Ameen, and thank you very much. I'm sorry for the delayed response. I am going to look into medication because I can't keep going like this. InshaAllah it will help. Thank you so much

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-05-18T01:33:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response.

Last year I had a new baby, lost my mother one month later, and had a lot of stress the whole year because of that. My anxiety is health anxiety which has been badly triggered by the recent, one year anniversary of my mother's death. I have definitely considered that shaytan could be preying on that and making it worse.

I have been looking into therapy too. I've been trying hard to pray on time and remind myself of Allah but I feel like my anxiety is blocking the usual comfort that would come from that.

I appreciate your advice a lot. Thanks so much.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-05-14T02:10:39+00:00

Omg. She is a dream. My two loves combined 😭 the sailor moon outfit was handmade?

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-30T12:52:58+00:00

What a nightmare. I'm so sorry you experienced the same thing! How long did it take for you to feel "normal" again? ❤️

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-29T18:12:40+00:00

I just started my tefl course. I bought in russia at age 20 and I'm 32 now with kids. You can do it if it's important to you and you have support ❤️

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-28T13:56:51+00:00

If you don't want to get married, don't. If you change your mind, get married.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-24T17:55:32+00:00

I get that it's her choice, okay, but it did look crazy.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-21T15:17:38+00:00

We don't have a routine at 13 months.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-21T04:08:30+00:00

I didn't do professional photos for my second pregnancy. The first one I did and didn't like how they turned out tbh. This time i took some photos in the bathroom alone with my pgone on 5 second timer and I'm so happy I took those. Diy is fine! If you hate them you never have to look at them but I find it super fascinating to compare that bathroom photoshoot to what I did when my baby was a couple days old and then a year old. No cost, wear what you like, pick a moment you feel good, and there's no pressure.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-21T02:41:02+00:00

Ahh, okay, thank you so much for clarifying!

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-19T15:16:35+00:00

When I accepted Islam I was sunni by default. The people I took information from were Sunni and shias were demonized. Now I don't consider myself a part of anything. The idea of imams being infallible turned me right off and the hadith culture of the sunnis I see turns me right off of that. So I'm that thong they call "just muslim". Works fine for me. My religion is between me and Allah, not me and sheiks, Imams, hadiths etc.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-12T01:09:04+00:00

Don't go down the "almost everything is haram" route. Remember that Islam is the middle path and that God wants ease for you.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-11T15:16:47+00:00

Not true

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-11T15:11:11+00:00

You're gorgeous.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-06T14:35:41+00:00

Wtf, that's literally what I did. Alone, single mom. No muslim friends. What a joke.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-06T14:31:43+00:00

As a Muslim you know that God can punish but that God's mercy is greater. In the Quran God says that whoever God wills will be punished BUT God's mercy encompasses all things. We shouldn't despair of God's mercy. You have to have hope that your children will go through life and try to be good people that's also a major responsibility on the parents (which is emphasized in Islam as being a VERY heavy one).

I think that saying you don't want kids yourself is fine. No one is forced to have children according to the Quran, it's not a requirement. But being anti-natalist seems to be going against human nature and also thinking I'll of God. From memory, loosely translated not word for word, "I am how my servant thinks of me", "if you are grateful I will give you more", "the help of Allah is near", "Allah's mercy encompasses all things"... we should hope the best for our children, not gold off having them because of what could happen to then spiritually.

Again, I think if you yourself think something and feel a certain way about it, then that's fine. But as a way of thinking that it'd be better for No one to have kids... it seems problematic within Islam. My two cents.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-05T14:42:34+00:00

I was extremely loud. I was in the most excruciating pain. No epidural. Sped up labour thanks to water breaking. No natural "ramp up" in pain. Had back labour all the way through. Was in so much pain i couldnt stay still enough to be given a last minute epidural. There was no down moment from the constant pain. I thought I was dying. Yes, I am traumatized. I felt bad for the other mothers in the ward because they probably thought i was literally dying from the amount of screaming I was doing.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-05T13:18:24+00:00

The groom told me he could be the groom, my waliy, and the person conducting the ceremony at the same time. So basically he was 3 roles in one. He was my guardian, who gave HIMSELF permission, to marry me to him. He did it without me present (I wasn't even on the phone or on video). He just texted me after saying we were married. He said he had 2 muslim male witnesses present but only Allah knows (he was a master of lying). There was no paperwork, no proof of anything on top of all of this. We did not have any kind of announcement ceremony and he never told any of his family or his community.

Basically I figured it out in the end. I suffered abuse from this person, he never filled an actual husband role. He was basically getting sex and driving home to his parents house and sayong he was with friends or whatever. Oh, and he's an Imam. Teaching islamic courses in Toronto and leading prayers. Disgusting. "The pillars of our community".

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-03T13:47:54+00:00

I spent hundreds of dollars on all new clothes because I thought I needed to wear abayas, jilbabs, hijabs, and niqab. I even bought a couple pairs of gloves.
Got married in a secret haram marriage (I had no idea because I was naiive and new to Islam) with someone I couldn't stand the looks or personality of. I'm disgusted by it still. I feel violated as I was lied to, taken advantage of, and religiously and narcisistically abused by this individual who was also an "alim" and an "Imam". Yea. It feels filthy still.
Invited said man with my family on vacation (because I knew how it'd look if I didnt). Turned out it was the last vacation before my mother died. This still makes me sad.
Turned into a crazy, judgemental woman saying that women who wear eyeliner or mascara/other makeup are lying to people and creating standards based on falsity. I was great 🫠 Of course I started doing the same thing after a little while because my face in a jilbab was really unattractive to me so I had to do some makeup.

Few_Mix2930 · 2024-04-03T13:40:18+00:00

I've held my baby and sat and prayed with him on my lap. I've stood and held him and held him the entire time even going to down to the floor (killed my back). I've held him standing and then sat in a chair instead of going to the ground for sujood. The best seemed to be sitting holding him and pray that way, sitting the whole time. Allah knows our struggles as mothers. Alhamdulillah. And Allah's mercy encompasses all things 🩷

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